February IVF Buddies!! 2nd Cycle. FET

[3chords]

Barb - that's for sure stressful. I'm glad they put the two best in, I think that gives you a good shot. My friend who recently went through a fresh cycle was hoping for a 5dt but the embies weren't great so she put in 2 at 3dt and now is pregnant with twins. There is definitely hope!

hatethewait - I am so sorry. I think that people who haven't gone through this don't understand how powerful the devastation can be. Our fertility psychologist said that in her experience (30 years of IVF), she found that the single most important thing for people was to set an end date...so that you know this won't be your life forever. Only you can know how many IVFs/FETs you're willing to do, though. I know people who stopped after 3, and I know people who got pregnant after 5...it's just so hard.

I'm just plugging along on the birth control pill. Will start stimming in just under 2 weeks. Nothing really happening, so trying to enjoy it while it lasts.

 

[eveclo]

eveclo, I'm rooting for you. What a stressful situation. I agree if your 7 cell doesn't get better, get that embie out of the freezer! A 6-day is fantastic!

things went a bit of a different turn today. unexpected everything.
i got a call this AM to come in for a day 3 transfer instead of Thursday for a day 5.
RE said today that the leading two were growing a head a bit so they wanted to transfer it today.
And then, the 3 which are left will stay in the incubator & hope to grow all or some to day 5 for freezing. Wow, that makes me so nervous. He doesn't want to risk freezing them & then not growing after thawing. Those three are Grade 3 embryo. The two we transferred today were 2. I am worried now, my embies aren't good. Like smth is not right w/my eggs or smth. He said as of today, he still considers this a tubal issue but if these fail, we have to consider some thing more.
I had hoped we would have all these FET we could do down the line. And DH wanted this to be the last Retrieval. So you can imagine how I'm really nervous. I went from excited to deflated this week.
And now the wait to hear about those three embryo. Yeah, not stressful at all.

My doctor ended up calling me yesterday, and said that she has decided to defrost my 6 day (yesterday) so it had time to replump (this wasn't her exact word but it was something like that) so I have been hoping all night that it made the freeze and is still in good quality this morning! so nervous! We will be transferring both the 7 cell (if it has grown to something more by today, hopefully morula.) and the blast (if it survives). I am assuming I will get a call this morning before I go in if they have all died or arrested. I will be so unhappy if I have just a single embryo transfer but I can't really do much now!

Barb, so sorry to hear about the sudden change of plans. That must be so stressful for you. I hope that one of those 3 day embryos are your take home baby. You never know with embryos sometimes the crappy ones can end up being really good so just wait it out.. Hopefully you have some great blasts on freeze to use. Also, you have put back 2 fresh good quality grade 2 embryos, fresh first of all has a much higher success rate than frozen ad you've put back two which is more than your previous cycle. So your already winning there so lets just keep our fingers and toes crossed for you. When do you think you will start testing

Allie- Fx this one is successful so you don't have to worry about figuring out next steps! Did you find out when you'll go in on Thursday? GL!

Barbi- That's so great you'll do a 5-day ET!! Your embies must be doing great!! Will you get another update today? Grow, embies, grow! Also, I love that pic you found on pinterest. So true! Grrrr

Eveclo- Can't believe you go in today? tomorrow? (it's only Tuesday here). It is too bad your one embie didn't survive the thaw real well. I hope if they need to use your blast it thaws perfectly. Would they push your ET back a day then since a 6-day?

AFM- Thanks for the support ladies. I am completely devastated with the results. I'm not sure I'm strong enough for another round of IVF. It's hard to remain positive after all of this. You guys are much braver, stronger than I am and I admire you!! Every time I think I've decided what to do, I get pulled the other direction again. So frustrating. My hubby is the same. I think we are both having a hard time grasping at the fact we may never have a biological child but also ready to move on from the emotional heartache of IVF/lttc. Another thing weighing on my mind is that through this whole process I've had to forgo treatment for a medical condition of mine - the medications used to treat it are contraindicated during pregnancy. So I need to decide how much longer I should risk going without treatment. No easy answer I guess. For now, I'll hold off on deciding anything until meeting with the doc on the 17th. Perhaps it will provide me some clarity.

Regardless, I'm still here rooting you all on!!!! I hope this month is YOUR month. We definitely need some positive and happy news on this thread.

We defrosted the 6 day yesterday afternoon, as it needs time to regenerate or something... And because the transfer is quite early in the am, it will be back right before its 'ready to go'. So hopefully this is what we need! I'm still really nervous it hasn't made the thaw, but we will see this morning.

