Feel so disappointed and let down! :( - Rather large vent!

[Buddysmum89]

Well there's no groups around where I live apart from the clinic itself where I get him weighed and I don't usually go to those and when I do I just prefer to keep to myself! I'm pretty anti social! :/

In the end the party went ahead but I couldn't help but feel sorry for seb as it was such a rubbish party! The only kid there was OHs friends son and he's good 7/8 months older than seb, I was bored I just wanted to go home and forget the day it ever happened!..he's only 1 once and I feel my friends have seriously screwed up his birthday!

I may just have to get a bit of revenge and do the same when it's their lo's birthday! Say I'm going and then back out at the last minute and give em a taste of their own medicine!! Can you tell I'm still annoyed

 

[Feline]

It's only natural that you'd feel so upset ...I would! Big hug to you.xx

 

[cupcaker]

I'll defend you with the being shy of groups things, I do think it's daunting if you're not naturally very social and chatty etc. I take my son each week to the clinic, but I do that because I want to keep an eye on his weight, not because I really care about meeting or talking to people I'm in there about 3 minutes!

Last week though, I did start a baby massage class, as my HV and the guy from the child centre were really pushing it and keen for people to go, so I felt it would help them out. I guess I thought it would get me out the house. I was nervous, but in the end it was only 4 of us, so it wasn't too overwhelming. I surprised myself, and enjoyed coming back telling my OH about it and the 'girlfriends' he had made whilst there! Plus I can now reel off a couple of mum's names and kid's names now.

I know my local child centre do all kinds of play activities, so I may work up to it in time. More so because it would be nice for HIM to get used to other children. The first week I went to the clinic though, I must confess I just thought "what's the point, most of the toys here he has at home". Not a very good attitude I know! Plus with my baby being tiny compaired to them in those first weeks, I just wanted to "protect" him almost...dash in and out of the hustle and bustle. Really pathetic now I look back. And I'm a primary school teacher! I should know the importance of mixing etc. Teaching is just an 'act' though..I do daunting parents evenings and meetings etc, but I have a 'front' on..it's acting out a 'role' almost being a teacher, so I don't get that worried. Now it's just "me" the confidence is less with people!!

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[Amber3]

Thank you Guys for this thread. It did me good reading it because I am also not very social, and have few friends. But sometimes when you are a bit social-phobic you think you are the only one in the World who feels like that. I also had to pull myself together to go to a mommy Group. However, when I got there there were only two moms and the leader. So it was not scary I also feel though that I get more brave as I get older (now I am past 30
)Amber

 

[ktod]

This is why I didn't have a big christening for my LO. I literally only invited immediate family, it was very small. And it will probably be the same for his birthday.

I'd love to throw him a big party but I can't cope with the rejection when people say they can't come (I know I shouldn't take it personally)

AND its even worse if people say they are coming and then flake out at the last minute. That is my biggest pet hate in the world. Why do people do it????