February IVF Buddies!! 2nd Cycle. FET

[pisces78]

Hi Girls,

Just wondering if anyone has experienced this. I has my Embryo transfer yesterday with a different FE, than previously, the previous transfer was fine no blood and made me cough several times to place the catheter through my cervix. This FE did not make me cough to place the catheter When checking the catheter to make sure the embryo was deposited alot of blood and mucus (sorry for tmi) came out of the catheter. The FE did not seem worried and just said that's from your cervix. But after doing alot of research I have found that blood in or on the catheter is a big no no and sign of a difficult transfer which can reduce pregnancy rates. Has anyone experienced this? What did your FE tell you about it? So, as you can see a little stressed out about this experience and scared this has reduced my chances! I guess just have to try and be positive about the next 2ww.

HTW: GL with lining check today?

Eveclo: will you be cycling straight away with your next cycle?



Thanks!

 

[Hatethewait85]

eveclo- Glad your doc is a sweetheart - mine is too and it makes this whole process better, I think! Yay for transferring 2 embies this time! It'll give you a better chance of finding the perfect one!! O will be here before you know it, too! Feel free to rant anytime - we've all needed to get stuff off our chest before!

goldfishy- Thanks!! How was your appointment this week??? You never updated the other thread!! Hope things are lookin good in there

Barbi- I'm so sorry. You must be devastated. I so thought this was the one for you. Take all the time you need- and definitely spoil yourself this weekend! You more than deserve it!

pisces- Congrats on being PUPO!!!! How exciting!! When's your OTD?

AFM- Lining check TOMORROW!! The nerves are starting to come back. It certainly can't be thinner than Monday so I guess I should just be at peace with things, right?

 

[Hatethewait85]

Hi Girls,

Just wondering if anyone has experienced this. I has my Embryo transfer yesterday with a different FE, than previously, the previous transfer was fine no blood and made me cough several times to place the catheter through my cervix. This FE did not make me cough to place the catheter When checking the catheter to make sure the embryo was deposited alot of blood and mucus (sorry for tmi) came out of the catheter. The FE did not seem worried and just said that's from your cervix. But after doing alot of research I have found that blood in or on the catheter is a big no no and sign of a difficult transfer which can reduce pregnancy rates. Has anyone experienced this? What did your FE tell you about it? So, as you can see a little stressed out about this experience and scared this has reduced my chances! I guess just have to try and be positive about the next 2ww.

HTW: GL with lining check today?

Eveclo: will you be cycling straight away with your next cycle?



Thanks!

We must've posted at the same time as I didn't see this until I was done!

I've had 1 transfer and never had to cough to get the catheter in. All I had to do was come with a ridiculously full bladder which is supposed to help make sure the catheter is in the right place. I didn't have any bleeding with the transfer either but have heard what you read- that it can be a sign of a difficult transfer. But I don't remember if that was just by other posters or if I read it on a scientific site... either way could you talk to your usual doc and just get her opinion about the bleeding? Did the bleeding continue??
I think if bleeding continued long after transfer that would be more concerning. Hope it's nothing serious and your lil embie is getting ready to snuggle in for the long haul!

 

[pisces78]

Thanks HtW! Good luck with lining check tomorrow!

 

[eveclo]

Hi Girls,

Just wondering if anyone has experienced this. I has my Embryo transfer yesterday with a different FE, than previously, the previous transfer was fine no blood and made me cough several times to place the catheter through my cervix. This FE did not make me cough to place the catheter When checking the catheter to make sure the embryo was deposited alot of blood and mucus (sorry for tmi) came out of the catheter. The FE did not seem worried and just said that's from your cervix. But after doing alot of research I have found that blood in or on the catheter is a big no no and sign of a difficult transfer which can reduce pregnancy rates. Has anyone experienced this? What did your FE tell you about it? So, as you can see a little stressed out about this experience and scared this has reduced my chances! I guess just have to try and be positive about the next 2ww.

HTW: GL with lining check today?

Eveclo: will you be cycling straight away with your next cycle?

