xxshellsxx
Mummy to miracle twins x
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I'm very jealous of your baby registry and baby shower over in the US - we don't do that here. Usually work colleagues club together and buy a few bits you receive when you go on maternity leave. I'm lucky in that my mum is paying for my pram, my gran has offered to pay for my steriliser and my sister insisted on buying both moses baskets. None of them had to do that, and i appreciate it so much with double of most items to buy!
I already have most of my bits now - just the cots and mattress' to buy when next months pay comes in and then it's just adding to the vests, sleep suits, blankets, lotions and potions that we already have.
Time to start clearing out the room that will be the babies room (i still think it needs to be the bigger spare room we have but DH is ADAMANT that this one will work lol <<< it won't! lol)
GDEF - i can kind of relate to some of what you are going through with the demanding MIL. DH's brother passed away of leukaemia when he was just 22 years old, he was the eldest sibling (B/B/G) and it hit everyone hard, especially his mum. This happened when DH was only 17/18 years old. His mum has suffered from depression ever since and she also turned to alcohol! She has attempted suicide 3 times... but always calls someone to tell them she has done it, so we know it's a cry for help - help she then refuses! DH moved 30 miles away to live with me.... oh then it became fun! The phone calls, the guilt trip, she was so nasty it got to the point that he would turn his phone off just so he didn't have to listen to her anymore. She would always say she wished he had died and his brother had lived
Can you imagine how that made him feel?? He had no self esteem when i met him and i could see why!! He always had a job, but didn't always live his life the right way - he turned to pub to get away from her, he met the wrong women who also used him for her own gain and had 2 kids with her (he adores his sons don't get me wrong).
His mum never saw the effect her behaviour had on him - my 6ft, strapping man would be reduced to a sobbing wreck with the things she said to him. She would apologise the next day when she would read the messages on her phone!
Now, he's a confident man who now runs is own business (as well as a day job) with my backing and pushing him to follow his dreams - he is a very well known person in our business circles and one of the top to be booked, he makes me so very proud, i knew he had it in him!
Thankfully since he stood up to her after her last episode and told her if it happens again he would never see her again things have been much better and *touch wood* since she switched her drink and cut back to a couple of social days a week she has been much better.
DH needs to make a stand - can he arrange to visit maybe one or two evenings a week to do the 'jobs' she needs doing? find a mutually agreeable time and day(s) you can spare him. Either way i hope things sort themselves out soon before it escalates into anything more x
I already have most of my bits now - just the cots and mattress' to buy when next months pay comes in and then it's just adding to the vests, sleep suits, blankets, lotions and potions that we already have.
Time to start clearing out the room that will be the babies room (i still think it needs to be the bigger spare room we have but DH is ADAMANT that this one will work lol <<< it won't! lol)
GDEF - i can kind of relate to some of what you are going through with the demanding MIL. DH's brother passed away of leukaemia when he was just 22 years old, he was the eldest sibling (B/B/G) and it hit everyone hard, especially his mum. This happened when DH was only 17/18 years old. His mum has suffered from depression ever since and she also turned to alcohol! She has attempted suicide 3 times... but always calls someone to tell them she has done it, so we know it's a cry for help - help she then refuses! DH moved 30 miles away to live with me.... oh then it became fun! The phone calls, the guilt trip, she was so nasty it got to the point that he would turn his phone off just so he didn't have to listen to her anymore. She would always say she wished he had died and his brother had lived
Can you imagine how that made him feel?? He had no self esteem when i met him and i could see why!! He always had a job, but didn't always live his life the right way - he turned to pub to get away from her, he met the wrong women who also used him for her own gain and had 2 kids with her (he adores his sons don't get me wrong).His mum never saw the effect her behaviour had on him - my 6ft, strapping man would be reduced to a sobbing wreck with the things she said to him. She would apologise the next day when she would read the messages on her phone!
Now, he's a confident man who now runs is own business (as well as a day job) with my backing and pushing him to follow his dreams - he is a very well known person in our business circles and one of the top to be booked, he makes me so very proud, i knew he had it in him!
Thankfully since he stood up to her after her last episode and told her if it happens again he would never see her again things have been much better and *touch wood* since she switched her drink and cut back to a couple of social days a week she has been much better.
DH needs to make a stand - can he arrange to visit maybe one or two evenings a week to do the 'jobs' she needs doing? find a mutually agreeable time and day(s) you can spare him. Either way i hope things sort themselves out soon before it escalates into anything more x
Leave me a comment if you stop by! I love watching bellies grow so if anyone else is posting them this early, feel free to let me know 
Whine over! 