Feel so alone

[Chea]

Hey,

I'm new to this site so apologies for the rant but I need to tell someone

I am practically a single parent and have a 15month old. Though I do work while my daughter is at nursery, when home I feel so alone and lonely. I have 'friends' but then again I don't have friends- my phone never rings or nobody ever even sends a text to see how I am doing; its like I have been struck off now that I have had a baby.

I like to think of myself as confident at times but now I feel like I have lost all self-esteem in even building friendships because deepdown I feel like who'd want to know me; I have a baby.

I love my daughter dearly but I feel like I have nobody. Everybody meets everyone else and forgets me. Its really upsetting. I just wish I could one day have a friend that would call and see how I'm doing and have a closer relationship. Please someone give me a pick-me-up.

Thanks for reading xx

 

[laurajo24]

awww hun. Your post made me feel so sad for you... big hugs!!!

I understand what you mean about your friends. There are some of my friends who have never even met LO!

On the other hand though, have you tried contacting them? They may just assume you are busy with baby so don't want to call and disturb you. Or assume you won't want to come on that night out because of baby. I had a lot of misunderstandings with friends because of this. They weren't making an effort but neither was I!!! We're all back on track now.

You do sound really down - i don't know you obviously but have you considered talking to your Dr? Possiby a little PND?

Whereabouts are you? can you get to baby clubs/groups or anything?

Things will get better hun. The girls on here are fantastic so you've always got us!

 

[AbbynChloe]

Hugs here as well!!

I agree with LauraJo - a lot of my friends just thought I was busy was baby so have to keep remembering to text them when I have a quiet moment.

You do sound low, have you thought about seeing your doctor/health visitor?

I have some real low moments, and it has taken a while, but things do get better

xx

 

[imaginary8x]

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[Chea]

thanks for the replies. i have woke up feeling somewhat better...i guess you are right- maybe they just assume I'm far too busy so I am gng to call them and see if that makes a difference.

Havnt visited the doctor- its just some days i feel good and others I feel so low.

I just hope it makes a difference

Wish me luck xx

 

[Mumof42009]

It is lonely being a single mum and it's not having Adult company which is hard. I would text or email some of your friends, arrange to meet up and have a day out.

 

[babybaillie]

on netmums, theres a meet a mum part and u can put ur details on and email other mums who live close by, and if u get on well enough arrange to meet up. its nice to do it with someone who has a lo ur lo's age.

its a long life if u feel alone xx

 

[billy2mm]

i feel exactly the same.

ive loads of "aquaintences" who i speak to alot on fb or msn but none i can ring for a chat or meet up for a coffee.

i feel like ive to make all the moves in the friendships i have and it sucks. just a quick text takes no time at all for them to send and i think why should i have to make all the moves?

when i left my ex and moved back home they were all talk about how they would be there for me yadda yadda blah blah but none of them have come through. ive one mate who lives about 40 miles away in the next city i speak to every day. she calls me every morning but i dont get to see her much coz of the ditance and she is the best mate i have but its still not the same as having someone you can pop round for a coffee or have a walk to the park with.

 

[Chea]

i completely understand billy2mm...they really dont understand how being a mum can be very demanding so it would be meaningful for them to even send a text on their behalf. I have joined netmums and met a few mums but it still feels quite weird as everyone knows everyone on that sight so its more like a group of friends that arrange to meet for a coffee...not like someone you can call and visit for a coffee, like said before.

At least you do receive a morning call...thats very nice of your friend billy.. that shows that she really does care. Most of my friends right now wont have a clue about whats gng on in my life right now

sad but true