Hmm, I have never had to cough or have a full bladder... Your right! Just relax and try to be positive. Yes, we will be cycling straight away. D4 now! Just waiting for O and then we will defrost our 2 x 3 day embryos and grow them out to 5 day embryos. Which makes me not so Keen, since our last 3 day embryo grown was only at a morula on day 5.



Thanks!

eveclo- Glad your doc is a sweetheart - mine is too and it makes this whole process better, I think! Yay for transferring 2 embies this time! It'll give you a better chance of finding the perfect one!! O will be here before you know it, too! Feel free to rant anytime - we've all needed to get stuff off our chest before!

goldfishy- Thanks!! How was your appointment this week??? You never updated the other thread!! Hope things are lookin good in there

Barbi- I'm so sorry. You must be devastated. I so thought this was the one for you. Take all the time you need- and definitely spoil yourself this weekend! You more than deserve it!

pisces- Congrats on being PUPO!!!! How exciting!! When's your OTD?

AFM- Lining check TOMORROW!! The nerves are starting to come back. It certainly can't be thinner than Monday so I guess I should just be at peace with things, right?

Hopefully O doesn't stay away too long

Yay for lining check! Hope everything goes well, definitely normal to be nervous though. Let us know how you go!

 

[eveclo]

Hi Girls,

Just wondering if anyone has experienced this. I has my Embryo transfer yesterday with a different FE, than previously, the previous transfer was fine no blood and made me cough several times to place the catheter through my cervix. This FE did not make me cough to place the catheter When checking the catheter to make sure the embryo was deposited alot of blood and mucus (sorry for tmi) came out of the catheter. The FE did not seem worried and just said that's from your cervix. But after doing alot of research I have found that blood in or on the catheter is a big no no and sign of a difficult transfer which can reduce pregnancy rates. Has anyone experienced this? What did your FE tell you about it? So, as you can see a little stressed out about this experience and scared this has reduced my chances! I guess just have to try and be positive about the next 2ww.

HTW: GL with lining check today?

Eveclo: will you be cycling straight away with your next cycle?



Thanks!

Pisces ! I screwed up my last reply to you, i replied before i ended your quote so it just looks like your question, but i said

Hmm, I have never had to cough or have a full bladder... Your right! Just relax and try to be positive. Yes, we will be cycling straight away. D4 now! Just waiting for O and then we will defrost our 2 x 3 day embryos and grow them out to 5 day embryos. Which makes me not so Keen, since our last 3 day embryo grown was only at a morula on day 5.




I hope you are doing OK and stress free! Hopefully that embie is nice and comfy now for the long haul.

 

[Hatethewait85]

How have you been feeling pisces? Hope your bean has started getting cozy in his new home now

Will you start POAS before you start to go in for blood tests eveclo? I can't remember how it went for you last time?

Still thinking of you Barbi Hope your hubby spoiled you for your birthday! And I hope this is the year you get your rainbow baby!

AFM- Lining check was OK yesterday. While the lining wasn't >9, it was >8 which is as good as it's been for these FETs. Not sure what it was for the IUIs and they stopped measuring at my fresh cycle when we realized it was a freeze all. I didn't have my usual fs at the appointment yesterday either, but I trust the doc I did have (I had him a few times during my fresh cycle and he's my docs hubby). We discussed the pros/cons of continuing to try to grow a bigger lining. The main risk being that it will stop responding and actually get WORSE - I had read about that and since that was my biggest fear we decided to start the PIO. I did my first injection this AM and it wasn't too bad but the one tonight was a killer - I think my hubby didn't get it in the 'right' spot.... we are still learning what we are doing He felt terrible though but I don't fault him one bit. Anyway, transfer is officially scheduled for Friday 4/4!

 

[eveclo]

How have you been feeling pisces? Hope your bean has started getting cozy in his new home now

Will you start POAS before you start to go in for blood tests eveclo? I can't remember how it went for you last time?

Still thinking of you Barbi Hope your hubby spoiled you for your birthday! And I hope this is the year you get your rainbow baby!

