Failed 1st cycle IVF yesterday, 1 frozen left!

[psp2011]

Hello all!
I am new to this site so here is some quick background. I was dx in 2002 with endo and blocked tubes. Had to have Rt ovary removed also due to scarring from endo. After that I had a successful IVF giving us a son (1 out of 3 put in). So greatful for him btw!
Now we have decided to try again. I just started another round of IVF where they transferred 3 and got the news yesterday that it failed. I have one good one they were able to freeze. I am switching docs since we weren't very happy with the old one. (He misdiagnosed me with having cysts, put me on birth control for 2 weeks, was about to do surgery until his associate did a u/s and found I have hydro and it was just my tube!) Grrr!
I will be going to see that new doc in about a week to start again with the last frozen one.
I guess just looking for some support. Feeling sad and defeated, while trying to hope that this last one will work. We don't have the $ for another full round and not sure I am up for doing it all over again :'(

 

[raf-wife]

so sorry your going through this hun, i know how it feels, my one and only go failed a couple of weeks ago and its devastating, i think you are making the right decision to go elsewhere if your not happy with your current fs and hopefully your frosty will work, im no longer ttc but im still on here often and im happy to help/listen

 

[psp2011]

raf-wife, thanks for responding, so sorry your attempt was unsuccessful as well I think I was so spoiled with our first that this one kind of caught me off guard. DH doesn't quite get my grief, he is more mad about the loss of money and is sad for me more than anything. It was my idea and need to have another child that began all of this again for us and he is just trying to make me happy. He is just fine with having our one while I am still wanting another.
Are you unable to try anymore IVF? Where are you in the thoughts of adoption? My DH has always said he could never do adoption while I think so many kids need families...
Sending hugs to you and thanks again for the support.

 

[raf-wife]

i just dont think i have it in me to try anymore it will be 9yrs ttc#2 in october it was also risky physically to do this one because of my medical history, im thinking about adoption me and dh are both open to the idea but it will be a while before we do anything about it if we decide to go ahead, i think we need a few holidays and a break from it all first,

I think its different for men my dh was obviously upset it didnt work but i feel like i have suffered a loss, i think the trouble is as a women the instant the embies go inside you feel attached and like you are pregnant already

 

[psp2011]

Yeah, I agree. As we are literally attached! or trying to be anyway! Wow, you have been trying for 9 years! That is a long time. I don't think I could do it for that long. I am already worried that I am approaching 35 next year and with that comes the decrease in chance it will work.
A break for you would probably be good for you both. I think that if my one and only frosty doesn't take, I'm going to try and step back for a bit. I won't have a choice though as most likely we will not have the money to do another round until next year anyway.
Good luck to you and let me know how you are doing.