Feeling fed up

[Loulou04]

Is anyone else constantly arguing with their OH? I’m so fed up with it, at what should be a happy time I find myself crying a lot. I know we are both tired etc but we are arguing every day and it’s really getting me down. I feel like I have now put distance between us because I don’t think we will last much longer like this. Is it normal to be arguing so much after having a baby? Will it get better or do I just admit defeat and accept it’s not going to work? My OH knows I’m not happy atm but I don’t think he knows just how unhappy I actually am, he has said some really hurtful things that I’m finding hard to forget and I find myself trying to keep busy so I don’t have to spend time with him because I’m worried we will argue. Sorry for the long rant but I have no one to talk to and I feel so lonely

 

[MKaykes]

How old is your little one? My DH and I definitely argued more thanks to poor sleep and increased irritability. Also, our life had changed so much and we didn't always agree on parenting approaches (still don't a year older). My son is now #1 for me, which puts DH #2.

I think only you know if the relationship is salvageable. Were there problems before baby or only after? If it is all new problems, give your life time to adjust and cut each other some slack.

 

[Loulou04]

How old is your little one? My DH and I definitely argued more thanks to poor sleep and increased irritability. Also, our life had changed so much and we didn't always agree on parenting approaches (still don't a year older). My son is now #1 for me, which puts DH #2.

I think only you know if the relationship is salvageable. Were there problems before baby or only after? If it is all new problems, give your life time to adjust and cut each other some slack.

he’s 17 days, my 3rd but his first. We have always argued a bit but not to the extent we are now. I think I’ll just give it time and see what happens as I know we are both quite tired at the mo. Thank you for your reply

 

[Bevziibubble]

a baby can put a huge strain on a relationship. It seems like we are the ones to have to do everything and our lives that change so much whereas the man's doesn't, and that can certainly cause a lot of resentment. I would see how things go as your baby is still very young. If things are still the same months down the line and not settled down then maybe discuss a break

 

[Loulou04]

a baby can put a huge strain on a relationship. It seems like we are the ones to have to do everything and our lives that change so much whereas the man's doesn't, and that can certainly cause a lot of resentment. I would see how things go as your baby is still very young. If things are still the same months down the line and not settled down then maybe discuss a break

Thank you, my OH definitely can tell I’m not happy, I’ve literally put up a wall. I guess time will tell but I’m pretty sure where this is heading as I’m pushing him away because deep down I’m hurting. I never thought having a baby would break us but feel like it has (I do not regret having him for one second) I’m not sure how long I can go on this unhappy though but I know I need to give it time and not make a rash decision that I may end up regretting