AFM- Lining check was OK yesterday. While the lining wasn't >9, it was >8 which is as good as it's been for these FETs. Not sure what it was for the IUIs and they stopped measuring at my fresh cycle when we realized it was a freeze all. I didn't have my usual fs at the appointment yesterday either, but I trust the doc I did have (I had him a few times during my fresh cycle and he's my docs hubby). We discussed the pros/cons of continuing to try to grow a bigger lining. The main risk being that it will stop responding and actually get WORSE - I had read about that and since that was my biggest fear we decided to start the PIO. I did my first injection this AM and it wasn't too bad but the one tonight was a killer - I think my hubby didn't get it in the 'right' spot.... we are still learning what we are doing He felt terrible though but I don't fault him one bit. Anyway, transfer is officially scheduled for Friday 4/4!

Hmm, last cycle I ovulated on CD19/20 which was one of the latest ever! Usually I get positive OPK's on CD15,16 or 17. So ill definitely keep the OPK's up just so I know what's going on

I don't know whether ill want to test early with this cycle, to be completely honest I feel a little crappy about the whole thing. Starting to feel as though it might not ever happen for us... I just can't imagine being any healthier or younger than I am now! So crazy. I just need to stay positive but you ladies all know how hard it is!

2 embie transfer so hopefully this is the magic trick needed for my body to make them cosy. I would love twins but one is definitely enough!

We will go for a fresh cycle straight after this one if it doesn't work.

HTW, your pretty close to +9 ! Hopefully you'll get there by ET day. How exciting you have a date! It's so nice to have your embryo back where it belongs. So exciting. I really hope things go perfect for you. I am thinking of you often during this process! Do you think that you will test early with this one? When did you start testing with your previous transfer?

My doc said she will defrost our 2, 3 day (8 cell) embryos and grow them again to 5 day. (Last time she did this, we only got to morula stage so I might ask if we can wait it out until they hit blast but obviously she knows better than I do ) if one of these embryos don't make it, or both (omg that would be horrible) we still have one lonely blast we can defrost and use as well.

Our last FET, our embryo defrosted 100% in tact so fingers crossed these 2 beauties do & at least one sticks around for 9 months / the rest of my life hehe.

 

[Cjohnson13]

Hello ladies it's been a while since I posted but always read to see how you are doing. I kinda went Mia after my last fet that ended in another chemical. My fresh also ended in a chemical. So on 4/4 I have another fet..... Hoping for a diff outcome

 

[Hatethewait85]

eveclo-
Thanks for thinking of me! I need all the positive vibes I can get. I'm not testing until the day before OTD (probably later in the day as my in laws will be here that morning). Last time I tested at 6dp5dt and it was gutt-wrenching to keep on with the meds after I saw the BFN. Since I'm doing PIO this time, I absolutely need to continue to think I'm PUPO if I'm going to keep those up until OTD!

I sure hope you don't O as late this time! How much longer until your first blood test?

I know what you mean about feeling like it won't work - I've been there. We just need to find your embie with the perfect in there and this time you are doubling your odds of finding it

I'd love twins, too but now that ship has sailed and I'm kind of sad... but that being said, I'll be happy with 1 lil bambino!

I hope your embies thaw perfectly. I'm VERY nervous my lil embie won't survive the thaw and I am pretty sure I'll be a hot mess if that happens! There's no back-up this time so lil Larry (our embryo) has no choice but to thaw like a champ!

CJohnson-
We will have our FET's on the same day!! I hope we both get our BFP and can be bump buddies Sending lots of good thoughts your way.

AFM - My tush is quite sore. These PIO shots are no joke. Hubby is getting better though (I think anyway). I keep telling him how I hope we are lucky to continue these for the next 9+ weeks because that would be AWESOME! 4 sleeps to go

 

[eveclo]

eveclo-
Thanks for thinking of me! I need all the positive vibes I can get. I'm not testing until the day before OTD (probably later in the day as my in laws will be here that morning). Last time I tested at 6dp5dt and it was gutt-wrenching to keep on with the meds after I saw the BFN. Since I'm doing PIO this time, I absolutely need to continue to think I'm PUPO if I'm going to keep those up until OTD!

