February 2015 Rainbows

[RaspberryK]

I had a private scan last time and everything was fine butthe baby died shortly after and I didn't know till 11 weeks. Id really rather know than think I was pregnant for a month without knowing anything was wrong.
Xx

So sorry

Whilst a scan doesn't affect the outcome the total lack of care we get in the NHS system is really disgraceful. All these years paying into it and the only time I've ever needed it I got nothing. When I had my MC I learned what to expect from a thread on mumsnet, got absolutely nothing from the doctors

Maybe I'll book a private scan for next weekend, when my partner is home from work.

I agree the nhs are disgraceful when it comes to early pregnancy.
Xx

 

[3chords]

Hi guys, I hope that I can join you. I am due around Feb 1 (slight difference in transfer dates and what I am measuring now so let's stick with that date).

I am basically living in fear every single day due to what happened last time. We lost #1 in September 2013, would have been due in mid-May. Not only am I terrified due to the prior loss but also because for this pregnancy our betas were REALLY low, although doubling each time and eventually really taking off huge. But if you read a lot of studies, they say that low betas have poor outcomes, so here I am still freaking out. Not to mention, we did IVF and were hoping to do a 5 day transfer but then had to do a 3 day transfer because all of our embryos were very slow to develop (were given chances of less than 20%). It has been such a rollercoaster ride.

I had one scan at 7 weeks which went well, measuring right in the middle 50% percentile for size and heartbeat so that was unexpectedly good news. Now living in terror until next Friday when we have our 10 week scan. I am a bit mad at myself that I am not enjoying this pregnancy AT ALL, in fact most days I don't think of myself as pregnant, just to prepare for the worst.

 

[anxious mommy]

Hey, 3chords. So sorry for your loss. And I had a similar period between weeks 5 and 7 as I ovulated late and it looked like a mmc at my first scan. Now we share due dates. I'm super anxious, too even though my betas were promising and we had a perfect heartbeat at 7w2ds. Now I'm 8w3ds and eagerly awaiting my next appointment at 13 weeks. We can be nervous buddies. Wishing you luck and sticky baby dust.

 

[NorthStar]

To the UK ladies who have booked private scans - do you have to take your handheld notes with you? The nearest place to me says that you do but we don't get them here until after the 12 week scan!

I'm hoping EPAU will take pity on me anyway as they were so good when I miscarried, it seems to be such a postcode lottery!! x

^^What raspberryk said.

My NHS EPAU wouldn't scan me until 2 weeks after my MC, they would have left me in limbo that long, and only because I kicked up absolute hell to get in for a scan at all after the woman was a complete bitch to me on the phone

I got no information on MC from the NHS AT ALL, I wasn't kidding when I said a thread on mumsnet told me what to expect and what to do

As for an early scan, they don't even answer the phone there so I wouldn't bother asking.

I'll go to Nuffield Private again, they don't ask for NHS notes, if there's one in your area they charge £100 for the scan.

 

[savvysaver]

My quick update! I had my first ultrasound today and I was super surprised when the tech told me I was having twins! My wish came true! Hubby almost passed out and I asked the tech about a dozen times if there was really two. Baby A measured 7w0d with a heartbeat of 138 and Baby B measured 7w1d with a heartbeat of 130. She told me they both looked good.

 

[confuzion]

Oh my gosh savvy!!!! That's amazing congrats!! I was always wishing for twins lol but don't think it would ever happen.

3chords - I've seen you other places. Congrats on the successful IVF! I've seen many many many people with low betas to start have successful pregnancies. I think seeing a heartbeat and measuring well is a great sign! Sounds like you've got your rainbow. Welcome and congrats!

 

[Venus13]

Hi ladies, it's almost 3 am and as everyone is asleep this is the only place I can go to.

I had a horrible night mare, my period came and it was all over, it was so real. When I woke up I was so relieved it was a dream. However here I'm sitting watching TV as I am unable to sleep, but something else has happened, my nausea, which has been terrible and constant even as I sleep, is gone. Nothing there. When I would wake up in the middle of the night before it was there sitting here, nothing. I have such a horrible feeling about this. I feel completely not pregnant.

So worrying as this is what happened whe I had my miscarriage, my nausea stopped that's how I knew something was wrong.

I can't do anything about it at this time of the night!

 

[Venus13]

My quick update! I had my first ultrasound today and I was super surprised when the tech told me I was having twins! My wish came true! Hubby almost passed out and I asked the tech about a dozen times if there was really two. Baby A measured 7w0d with a heartbeat of 138 and Baby B measured 7w1d with a heartbeat of 130. She told me they both looked good.

This is wonderful news! Not one but two miracles! Love the ultrasound pic! Congratulations.

 

[confuzion]

venus - please don't worry. Symptoms come and go. I'm sure your nausea will come back. I personally haven't had any nausea at all . Don't know if it means anything bad yet. I guess I'll find out in a few weeks.

 

[Venus13]

Hi guys, I hope that I can join you. I am due around Feb 1 (slight difference in transfer dates and what I am measuring now so let's stick with that date).

