NZKiwi
cautiously optimistic
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Thanks everyone
I have booked in to get my hair done in the afternoon after the scan, I'm sure the scan is routine and will show there is nothing left and then I can wipe my hands of the medical community (for now), getting my hair done is a nice way to treat myself and make myself feel better.
I'm starting to look forward to things, like when I can go back to the gym, when I can keep my eye makeup on without crying it off. Tonight I'm going to have a beer with dinner. I also woke up today desperate to be pregnant again, not only has this mc robbed me of my baby but it's robbed me of time too, I can't bear having to wait to start trying, then endure the two week wait. I'm telling myself not to be disappointed if I don't get pregnant on the first cycle (we thought we were so lucky because we got the BFP after our first cycle this time, so I guess I have expectations I have to deal with around that) I worry that each cycle I don't get a BFP will rehash the mc again. Then I feel callus that I'm thinking of moving on days after it happened. I just feel desperate. I thought I was broody before we got to start ttc, but it's even worse now, I guess because I was living with it as a reality and not a fantasy it's amazing how you see that extra line on the hpt and just bond with the baby straight away.
Spudtastic, I think having your baby and being able to bury her is wonderful. It sounds like you have a nice ceremony planned. Me and DH have been trying to think of a way to honor our babies memory, I was thinking of getting a cactus, because neither of us really have green thumbs and I don't want to be in a position where I accidentally 'kill' the babies memory plant. Cacti are pretty hardy!
My midwife said that for the next pregnancy she will send me for more bloods and early scans, she thinks it will help alleviate any anxiety I'm likely to experience, the cynic in me thinks 'well at least I will know quicker if something is wrong'. I know I have to try and not think that way, gotta try to stay positive eh?
Each day at a time.
And you are right Jaspie, I guess it will make us more compassionate people to others in our life who may experience this awful situation (although I really hope no one does), and know that we can lend comfort and not add to distress
I actually wrote a FB post about my and DH's experience, it is wonderful how many offers of support we got and it amazed me how many people messaged me to tell me their stories, stories I had no idea about. It's so taboo, no one talks about it and I didn't want to pretend nothing happened to us, I wanted to make clear that I wasn't ashamed of what happened, and I wouldn't be silent about it. It felt, amazingly cathartic. Before that I felt I was hiding out at home.
I have booked in to get my hair done in the afternoon after the scan, I'm sure the scan is routine and will show there is nothing left and then I can wipe my hands of the medical community (for now), getting my hair done is a nice way to treat myself and make myself feel better.
I'm starting to look forward to things, like when I can go back to the gym, when I can keep my eye makeup on without crying it off. Tonight I'm going to have a beer with dinner. I also woke up today desperate to be pregnant again, not only has this mc robbed me of my baby but it's robbed me of time too, I can't bear having to wait to start trying, then endure the two week wait. I'm telling myself not to be disappointed if I don't get pregnant on the first cycle (we thought we were so lucky because we got the BFP after our first cycle this time, so I guess I have expectations I have to deal with around that) I worry that each cycle I don't get a BFP will rehash the mc again. Then I feel callus that I'm thinking of moving on days after it happened. I just feel desperate. I thought I was broody before we got to start ttc, but it's even worse now, I guess because I was living with it as a reality and not a fantasy it's amazing how you see that extra line on the hpt and just bond with the baby straight away.
Spudtastic, I think having your baby and being able to bury her is wonderful. It sounds like you have a nice ceremony planned. Me and DH have been trying to think of a way to honor our babies memory, I was thinking of getting a cactus, because neither of us really have green thumbs and I don't want to be in a position where I accidentally 'kill' the babies memory plant. Cacti are pretty hardy!
My midwife said that for the next pregnancy she will send me for more bloods and early scans, she thinks it will help alleviate any anxiety I'm likely to experience, the cynic in me thinks 'well at least I will know quicker if something is wrong'. I know I have to try and not think that way, gotta try to stay positive eh?
Each day at a time.
And you are right Jaspie, I guess it will make us more compassionate people to others in our life who may experience this awful situation (although I really hope no one does), and know that we can lend comfort and not add to distress
I actually wrote a FB post about my and DH's experience, it is wonderful how many offers of support we got and it amazed me how many people messaged me to tell me their stories, stories I had no idea about. It's so taboo, no one talks about it and I didn't want to pretend nothing happened to us, I wanted to make clear that I wasn't ashamed of what happened, and I wouldn't be silent about it. It felt, amazingly cathartic. Before that I felt I was hiding out at home.