Lesli45
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So just to start off I am 9 weeks pregnant but have told hardly anyone (except for a few people at my part time work since I was cutting back on my hours). My mom and I are close but I decided to wait to tell her since my brother's wedding is coming up and I didn't want to take any focus off that (not that it would but you never know). Anyways, last night I was talking to my mom and she brought up she noticed that I've gained weight and asked if there is a reason why. I told her I was pregnant and she didn't seem upset but asked right away what our "marriage" plans were. I told her that we were committed but that a wedding was not in the near future. She said straight away that we would keep this from my dad for a bit. Her words were that he has been through a lot lately with having a cold and that he is very traditional and that this would upset him. She then went on to say that in our family (and our small town where they still reside) that everyone gets married first and that he would be embarrassed about this. Gee, thanks ma.
I'm pissed ...I'm 37 yrs old...a grown adult...I'm a loyal and hard worker, I work full time and part time, have never asked them for money. I own my own house. I have a beautiful almost 4 year old happy daughter who is the light of my life (and the light of theirs). I have a boyfriend whom I love and know I want to spend a future with. I am happy in life and love who I am. Now I feel like the black sheep of the family. I'm really ticked that she would say that to me... Great to feel like I'm an embarrassment...
I know I'll get over this and I really don't care what other people think of me in the grand scheme of things, but at the moment I'm really hurt and annoyed with my mom. Has anyone else had this happen? Now I'm afraid to tell my dad since I don't want him to freak out or have a heart attack or something.... They love their grandaughter SO much, I would think they'd be thrilled to have another grandchild....
I'm pissed ...I'm 37 yrs old...a grown adult...I'm a loyal and hard worker, I work full time and part time, have never asked them for money. I own my own house. I have a beautiful almost 4 year old happy daughter who is the light of my life (and the light of theirs). I have a boyfriend whom I love and know I want to spend a future with. I am happy in life and love who I am. Now I feel like the black sheep of the family. I'm really ticked that she would say that to me... Great to feel like I'm an embarrassment...
I know I'll get over this and I really don't care what other people think of me in the grand scheme of things, but at the moment I'm really hurt and annoyed with my mom. Has anyone else had this happen? Now I'm afraid to tell my dad since I don't want him to freak out or have a heart attack or something.... They love their grandaughter SO much, I would think they'd be thrilled to have another grandchild....