I am basically living in fear every single day due to what happened last time. We lost #1 in September 2013, would have been due in mid-May. Not only am I terrified due to the prior loss but also because for this pregnancy our betas were REALLY low, although doubling each time and eventually really taking off huge. But if you read a lot of studies, they say that low betas have poor outcomes, so here I am still freaking out. Not to mention, we did IVF and were hoping to do a 5 day transfer but then had to do a 3 day transfer because all of our embryos were very slow to develop (were given chances of less than 20%). It has been such a rollercoaster ride.

I had one scan at 7 weeks which went well, measuring right in the middle 50% percentile for size and heartbeat so that was unexpectedly good news. Now living in terror until next Friday when we have our 10 week scan. I am a bit mad at myself that I am not enjoying this pregnancy AT ALL, in fact most days I don't think of myself as pregnant, just to prepare for the worst.

Hi there,

They talk about the two week wait, but that's nothing compared to the wait until the 7 week, then the 10 week and finally the 12 week wait!

It's so hard, I sitting here awake because of a dream, a feeling and a lack of certain symptoms! I should be sleeping, ignoring all of this and just being patient.

What you have gone through is so big that it is so normal to be worrying and reacting this way.

Just remember what's happening and what will happen in there is beyond your control and that even though the chances of miscarriage in the first 12 weeks are high, the chances of having a normal and to term pregnancy are higher! So you are in the group with the better odds!

Good luck and keep us posted.

 

[Venus13]

venus - please don't worry. Symptoms come and go. I'm sure your nausea will come back. I personally haven't had any nausea at all . Don't know if it means anything bad yet. I guess I'll find out in a few weeks.

Thanks Confuzion, it's so hard, like I was saying to someone else, the two week wait was peanuts compared to this wait!

My nausea has been so so so bad and constant, I really don't feel good about it not being here. Also last night I had a massive appetite which hasn't happened in two weeks.

Well my scan is Friday so we will find out then.

You lucky you haven't had nausea, when is your scan?

 

[savvysaver]

Thanks girls...we are shocked. Ever since I was a little girl I always wanted twins but I never thought I would get that lucky.

Venus, thinking of you and sending positive thoughts. I am at 7 weeks and have not had any nausea yet. Just sore bbs, heartburn and some GI issues.

 

[confuzion]

Well that's actually a relief to hear savvy. I'm also 7 weeks and I have the same symptoms. I've tried not to let it bother me but it's really been bothering me.

venus - my scan is July 15 at 9w6d

 

[savvysaver]

confuzion, I forgot to add that I am extremely tired. I sleep like 8-9 hours a night and then need a 1-2 hour nap midday. I am also scared of vomiting so I am hoping MS doesn't hit me too bad...

edit - how do you add the "spoiler" to your signature? I would love to have one.

 

[confuzion]

Yeah I'm super tired. I nap every day. It's the only way not to yawn my way through the day. I pee A LOT. My breasts are killing me. My BMs are...inconsistent . I have some weird food aversions--can't get myself to eat eggs . But just not feeling nausea...wish I was though. It would be reassuring.

 

[Venus13]

Yeah I'm super tired. I nap every day. It's the only way not to yawn my way through the day. I pee A LOT. My breasts are killing me. My BMs are...inconsistent . I have some weird food aversions--can't get myself to eat eggs . But just not feeling nausea...wish I was though. It would be reassuring.

Confuzion, not everyone gets nausea, so don't worry, we drive ourselves mad with the symptoms and wish we had them all! But be grateful you don't have nausea, it's horrible. Even though I don't actually vomit, my whole day I just feel like I have a really bad hangover or sea sick. It's actually stopped me from doing things including work. It feels like you are always about vomit, even wakes me. Oh and mine makes me eat to take the nausea away so I'm gaining weight!

Are you generally prone to nausea? Like travel sickness or sensitive to lack of sleep? Normally they say of you get nausea easily you will most likely get it during pregnancy, but every pregnancy is different.

 

[confuzion]

No not at all. I've never gotten motion sickness or anything. The last time I threw up was when I was miscarrying my MMC #2. I was in a lot of pain and hemorrhaging a lot and it made me throw up. Other than that, I really can't remember the time before that when I had any sickness. Lol so maybe I am just one of those people. I hope so!

 

[Venus13]

No not at all. I've never gotten motion sickness or anything. The last time I threw up was when I was miscarrying my MMC #2. I was in a lot of pain and hemorrhaging a lot and it made me throw up. Other than that, I really can't remember the time before that when I had any sickness. Lol so maybe I am just one of those people. I hope so!

Exactly! If you one that's not prone to nausea chances are you won't get morning sickness.

I'm still sitting here hoping it will come back, it's really worrying, I have had it non stop wish I would just have a little wave of it, just a sign

 

[confuzion]

I hope it comes back enough to reassure you .

 

[jmandrews]

Congrats again savy!!!! So excited for you!!! Glad your dream of two came true.