I sure hope you don't O as late this time! How much longer until your first blood test?

I know what you mean about feeling like it won't work - I've been there. We just need to find your embie with the perfect in there and this time you are doubling your odds of finding it

I'd love twins, too but now that ship has sailed and I'm kind of sad... but that being said, I'll be happy with 1 lil bambino!

I hope your embies thaw perfectly. I'm VERY nervous my lil embie won't survive the thaw and I am pretty sure I'll be a hot mess if that happens! There's no back-up this time so lil Larry (our embryo) has no choice but to thaw like a champ!

CJohnson-
We will have our FET's on the same day!! I hope we both get our BFP and can be bump buddies Sending lots of good thoughts your way.

AFM - My tush is quite sore. These PIO shots are no joke. Hubby is getting better though (I think anyway). I keep telling him how I hope we are lucky to continue these for the next 9+ weeks because that would be AWESOME! 4 sleeps to go

Blood test is on the 7th April which will be CD13. I still don't know why she makes me go so early, but i suppose she doesn't want to miss the boat. That's a good idea, waiting until the day before, i too found it hard to want to keep up the progesterone just because i knew i wanted my period to come so i could work out next move out!!

I have faith in you Larry! Make us proud!!!

Do you think you will go for another fresh round if this FET doesn't work (even though it will )

Hope your bum feels better soon, although it may just have to get used to it for a while heh

 

[pisces78]

HTW: Sounds like you have a great lining! That is great that is 8, should give your embie a nice cosy home! Great to hear you now have a transfer date only 2 sleeps away! Go Larry Go!

Eveclo: That is great, you have so many frosties, which gives you good variety of options, that you can grow to day 5. I can't remember if I saw you posted about your WTF appt with your FE. Did they say to go FET rather than fresh for your next round? As I remember you not being sure as to which way to go? No, wont be testing early before OTD, I got AF 2 days before last time. So, will wait it out, so I can believe I'm still pregnant even if not, gives me hope!

CJ: :wave: Hiya, GL with ET on Friday, I'm sure you will be 3rd time lucky!

ATM: I'm back to work this week after nearly 3 months off, so lots of work to do, keeping me busy so less focused on the 2ww, this time! OTD is 10 April so not too far away, and if AF stays away before then I know I have a good chance as I'm always on time and AF arrived 2 days before test last time.

 

[eveclo]

HTW: Sounds like you have a great lining! That is great that is 8, should give your embie a nice cosy home! Great to hear you now have a transfer date only 2 sleeps away! Go Larry Go!

Eveclo: That is great, you have so many frosties, which gives you good variety of options, that you can grow to day 5. I can't remember if I saw you posted about your WTF appt with your FE. Did they say to go FET rather than fresh for your next round? As I remember you not being sure as to which way to go? No, wont be testing early before OTD, I got AF 2 days before last time. So, will wait it out, so I can believe I'm still pregnant even if not, gives me hope!

CJ: :wave: Hiya, GL with ET on Friday, I'm sure you will be 3rd time lucky!

ATM: I'm back to work this week after nearly 3 months off, so lots of work to do, keeping me busy so less focused on the 2ww, this time! OTD is 10 April so not too far away, and if AF stays away before then I know I have a good chance as I'm always on time and AF arrived 2 days before test last time.

We were very lucky to get 4 good quality ones (said to be good but none of stuck yet ) well, I spoke to my FS and she basically just said we would be silly not to use them as we have only tried ONE frozen transfer, and it doesn't mean it won't work next time. I know we are just waiting for our perfect one. The only thing that makes me feel better about this cycle is the fact that we are transferring two embryos. I feel as though it mixes it up a little bit from our last transfers.

We only have one embryo on ice left after this so we will probably do another fresh cycle next month if this ends up being a bfn.

 

[Hatethewait85]

eveclo- That's good that they're checking bloods early- definitely good not to miss things just in case you O earlier than usual. The 7th will be here before you know it! I'm torn on whether to do another fresh cycle of IVF or pursue adoption. I think my hubby is getting tired of IVF stuff but I am having a hard time letting go of having a biological child... I will definitely be doing some soul searching if Larry doesn't stick around! But let's hope that won't be necessary!