This is such a crappy situation. I'm so sorry to hear about your results & I understand how heartbreaking it is. Even if it feels like you and your husband are the only ones in pain (I feel like this soooo often). You should look into your future and think when you are older, are you happy with how much you did? You have given it a really amazing go, and considering your medical condition, you have kind of put this all first! If this is as far as you can go emotionally, physically & spiritually, then you will always know that & nothing can change that. If you have done all you can, then you will be content. I have seen in your sig you are thinking of adoption, would you ever consider possibly adopted embryos? I firstly want to commend you, and all other ladies on here doing this because we are doing the best that we can. And no one can say we didn't try our hardest.

I hope your appointment goes smoothly, and you have some answers to put your mind at ease.

 

[Allie2009]

Allie- Fx this one is successful so you don't have to worry about figuring out next steps! Did you find out when you'll go in on Thursday? GL!
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I just got the call ET will be Thursday @ 12:30!!

 

[Hatethewait85]

3 chords- That's really good advice on setting an end date. I've been thinking a lot about just that this afternoon. I was reading a lot about multiple failed IVF cycles and finally getting a BFP after 3, 4, 5 and it makes me want to keep going! Definitely enjoy the quiet time while you can- in 2 weeks you'll be so busy! Hooray for the hope of another fresh start!!

eveclo- I really hope everything works out for you to transfer 2 embryos tomorrow/today!! GOOD LUCK!! You bring up a good point and I think I'm afraid if I stop now I'll always wonder what if. I have not thought much about embryo adoption because there's no reason my/hubbys parts aren't working so I'm not sure a new embryo would? Plus I know there are a lot of a babies that need adopting and perhaps I can be a good mom to one of them? I feel less awful now and more optimistic about another round but who knows how many times I'll change my mind

 

[Hatethewait85]

Allie- Fx this one is successful so you don't have to worry about figuring out next steps! Did you find out when you'll go in on Thursday? GL!
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I just got the call ET will be Thursday @ 12:30!!

Good luck! FX!

 

[eveclo]

3 chords- That's really good advice on setting an end date. I've been thinking a lot about just that this afternoon. I was reading a lot about multiple failed IVF cycles and finally getting a BFP after 3, 4, 5 and it makes me want to keep going! Definitely enjoy the quiet time while you can- in 2 weeks you'll be so busy! Hooray for the hope of another fresh start!!

eveclo- I really hope everything works out for you to transfer 2 embryos tomorrow/today!! GOOD LUCK!! You bring up a good point and I think I'm afraid if I stop now I'll always wonder what if. I have not thought much about embryo adoption because there's no reason my/hubbys parts aren't working so I'm not sure a new embryo would? Plus I know there are a lot of a babies that need adopting and perhaps I can be a good mom to one of them? I feel less awful now and more optimistic about another round but who knows how many times I'll change my mind

I have kind of set an end date i think. 3 fresh cycles. So we are down to 2 more! This will probably take YEARS! It's a scary thought and I hope it doesn't come to that, but only because in Australia adoption is $30,000+ and also, so much more difficult.

Hehe, you will change your mind often I'm sure. It's a hard choice with so many positives and negatives of each situation. Please look after yourself.


ET went well today, and bad as well. Our 3 cell had died and our 7 cell was still 7 cell so likely to die. The doctor asked if I still wanted to transfer it but I said no. The embryologist strongly suggested I didn't as he suspected it was dying. Our blast, which was a 6BB, defrosted perfectly into a 6AB. (I have no idea what this is but dr and embryologist were super happy).

So I have ONE blast on board. Official test date is the 28th. But we'll see. That seems so far away!

Husband is so happy, as he has been wanting to transfer this one the whole time. Our only blast and the one that went from being just 'ok' on day 3 to great on day 6. I'm nervous. But just have I try and stay positive. On the plus side, plan is to transfer 2x 5 day blasts next fresh cycle. Woohoo. Xx

 

[eveclo]

Allie- Fx this one is successful so you don't have to worry about figuring out next steps! Did you find out when you'll go in on Thursday? GL!
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I just got the call ET will be Thursday @ 12:30!!

Woo! Good luck! How many are you transferring? 3 day or 5 day? fingers crossed!

 

[Allie2009]

Allie- Fx this one is successful so you don't have to worry about figuring out next steps! Did you find out when you'll go in on Thursday? GL!
.

I just got the call ET will be Thursday @ 12:30!!

Woo! Good luck! How many are you transferring? 3 day or 5 day? fingers crossed!

