First AF after our loss :(

[blondebabe]

Hi ladies so after our loss at 5 weeks 12th march 2014 I was so devastated the pain emotionally and physically and the fact I have 2 people pregnant at work at the mo is so hard.

So after carrying on ttc after the bleeding stopped I really thought it was our month as strangely a rainbow appeared in the clouds the day we dtd the day before ovulation and the day before AF was due there was a rainbow again.. As well as getting cramps and creamy cm ect... Just goes to show symptom spotting is a load of rubbish and I should never listen to my own lies!!!!
Well AF Turned up in full flow during my 12 hour shift inky having two emergency pads ahh! I just knew it... The strong cramps everything.. I am so gutted ((


Xxxx

 

[shiris]

Hi Blondebabe
So first, i am so sorry for your loss. We actually miscarried on the same day, so i completely understand how your feeling. I want to tell you something that someone else told me that made me feel much better. Although i know it sucks to get AF after mc because your hoping maybe to have conceived before it, look at it in this perspective...it came back right away!! We take it for granted, but for a lot of women, i have heard AF can take months to return. So celebrate AF because it means that you can move forward ttc right away. That said, i completely understand your sadness...i was so happy to get AF because of the reasons i said above, but on the other hand, got super upset when i went to buy tampons because it just wasnt something i was supposed to be doing at that time, know what i mean?
Sending big hugs your way and good luck to you

 

[kiwilove]

Hey ladies, i'm so sorry for your losses.
I miscarried at 6w2d march 20, I just got AF yesterday. I completely know what you mean when buying the tampons, it was sad for me . I am surprised I got AF though as I have PCOS and usually my cycles range from 3 to 4 months. I think given the circumstances, we are lucky to have received our AF; I couldn't wait to get past the miscarriage cycle; bitter sweet

 

[curlykate]

I'm in the same boat as well. I had a MMC in late March that ended in an emergency D&C. I just got AF on Sunday. I'm thankful it finally arrived, as I was advised to wait 2 cycles before TTCing again. It just sucks that i have to go through this at least once more before I can try again.
Add to that too many pregnant ladies to count at work and on FB, and I'm feeling quite down at the moment.

 

[ThinkPositiv]

Sorry ladies. I just finished my period too after another mc. sucks. And seenu everyone at work is prego.

Here's to ttc! I just hope my cycles stay short - they were 60 plus days when ttc my daughter!!!!

 

[kiwilove]

I also have co workers who are expecting, plus clients (im in child protection, family support) which is extremely hard to digest. We have to remember that we were pregnant once, or twice etc, we will be pregnant again. It will happen when it is supposed to, I know how frustrating it is as I have been trying to conceive just short of 3 years. I still have faith and I know one day I will be able to hold my bundle of joy.

 

[blondebabe]

Hi ladies thankyou so much for ur messages I am trying a new thing where I am going to try the old wives tales.

Yellow booties under the pillow ect as well as taking vitex xxx

 

[alternatedi]

Good luck hun!

My first AF was hard too, but I was so happy the darn thing showed up. The mc made me loss so much confidence in my body, but AF and positve OPKs helped restore it.

Good luck for a BFP this cycle!

 

[Laura2806]

Shiris you hit the nail on the head! I MC jan 23rd and didn't get AF until exactly 3 months later, I have pcos but even so this was the longest cycle I've ever had.

Ladies it will happen again for all of us, as hard and evil as a cm is they happen for a reason and that's what we have to keep telling ourselves, it's nothing any of us did or didn't do, we are momma's to butterfly babies and will one day be momma's to rainbow babies. No matter when we conceive every day is one closer to holding them in our arms, let that be your strength and guide.

Hugs and to you all xxx