Pisces- Going back to work will deifnitely help keep you distracted! How have you been feeling? I hope AF stays far far away. My OTD is just 4 days after yours - fx we get to be bump buddies!!

AFM- I've definitely noticed the PIO makes me a bit nauseated in the AM. I also had crazy craving for french fries this afternoon Starting the doxycycline and prednisone tomorrow. It's getting so close!! Can't wait.

 

[eveclo]

eveclo- That's good that they're checking bloods early- definitely good not to miss things just in case you O earlier than usual. The 7th will be here before you know it! I'm torn on whether to do another fresh cycle of IVF or pursue adoption. I think my hubby is getting tired of IVF stuff but I am having a hard time letting go of having a biological child... I will definitely be doing some soul searching if Larry doesn't stick around! But let's hope that won't be necessary!

Pisces- Going back to work will deifnitely help keep you distracted! How have you been feeling? I hope AF stays far far away. My OTD is just 4 days after yours - fx we get to be bump buddies!!

AFM- I've definitely noticed the PIO makes me a bit nauseated in the AM. I also had crazy craving for french fries this afternoon Starting the doxycycline and prednisone tomorrow. It's getting so close!! Can't wait.

This is true - wouldn't want to miss it! Just filled out my consent form - felt weird writing "2" in the How many embryos are we transferring section woohoo!

It's such a hard choice isn't it? My hubby struggles whenever donor sperm gets brought up, he is so against it he just wants to see his and my little creation and he really can't imagine it. I think you will have a biological child HTW. You are so young. I hope this FET is your take home baby. Positive thoughts ey ?

Woohoo you are on the home stretch! I feel like i should be taking some sort of medication through this but i get absolutely nothing! Weird. Maybe i should ask for no progesterone since i have had that both times and it hasn't worked... haha Ahhh man, i have a feeling i will be going for another Freshie next month. That, is terrifying in itself.

 

[Hatethewait85]

Yay for 2 embryos!!! One of them is meant to be your forever baby (ies?) I know it. So keep the faith! You could have them check your progesterone after O to make sure it's high enough and then only supplement if it comes back too low? I've changed quite a few things for this ET that if it does work I'll have no clue what it was that did the trick

I think we will all have our own biologic child(ren)! You and your hubby are young, and while his are against you, it's only a matter of time before you find the perfect one! I think it will be so neat to see someone me and my hubby made, someone that's part me and part him learning something new, growing up, becoming a kick-ass person. I just can't give up on hoping for that opportunity. There's no reason we're not getting pregnant so there's no reason we won't this time around.

My doc mentioned after our last failed ET that she's had 2 other couples like us - young, no explanation for why IVF didn't work and they conceived on the first try with donor eggs/embryos. My heart sank a little when she said that because I have a hard time thinking that's the best answer for me. I know one of the coolest part of being a woman is the ability to carry a baby in utero, but I want to carry MY baby - made by me. And I feel like there are so many helpless babys looking for a forever home already that it's so selfish of me to adopt an egg or an embryo when I could just adopt a baby... but the other part of me thinks adoption is way too hard. How do you tell your kid they were adopted? How involved do you want the birth parents to be? Gah - sorry that got longer than I intended. But yes - it is SO HARD to decide what to do.

 

[eveclo]

Yay for 2 embryos!!! One of them is meant to be your forever baby (ies?) I know it. So keep the faith! You could have them check your progesterone after O to make sure it's high enough and then only supplement if it comes back too low? I've changed quite a few things for this ET that if it does work I'll have no clue what it was that did the trick

I think we will all have our own biologic child(ren)! You and your hubby are young, and while his are against you, it's only a matter of time before you find the perfect one! I think it will be so neat to see someone me and my hubby made, someone that's part me and part him learning something new, growing up, becoming a kick-ass person. I just can't give up on hoping for that opportunity. There's no reason we're not getting pregnant so there's no reason we won't this time around.

