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[LolaM]

teething sucks. Bad news here, they found a grampa that is willing to take all the kids, so unless he lives in a cardboard box or has a history of drug abuse or violence, he will get the kids

 

[MKHewson]

Oh no Lola that's awful. Let's hope they look at the baby differently though. There is a lot more care required then for the other siblings. I am praying for you and your husband.

teething sucks. Bad news here, they found a grampa that is willing to take all the kids, so unless he lives in a cardboard box or has a history of drug abuse or violence, he will get the kids

 

[karenh]

Lola I am so sorry! I was really hoping your court date this week would go well. So sad for little boy that he will be raised by someone who will not be around for most of his life. How truly devistating for you and your husband. I just don't have to words. Do you know what you will do next? Will you take on another foster kid?

 

[LolaM]

Judge gave mom til January and we will go ahead with severe ce. Which means we keep him for the holidays. Court was canceled. We just found out today. We have decided to hit the savings hard, continue fostering and save money to see a specialist in the big city

 

[karenh]

Judge gave mom til January and we will go ahead with severe ce. Which means we keep him for the holidays. Court was canceled. We just found out today. We have decided to hit the savings hard, continue fostering and save money to see a specialist in the big city

Wow, that is a lot to go through Lola. It breaks my heart to see you having to deal with the state system and all it brings. This is why we aren't going through them again. I am really happy though that you will get to spend the hollidays with your little boy. Christmas is certanly more magical with children. I still remember our Christmas with our fosters and probably will forever. Try an enjoy that time and not stress too much about January. Good luck with your savings goals!

 

[Cridge]

Tonya - whoa! 16 pounds at 4 months?! My little guys is only 19 pounds at 12 months.

Lola - I am SO sorry!!! I'm so glad you get to have him for the holidays, and I really hope the grandpa decides he can't take on 2 little kids and a baby. Is he married? Taking on just one of the kids sounds like it would be too much for one old man. Hang in there!

 

[LolaM]

Tonya - whoa! 16 pounds at 4 months?! My little guys is only 19 pounds at 12 months.

Lola - I am SO sorry!!! I'm so glad you get to have him for the holidays, and I really hope the grandpa decides he can't take on 2 little kids and a baby. Is he married? Taking on just one of the kids sounds like it would be too much for one old man. Hang in there!

Agreed. He has a girlfriend

 

[Cridge]

That doesn't sound very kid friendly to me.

 

[karenh]

I agree.

 

[LolaM]

doesnt but its up to the court, but we have him until January now, he will be 1 in February

 

[Prayerful]

We are approved! Now we wait! Holy cow, sorry, but I am so excited!

Oh, Karen, I am so happy for you! Your story on your adoption profile is so beautiful and well written. Any parent who reads it will surely feel drawn to you and Justin. I hope the wait won't be long for you.

teething sucks. Bad news here, they found a grampa that is willing to take all the kids, so unless he lives in a cardboard box or has a history of drug abuse or violence, he will get the kids

doesnt but its up to the court, but we have him until January now, he will be 1 in February

Lola, how heartbreaking! I hope as the others have already said, that grandpa decides the baby would be too much work and you will be able to keep him. Cherish the time that you do have together. I'm glad you'll at least get to keep him through the holidays.

 

[LolaM]

Thanks ladies! We have decided that we will spend as much time with him as we can, spoil him rroooooottennn and make sure he is happy and healthy. He will be standing soon, and hopefully taking steps and first words before he goes...we waited so long for these moments and he wont remember, but we ALWAYS will. Im sure the BF will deny any of this ever happened...

 

[karenh]

It sounds like a great plan. Even if he won't remember on a conscious level, it will be in his subconscious and will influence his life. You guys are the best thing that could have happened to this boy.

 

[J_Lynn]

Thanks ladies! We have decided that we will spend as much time with him as we can, spoil him rroooooottennn and make sure he is happy and healthy. He will be standing soon, and hopefully taking steps and first words before he goes...we waited so long for these moments and he wont remember, but we ALWAYS will. Im sure the BF will deny any of this ever happened...

That's so unfair that they can even consider doing that to you I don't understand how the courts swear that "the best interest" of the child is their main priority, when they are so quick and willing to hand custody over to any relative that comes forward. It's not right, and it is *not* the child's best interests being taken into consideration!!

 

[LolaM]

I dont know either but blood is blood, to the courts anyways, but it seems "gramps" has himself a little temper, anger issues, so im guessing he has a record, which means he isnt a suitable guardian and BM is in no shape to care for herself, let alone young children-she needs to be TOLD to call 911 in case of an emergency!!!! my kindergarten students know how to do that! I have prepared a letter to the courts, and i have a friend looking it over and fluffing it up. Our next court date is January 31st.

AAAND...we found a clinic that gives a 50% discount on IVF to military! so now we have to come up with $5k instead of 10, still alot but....

 

[Dannixo]

WELCOME TO FEMARA FRIENDS!
(Thanks for the name, Chiles!)

CYCLE DAY as of 12/22/11

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Did I miss anyone? I apologize if I did.

Hi can I join you ladies? I am on my 4th round of femara with 2nd round of menopur. After 8 failed clomid cycles, 2 failed iui's and surgery we are still unexplained infertility.

 

[LolaM]

of course, welcome to the room!

 

[J_Lynn]

I dont know either but blood is blood, to the courts anyways, but it seems "gramps" has himself a little temper, anger issues, so im guessing he has a record, which means he isnt a suitable guardian and BM is in no shape to care for herself, let alone young children-she needs to be TOLD to call 911 in case of an emergency!!!! my kindergarten students know how to do that! I have prepared a letter to the courts, and i have a friend looking it over and fluffing it up. Our next court date is January 31st.

AAAND...we found a clinic that gives a 50% discount on IVF to military! so now we have to come up with $5k instead of 10, still alot but....

I hope they don't take that baby That whole family seems like a bust!!

That's amazing about the military discount - that's huuuuge!

Hi Danni Good luck with Femara - I swear by it. I think it's the best thing ever lol

 

[Blackbarbie04]

Hey Danni!!! I am currently on my 2nd round of Femara. I love that it has wayyyy less side effects than Clomid...

 

[~Brandy~]

Lola- You probably already know but I will throw it out there just in case... When you're doing IVF you can either opt for pre tax money via Flex Spending if either of your works offer it and that. I dont know anything about your finances but I used this calculator for a rough estimate and if you put back 5k into flex spending you would save 1133.00 over the course of the year on your federal tax bill You would essentially in the long run only pay 3867 for IVF. Here is the link https://www.aetnafsa.com/fsa/index.php

Also if you use flex spending they immediately dump the full amount that you will be saving throughout the year into the account and you can use it immediately and dont have to wait and save.

Also if you dont have flex spending as an option you would be able to write off all expenses via your federal taxes by itemizing medical if the cost of the meds, doctor visits, and the mileage to and from the appts exceeds 7% of your annual income.