Feeling terrified I will have another Placental Abruption...

[sandilion]

I have just found out I am pregnant with #2 - and at first I have been absolutely on cloud 9, day dreaming about our growing baby and feeling so happy that we will be giving DS a sibling.

But then I got a call from my mother, and she started going on and on about the fact i must book in for a C section to prevent my baby dying. That isn't possible though as DS came at 32 weeks ... no booked c section would have helped with the fact i had an abruption at 32 weeks..

But anyways now my mind frame has completely changed from pure happiness, to now fear... and i keep remembering the trauma of DS's birth. The bleeding, the pain, the fear because no one was believing me until i suddenly dilated to 6cm within 30 mins and i had to scream for the doctor to come as something was seriously wrong...thankfully they came and wheeled me off to the birthing room just in time so DS would survive. It went on for 4 long painful excruciating terrifying days.

But now i just have so much fear that it will happen again, and next time i may not be so lucky either

No one seemed to be able to tell me what caused it with DS, as it seems all the possible reasons on google don't at all match up to me, that i am aware of.

Not sure what i want form this post. I guess i needed to vent that i am feeling very concerned already and now starting to wonder why on earth are we going through this again, as i don't think I have the strength to cope with losing a baby stillborn.

Apologies if this is the wrong forum as well! Mods feel free to move if it is.

 

[HBGirl]

Maybe speak to a Dr about your concerns? Other then that (((hugs)))

 

[tristansmum]

In the UK most hospitals offer an after thoughts service to go through your notes and answer any questions. Perhaps that would help x

 

[sandilion]

At least I will already be on the books as a high risk patient this time... so i just need to remember they should monitor me more closely this time round.

Whenever i had issues and would go in to the hospital, they would monitor DS inside me.. But never me. I feel it could have been caught earlier on, but anyhoo thats all in the past and this time could go completely different! (i hope!!)

 

[wookie130]

Of course you're terrified! Placental abruption is NO JOKE, and honestly, it can be a real life or death situation for you and your child!

However, I'm going to stick my neck out, and assume that your mother is NOT a medical practitioner, and knows little if anything of the potential scenarios that exist for this pregnancy. Seems to me that she's experiencing some anxiety about your pregnancy right along with you...I hate to say this, but I wouldn't be talking to your mother about it, if it's making you more afraid.

It is my understanding (and I am no medical practitioner, either) that a placenta abruption does not determine that it will happen in subsequent pregnancies. I believe the chance of this happening again are VERY, VERY low. Take it one day at a time, and make sure you're confident in the care you're receiving from your doctors every step of the way!

 

[sandilion]

Thanks so much wookie130 and you're right, my mother is a anxious crazy lady and sadly last time we had a massive falling out over it when I was pregnant with DS and i ended up not speaking to her from when i was 10 weeks along - right till DS was 4 months old. Its just as well too as the doctors told me i coped very well emotionally during the abruption and that's what led to DS not being distressed one bit during the ordeal... I was so calm and in control and determined to get through it. Had my mother have been there, it would have been a different story and it could have ended disaster as she would have stressed me out like you can't imagine.

I know she cares, and may mean well most of the time (there are times she doesn't mean well and is a real shit stirrer but thats a whole different issue lol) but i am feeling uneasy with the thought of her being anywhere near me during this labor, as Im barely 5 weks along as she is already flipping out, hyperventilating while she talks to me about it on the phone, already telling me "you can't do it" and trying to order me to just doing what she says so "she has peace of mind".. then she accused me of being selfish for saying i want to have a vaginal birth as she feels I will be putting my baby in danger and its selfish ...

Oh dear, im worried just how long my pregnancy hormones can cope with this rot this time round.

Next time the discussion comes up I will definitely be telling her I don't want to discuss it.

 

[Starry Night]

I had a partial abruption early on with my son's pregnancy and I was tested to see if I had a genetic predisposition to it and it came back negative so the high risk specialist said the odds of it happening again were miniscule.

I understand the fear though. It does sound like your mom is simply voicing her own fears. It would have been better if she had kept them to herself though.

 

[Radiance]

I had placenta abruption with my 2nd. It wasn't the normal, my placenta had started tearing off around 10 weeks and I bled (normally gushed/like heavy period). I went to the ER every time and they had no clue. My OB finally realized my placenta was tearing around 14 weeks. It did it the entire pregnancy, followed by my water breaking at 19+5. It was a very scary pregnancy but we had a good outcome and a healthy baby boy.

I was scared about future pregnancies for awhile after he was born but once I was pregnant I wasn't too concerned about placenta abruption. I have a history of recurrent pprom and preterm labor so that's where my mind is at each pregnancy.

I am pregnant with #8 and little pains really scare me this time around, I instantly think of my placenta tearing. I would definitely mention you concerns to your OB. My OB expressed to me that my chances for another placenta abruption was very low, statistically.

 

[hopefulfor1st]

Hi sweetie, I was wondering if anyone had similar issues as me and did a search and found you!
Jace was born via emergency cs for placental abruption. No labour, no water breaking, no contractions, just sitting on the lounge watching a movie followed by massive amounts of bleeding with huge clots that were perfect balls of blood! Rushed to hospital, 15 mins of them not taking me serious til they saw how much blood and figured it out and then 10 mins later he was cut out and on my chest while I was getting transfused (I was also out of it, had a general anaesthetic)
On my notes they said my placenta was very calcified/ worn out as if I was overdue (was 38wks) also I'd had blood pressure problems and there were 2 clots the size of tennis balls they pulled out of my uterus that had caused the abruption. My doctor said "lightening doesn't strike twice its a rare thing" but we don't know what caused the sudden Bp spike and calcification that aided the abruption.
I will def be having an elective cs as early as they will allow in hoping the 38wk mark, also they can check blood flow to placenta via ultrasound

 

[sandilion]

It just worries me, the docs say "it wont happen again" or the chances of it happening again are very low, but then if i search it on google... Dr Google says if its happened once its likely to happen again. I guess Dr Google is always good at putting necessary fear into us.

I am going to start up my exercise routine again as of tomorrow (the col change in the weather will be here by then) as i wonder if i keep myself fitter this time it will help prevent it...

 

[hopefulfor1st]

There is a girl on here I found in journals who's had 3.

I will just be on my doctors for weekly scans at the end and possibly Bp meds (mine was always borderline but not high enough to treat)

I suggest we make notes of how we'd like our treatment to go before first midwife appointment.