First fertility appointment

[mizza1987]

Have moved my HSG to next wednesday (due to uni on thursday) am getting more and more scared about it as time ticks on. really worried about the results - even more so that some people have said they didn't get any results on the day!! my follow up appointment isn't until March 1st so if I have to wait that long it'll drive me mad :0( hoping we get a letter really soon about the ultrasound and then can ring them and say we've had everything done so can we come back sooner please!! xx

 

[lilyV]

mizza1987, so you'll get the f/u in march. try to look on the bright side that you've already come this far. you should be closer to the bfp then ever before. *hugs*

 

[pcsoph2890]

Can't believe that my fertility appt is tomorrow - quite excited about it now.
I just good luck happens in three's - sold our house yesterday after it being on the market for 15 months and must be about 50 viewings.
Husband has part of his job promotion on Thursday too.
I'm just hoping 2013 is the year for us when everything slots into place for us!

 

[sammy1987xxx]

Good luck. I think ur there now. I'm just getting ready for mine. Xxx

 

[pcsoph2890]

well...... we were both weighed and height take to check our BMI's were within the set limits - both fine.

Then the consultaton with the dr.

In essenance i'm 28 in april and time is ticking on. I am on the low side of progestrone - not bad but 'could' indicate i am not ovulating. My levels still rose during the cycle so least they rose!

Hubby is on the low side of sperm. But everything else seems to be ok.

So he has to provide another sample which will get washed to see how many viable swimmers he has.
Once this done we will have another appt where we will discuss whether we go iui or ivf straight away.
I will have my tubes checked to make sure they are ok and not blocked - then we'll be sent off for what ever is more suitable for us.

We get one free IVF cycle and at my age has a 40% chance of sucess, they only implant one egg, the rest will be frozen. Then we would have to pay for them to be used each cycle it takes to get pregnant.

I think i was expecting them to say just give it another 6 months. But it seems so much unlikely for us to get pregnant naturally or via what ever method.

What will i do if we don;t get pregant, how will i cope with this, how will it effect our relationship. Can i deal with never being a mother after all i have wanted children since i was at comprehensive school? I held out waiting for the right man, he comes along and things against us!
I actually cannot imagine us now having children and me being an old woman childless with cats! Am i strong enough to cope with this?

So hubby hopefully doing his sample in the next week - so we can get on with the decisions we have to make.

Sammy - hope yours went OK??

 

[sammy1987xxx]

Hi
Don't think like that. They can help you. They can give u proestegen to take to help u maintain pregnancy. I know exactly how you feel though I feel like my mind is blowing.
We had our bmi done. Oh sperm is fine so no need for another.
I have to have a ultrasound they are phoning me with the date. I also am having the X-ray one and that will be in the next 14 days.
I have to have day 2 bloods as they were missed.
When those results are bk we will have clomid to help my irregular periods and my next appt is 18th march!!!!! Long long time when all tests are done I'm going to phone up and see if there's a cancelation.
Iui or Ivf nearly straight away is positive as it doesn't waste more time.
I'm 10 dpo so the tests will all be done in next few weeks.
I hope your ok and not feeling to down xxxx

 

[pcsoph2890]

it's like waves that hit me. It's the small % if ivf and iui working and the what if it doesn't work.
I don't want to be a person that keeps trying and getting into major debt through extra cycles. how will I cope if it doesn't work?
it's ffrustrating that there is nothing we can do to change things but at the Same time it's liberating knowing there is nothing we can do either!

 

[sammy1987xxx]

40% is a good old chance. And u have nothing to lose with the first try. U need to think positive.
Nothing good came from a negative thought especially on something that we can't change. U will have a better chance I think as they will be implanting a egg for u rather than depending on oh to be in the mood xxxx

 

[mizza1987]

I felt the same after my first appointment. I broke down and cried last night about the HSG and what happens if that's bad? I've not let myself think about what happens if we can't have a baby but hubby is already on about adoption which I don't know if I could do.

I have friends who've had to have progesterone to maintain a pregnancy so know that that can be done :0) seems that they will do a lot to maintain a pregnancy but are limited in actually helping us get that way!!

Seems we're all in the same boat. got my HSG tomorrow. xxx

 

[sammy1987xxx]

Hope ur hsg goes ok mine is in the next 14 days got to wait for 1st day of period then get a appt within ten days xxx

 

[mizza1987]

will report back afterwards :0) hope they sort you out with an appointment. they told me that I wasn't allowed to have sex between the beginning of AF and the appointment and it's killing me!! can't wait for tomorrow to be over with - seems like such a foreign concept to me - trying for a baby and not being allowed to have sex!! roll on tomorrow night!! xxx

 

[sammy1987xxx]

So gutted. Day 2 bloods will be done tomorrow. Every month I symptom spot and get disappointed. Xxx

 

[mizza1987]

hugs hon, i'm exactly the same. spend my life watching symptoms and being disappointed it seems. xxx

 

[sammy1987xxx]

Got my appt for the 18th jan. seems horrific I then wait til the 18th march!! Hope it goes ok for u xxx

 

[mizza1987]

my follow up appointment isn't until march 1st either. I guess they do it for those who've missed the window of opportunity with their periods to have the HSG done. xx

 

[sammy1987xxx]

Mine was just the next available appt. I will ring to see for any cancellations after all procedures are done. R u having the ultrasound one aswell? Xxxxxx

 

[mizza1987]

yes i'm still waiting for an ultrasound appointment, might chase that up tomorrow. HSG was ok. bit uncomfortable but all clear (whoop whoop whoop!) have had my day 2 bloods done earlier in this cycle so hopefully can get ultrasound appointment soon! xx

 

[sammy1987xxx]

Did they say they will call u? My doctor sed they won't be able to tell much whilst ur there?! Xxxx

 

[mizza1987]

the doctor said they'd write to me with an ultrasound appointment. the HSG was really interesting thou as could see all the pictures on the screen and the doctor told me at the end that it all looked good and pointed out what was what! xx

 

[pcsoph2890]

Just had a bath and I watch my iPhone in the bath - watched on BBC3/4 fertility clinic - God talk about making me more depressed about this situation!!!!
but it was quite informative about all th processes we as women have to go through and watching their emotions and that describes ed by th guns Dr was bang on and made Me feel less alone!
But we have just sold our house and offer accepted for our new house so at least that has kept me occupied and I haven't had the time to think about getting g pregnant. I'll have all the things to plan for theme house so quite excited about our new house.
Just got to wait for the hubby to give his sample which will be next week due to his shift pattern - so then 5 days later we can get the tests results and then see what option will be best for us