We are transfering two. Hoping they both do well in the morning and we can use them both! They are day 5 so hoping it all works out well for us. I have a slight yeast infection, waiting to hear back from the doc on that now. I just dont want it to interfer with transfer.... Has this every happen to any of you guys????

 

[goldfishy]

Allie- Fx this one is successful so you don't have to worry about figuring out next steps! Did you find out when you'll go in on Thursday? GL!

Barbi- That's so great you'll do a 5-day ET!! Your embies must be doing great!! Will you get another update today? Grow, embies, grow! Also, I love that pic you found on pinterest. So true! Grrrr

Eveclo- Can't believe you go in today? tomorrow? (it's only Tuesday here). It is too bad your one embie didn't survive the thaw real well. I hope if they need to use your blast it thaws perfectly. Would they push your ET back a day then since a 6-day?

AFM- Thanks for the support ladies. I am completely devastated with the results. I'm not sure I'm strong enough for another round of IVF. It's hard to remain positive after all of this. You guys are much braver, stronger than I am and I admire you!! Every time I think I've decided what to do, I get pulled the other direction again. So frustrating. My hubby is the same. I think we are both having a hard time grasping at the fact we may never have a biological child but also ready to move on from the emotional heartache of IVF/lttc. Another thing weighing on my mind is that through this whole process I've had to forgo treatment for a medical condition of mine - the medications used to treat it are contraindicated during pregnancy. So I need to decide how much longer I should risk going without treatment. No easy answer I guess. For now, I'll hold off on deciding anything until meeting with the doc on the 17th. Perhaps it will provide me some clarity.

Regardless, I'm still here rooting you all on!!!! I hope this month is YOUR month. We definitely need some positive and happy news on this thread.

Oh man I'm so sorry Htw. I was so certain this was it for you and had been thinking about you offline. Its no easy decision and I feel for you, also as you are putting your health at risk. Maybe take some out and enjoy your life with hubby. Hopefully the right path will show itself. God bless x

 

[Hatethewait85]

eveclo- CONGRATS on being PUPO!!! Your embaby sounds fab and definitely like a rock star! I'm super excited for you to test. I will live vicariously thru you! Adoption should not be so expensive. It definitely scares me to think of the cost and even that isn't a sure thing... although it's more of a sure thing than IVF I guess.

allie- good luck today!! what did they end up saying about the yeast infection? I had one right before my first attempt at FET 2.0 - they stink!

barbi- how are you doing? hanging in there? sending sticky, positive thoughts your way!!

pisces- any update?

AFM- I'm so nervous I may puke. Appointment in a few hours to discuss 'next steps'... I'm afraid she'll tell me my reproductive organs are worthless and I should give up now. So scary. Back to nearly crying at the drop of a hat. I did so well yesterday - even felt good about giving IVF another go. This type of pain is torture! I wish nothing but success for each and everyone of you! Wish me luck!!

 

[Allie2009]

HTW,
Doc called me a pill in to take. Took that yesterday afternoon. Was much better by this morning!! Well things went really good today!!! Both look great. Dr said they were expanded blastocyst...thinking this is a good thing!! Now I just wait 12 DAYS......... We all know I can't wait that long..LOL Hoping for good news in 12 days

 

[eveclo]

eveclo- CONGRATS on being PUPO!!! Your embaby sounds fab and definitely like a rock star! I'm super excited for you to test. I will live vicariously thru you! Adoption should not be so expensive. It definitely scares me to think of the cost and even that isn't a sure thing... although it's more of a sure thing than IVF I guess.

allie- good luck today!! what did they end up saying about the yeast infection? I had one right before my first attempt at FET 2.0 - they stink!

barbi- how are you doing? hanging in there? sending sticky, positive thoughts your way!!

pisces- any update?

AFM- I'm so nervous I may puke. Appointment in a few hours to discuss 'next steps'... I'm afraid she'll tell me my reproductive organs are worthless and I should give up now. So scary. Back to nearly crying at the drop of a hat. I did so well yesterday - even felt good about giving IVF another go. This type of pain is torture! I wish nothing but success for each and everyone of you! Wish me luck!!

It sounds good, but our others were supposedly 'good' too... I've kind of dealt with the fact this will probably be a bfn as our others, but I am looking forward to the next step

Thank you for the well wishes!!!

Ohh you poor thing I hope your appointment has gone well! It is sooo torturous isn't it? Horrible times. It's funny though, I'm sure once we have a baby in our arms we won't even remember the hurt and the pain.

Let us know how your appointment went.

