Finding being back at work really hard.

[miss h]

I work a job that requires me to work 12 hour shifts (6 -6) and half of the time I work on my own. I work on a 24-hour reception. I have been back at work since september and am really struggling. My partner also works shifts, which is great for our LO as it means that one of us is with her a lot of the time. It does mean that we are often passing ships. When we cannot be with her, my dad looks after her and she adores him. Sometimes this does mean her staying over night.

I do suffer from the "normal" guilt of leaving my baby girl. I hate that I cannot routinely put her to bed every night most of all. She is currently 9 months old and changing every day.

We both need to work (no question) and I cannot take a pay cut. I am constantly looking for a 9-5 job so at least she can have a routine but nothing is coming of it.

I recently had 4 weeks off work as I had my gallbladder removed. I loved this time with her, even though I couldn't do much with her because of the surgery. It has made coming back to work that much harder. To make matters worse my OH and I are constantly bickering about rubbish.

Thinking about xmas just makes things worse as I have to work 6am- 6pm on xmas day (my baby girls first xmas)... there is NO way they will let me have the day off (I have tried)!

At the moment it all seems like such a struggle. I know I am lucky that I hae a job and that we can still pay our mortgage. It is just getting harder and harder to keep telling myself that.

Sorry for the rant. Just needed to get that out.

 

[littleblonde]

Awww that sounds like such a hard situation to be in. it didnt seem like you where looking for advise and i wouldnt no what tgo say anyway but didnt want to r and r. keep looking and hopefully something else will come up. I no this wont really help at all and i would ahte to be at work on xmas day. but your lo wont remember this one at all. To them it will be a normal day. I no its not the point but least you got another 12 months to be a better job for next year. Its a stupid thing to say i no but im hoping it may help a tiny bit. I couldnt imagine leaving my girls to work all that time. I hope by some miracle you find a job before christmas. Maybe a job you cant start for a few weeks so you get extra time with lo. wouldnt that be nice x

 

[miss h]

Awww that sounds like such a hard situation to be in. it didnt seem like you where looking for advise and i wouldnt no what tgo say anyway but didnt want to r and r. keep looking and hopefully something else will come up. I no this wont really help at all and i would ahte to be at work on xmas day. but your lo wont remember this one at all. To them it will be a normal day. I no its not the point but least you got another 12 months to be a better job for next year. Its a stupid thing to say i no but im hoping it may help a tiny bit. I couldnt imagine leaving my girls to work all that time. I hope by some miracle you find a job before christmas. Maybe a job you cant start for a few weeks so you get extra time with lo. wouldnt that be nice x

Thanks hun - I wanted to vent my anguish really! I'm on nights at the moment and trying to sleep during the day is really hard esp when I hear LO giggling with daddy all day. Don't get me wrong it is lovely for him to spend some one-on-one time with her but I am very jealous.

 

[xxembobxx]

Every mum feels guilt, usually when they really don't need to!
It can be hard when you want to spend family time together but it's not possible but at least you have a plan on how to amend the situation.
As littleblonde said your LO won't know what day is what so you could actually have Christmas Day on Boxing Day. When my children were young we did have birthdays a week later than they should have been and they were quite happy they got a special day and never knew any different

 

[cdj1]

Have you thought about looking for another job? Even if it takes some time to find one, it might make you feel a bit more hopeful about the situation?

Thats pretty rough about Christmas!!! Is there no one there who you are friendly enough with who might swop with you, or work for you even just for half or part shift? It is after all as you say, your baby's very first christmas!

 

[miss h]

Have you thought about looking for another job? Even if it takes some time to find one, it might make you feel a bit more hopeful about the situation?

Thats pretty rough about Christmas!!! Is there no one there who you are friendly enough with who might swop with you, or work for you even just for half or part shift? It is after all as you say, your baby's very first christmas!

Hi Hun - I'm looking for a new job all the time. I applied for one recently that was PERFECT for me and which I was perfectly qualified for. I was so excited as it was at a uni so I would get a lot of the holidays off AND it was a pay rise too. I didn't even get an interview.... rubbish.

I think there is someone who wants to swap xmas with me as she wants new year off but the management are putting their foot down and saying that they are not allowing swaps or leave on bank holidays and xmas... at all! We were considering doing it anyway as the receptionist is the ONLY person on site that day but my boss is the kind to phone up or pop in just to make sure - it's a joke really. Any attempt of us trying to say how unfair it is results in a "if you don;t like it, leave" talk.