My doc mentioned after our last failed ET that she's had 2 other couples like us - young, no explanation for why IVF didn't work and they conceived on the first try with donor eggs/embryos. My heart sank a little when she said that because I have a hard time thinking that's the best answer for me. I know one of the coolest part of being a woman is the ability to carry a baby in utero, but I want to carry MY baby - made by me. And I feel like there are so many helpless babys looking for a forever home already that it's so selfish of me to adopt an egg or an embryo when I could just adopt a baby... but the other part of me thinks adoption is way too hard. How do you tell your kid they were adopted? How involved do you want the birth parents to be? Gah - sorry that got longer than I intended. But yes - it is SO HARD to decide what to do.

I was reading somewhere that it is RARELY a sperm issue once the egg is fertilised / growing... so that's a positive? I guess it's more about making sure it's the perfect timing and embryo.

I think before i ever went down the path of adoption (me, personally) i would be using donor eggs JUST because in Australia the adoption process is roughly 5 years to do so, and usually you get a 3 year old and most of the time they have special needs - which is fine! But, there is something about carrying a baby that is yours most definitely. Are you in the US? What's the adoption process like there?

I hope that you get a baby of your own. After only one and two transfers ( in my case ) i think it is a bit premature for us to be worrying this much, isn't it? I had a bit of a panic attack at work today, although nobody knows what i am going through (they believe it is other issues) i just cried and cried it was so embarrassing! Usually i can hold my own but today i just had enough and i had a horrible dream last night that it just never happened for us which was just heartbreaking.

I am going to try and be positive though! I can't wait to see how you go with this FET! when is your transfer now?!

Oh, i can imagine why your heart sank when your specialist said this; just keep your head up and let's just not give up together! I know i need to be strong and keep going. Financially it's draining but if i work hard for it, i'll get there. I just know it.

 

[Hatethewait85]

CJ- good luck tomorrow! I'll be thinking of you and keepin my fx we both get sticky lil beans!!

pisces- how are you feeling? Any promising symptoms? Will you test before the 10th??

eveclo-
Sorry about your mini break down I've nearly had a few in the past month. So emotionally draining! I'm glad we can (try) to be strong together!! Our time will definitely come and I hope in APRIL! Patience, patience, patience, right?!

5 years to adopt? Crazy train! I'm in the US and average is 1-2 years for newborn adoption and it's crazy expensive (more than IVF). You can adopt from foster care relatively quickly and inexpensively but it is typically older children or those with disabilities. I'm not opposed to having a special needs child but it scares me if I'm being honest. Especially because the adoption process itself is hard. I just don't know if I'm strong enough

AFM- TOMORROW is the day!!!! I'm getting quite excited, nervous, hopeful. This is it. I will have done everything I could to prepare a great home for Lonely Larry. I hope he finds it nice and cozy so he sticks around for awhile. I'll have acupuncture at 9:30, ET at 11:30, acupuncture at 1:45 and then home to rest. Did you guys do anything after your ET special? I've read to do something that makes you laugh, so I'm going to try to watch part of an episode of the Ellen show- love her! I also heard to eat mac n' cheese afterwards, so I'll be going to Panera in between ET and acu. Just one more sleep.... here we go!

 

[pisces78]

Hi Girls,

Sorry, things have been so tough for you both! Keep positive, girls we can do it!!

No wont be testing before OTD don't want to be prematurely disappointed, I want to keep thinking I'm PUPO as long as possible. Last time I got AF 2 days before testing day, so hope the witch stays away! No symptoms maybe a few twinges around the uterus area, but dont know if imagining it!

HTW: GL for embryo transfer, looks like you have it all under control, stick larry stick!! I have taken things are little bit more relaxed this cycle. One different things is I have been listening to fertility mediation, which is great, really helps push away the negative thoughts in your head, might be worth a try there are a few on youtube!

Eveclo: Good to hear you have a plan with 2 embies! Sorry, to hear of your mini-breakdown, I had one of those and ended up seeing the ivf counsellor which was really helpful to put things in perspective, this ride can be so emotional!

 

[Cjohnson13]

Htw- thinking of you today!!! Today is the day we put our babies back in their home!!!! Eek!