DH and I asked our dr at the transfer if there was any thing more we could do, she basically just said its luck. We have unfortunately fallen on the wrong side of 40% both times, and she seemed not so worried about it... So we'll see what happens! Just hoping that you get some answers! Xx

 

[pisces78]

HTW: sorry to hear your cycle ended in bfn. I hope your doc can give you some further opportunities on what do do next or you and dh have peace in whatever your next option is if you look into adoption.

Eveclo: Congrats on PUPO , gee that is a very long wait till OTD, will you hold off on POAS or test early? Hoping your embabies snuggle in nicely! If you had a 7 cell and a 6 day blast does that mean they transfer them at different times in your cycle or both at once?

Barbs and Allie: Keeping fingers and toes crossed for your embabies!

ATM: Had a false positive on my OPK yesterday so had to run into the clinic for a confirmation blood test, which was negative, so another blood test tomorrow, then tuesday with my first scan! So, just waiting on + OPK at the moment. We have 4 snow babies remaining will just go for the one embabie transfer.

 

[Allie2009]

Well things are going sooooo slow. .lol still just laying in the bed. Might move around more tomorrow afternoon. Just want ti make sure.

Eveclo we have the same test date!! Will you test early?

 

[eveclo]

HTW: sorry to hear your cycle ended in bfn. I hope your doc can give you some further opportunities on what do do next or you and dh have peace in whatever your next option is if you look into adoption.

Eveclo: Congrats on PUPO , gee that is a very long wait till OTD, will you hold off on POAS or test early? Hoping your embabies snuggle in nicely! If you had a 7 cell and a 6 day blast does that mean they transfer them at different times in your cycle or both at once?

Barbs and Allie: Keeping fingers and toes crossed for your embabies!

ATM: Had a false positive on my OPK yesterday so had to run into the clinic for a confirmation blood test, which was negative, so another blood test tomorrow, then tuesday with my first scan! So, just waiting on + OPK at the moment. We have 4 snow babies remaining will just go for the one embabie transfer.

It is, isn't it?! I probably will test early.. Maybe on Anzac Day? At least ill have the day off to be depressed if necessary

I think that ideally a 7 cell would be transferred on day 3 following ovulation so I didn't want to transfer it in case it got in the way of the other one implanting but yeah...

Great news about your 4 snow babies! I hope they all survive the thaw well for you!

Well things are going sooooo slow. .lol still just laying in the bed. Might move around more tomorrow afternoon. Just want ti make sure.

Eveclo we have the same test date!! Will you test early?

I think I will! Only because I will need to stop progestone. I think that on the 25th I will be 10dp6dt so if its not positive by then, then it won't be. So I would stop progesterone to get my period and move onto a fresh cycle.

 

[eveclo]

Well things are going sooooo slow. .lol still just laying in the bed. Might move around more tomorrow afternoon. Just want ti make sure.

Eveclo we have the same test date!! Will you test early?

Are you going to test early?

 

[amazingLife]

Well things are going sooooo slow. .lol still just laying in the bed. Might move around more tomorrow afternoon. Just want ti make sure.

Eveclo we have the same test date!! Will you test early?

Allie how many days post are you ? Testing early??

 

[amazingLife]

Well things are going sooooo slow. .lol still just laying in the bed. Might move around more tomorrow afternoon. Just want ti make sure.

Eveclo we have the same test date!! Will you test early?

Are you going to test early?

When is you beta .good luck

 

[Allie2009]

Well things are going sooooo slow. .lol still just laying in the bed. Might move around more tomorrow afternoon. Just want ti make sure.

Eveclo we have the same test date!! Will you test early?

Are you going to test early?

I'm sure I will I Just want to hold out as long as possible...I'm now 2dp5dt. I didn't use a trigger shot so I couls probably test any day past 4/5. Um just really nervous about doing that. I've read some people test pos 5dp5dt.. the 28th is the dayI go for bloods

 

[eveclo]

Well things are going sooooo slow. .lol still just laying in the bed. Might move around more tomorrow afternoon. Just want ti make sure.

Eveclo we have the same test date!! Will you test early?

Are you going to test early?

I'm sure I will I Just want to hold out as long as possible...I'm now 2dp5dt. I didn't use a trigger shot so I couls probably test any day past 4/5. Um just really nervous about doing that. I've read some people test pos 5dp5dt.. the 28th is the dayI go for bloods

My doc said that FET's can be slower than fresh, to implant. So I am probably going to wait until at least 6 dp 6 dt. Then ill be 12dpo or so! I just don't want to have bad news again I don't know how to deal!