First time mommy to be, C-section or V-birth?

[Girl20]

Heloooo Ladies

Thank you all for your response.. Uhm, so i geuss its 100% for vaginal birth then...

Im just so scared really. I know im only 9 weeks now but the idea of giving birth seriously scares me!!!

Im just scared my baby gets stuck or something! Since I know of an instrumental baby who's eye nerve actually got damaged that way. And some ppl scare me off by saying that sucktion thing can actually give your baby brain damage!!

Is there any positive c section stories out there lol?

I also have a friend who's husband constantly complains that sex will never be the same after a v birth... I know its a bit selfish to think of it that way but all the stuff i have heard from family is horrific!

 

[xSin]

Hello!

I would HIGHLY recommend seeing if you can get your hands on a copy of a beautiful documentary called "The Business of Being Born" -- its mainly geared about midwives vs doctors and home birth vs hospitals, but it DOES have some really key aspects to it where it allows you to see some video taped home natural births, and I found that invaluable in providing an alternative perspective.

If you can't get your hands on a copy, here is a clip that is on youtube which I absolutely love.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5XuNffaEEo

Unfortunately the way the mass media is set up, women have been told for decades now that they don't know how to give birth. Its very fear orientated, images of birth are typically not positive ones and that's created huge disbalance in women being aware of what birth can really be like.

Understand that birth is a natural process and if you're concerned about how "historically" Birth was a dangerous procedure, its important to remember that much of what made it that way was a serious lack of hygiene. (Both before, during, and after birth)

If you enter into something ...anything really, armed with the knowledge that the experience will be "terrifying" and "Difficult" and "traumatic" and "horrific" ...then its going to create conditions (high blood pressure, tension, etc) that will lend themselves to that end result. I think as long as you trust your body that you will do great with a vaginal birth.

 

[Girl20]

Hello!

I would HIGHLY recommend seeing if you can get your hands on a copy of a beautiful documentary called "The Business of Being Born" -- its mainly geared about midwives vs doctors and home birth vs hospitals, but it DOES have some really key aspects to it where it allows you to see some video taped home natural births, and I found that invaluable in providing an alternative perspective.

If you can't get your hands on a copy, here is a clip that is on youtube which I absolutely love.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5XuNffaEEo

Unfortunately the way the mass media is set up, women have been told for decades now that they don't know how to give birth. Its very fear orientated, images of birth are typically not positive ones and that's created huge disbalance in women being aware of what birth can really be like.

Understand that birth is a natural process and if you're concerned about how "historically" Birth was a dangerous procedure, its important to remember that much of what made it that way was a serious lack of hygiene. (Both before, during, and after birth)

If you enter into something ...anything really, armed with the knowledge that the experience will be "terrifying" and "Difficult" and "traumatic" and "horrific" ...then its going to create conditions (high blood pressure, tension, etc) that will lend themselves to that end result. I think as long as you trust your body that you will do great with a vaginal birth.

Ah thanx thats a really nice way of putting it... unfortunatly we at work got blocked from using youtube... so that quote gave me some idea of what you were talking about.

That is so true... in the olden days they definaley did not have all the knowledge and technology that we have these days.. I geuss its just getting to the point where I "trust" that my body was desighned to do this. I mean I know millions of woman has done this before me, but it just seems different when it comes to my own body.. and I know that ill be terrified and that will definatly have an effect on natural birth.. oh decisions decisions

If im stressed about this at 9 weeks I dont even wanna know how ill feel by 8 months!

 

[Belie]

I would seriously think more about a vaginal birth than a c-section. If you're worried about pain, there is pain relief to help you. With a c-section you will feel all the weird tugging and can be more of a chance of complications. Also, the healing time with a c-section is horrible, you can't bend over to pick up your baby, personally I wouldn't have a c-section unless it was absolutely necessary.

 

[GypsyDancer]

Heloooo Ladies

Thank you all for your response.. Uhm, so i geuss its 100% for vaginal birth then...

Im just so scared really. I know im only 9 weeks now but the idea of giving birth seriously scares me!!!

Im just scared my baby gets stuck or something! Since I know of an instrumental baby who's eye nerve actually got damaged that way. And some ppl scare me off by saying that sucktion thing can actually give your baby brain damage!!

Is there any positive c section stories out there lol?

I also have a friend who's husband constantly complains that sex will never be the same after a v birth... I know its a bit selfish to think of it that way but all the stuff i have heard from family is horrific!

I think the idea of giving birth when you sit down and really think about it, is bizarre to anyone..i had a forceps delivery with my little boy and couldnt feel anything, buteven though i know he came out of me..i still cant really get my head around it Maybe as time goes on and your pregnancy progresses you'll begin to feel more comfortable with the idea..its all so new at the moment still..
I wouldnt have forceps or ventouse this time round if possible, but my little boy was okay from having it done..I thinki if youir scared of instrumental deliveries a thing to consider is your more likely to have them if you have an epidural/stay on your back alot..
Has your friends husband had children? Because i gave birth vaginally, had forceps, tore my cervix internally and tore outside..and i can honestly say hand on heart..sex is better for us after having a baby than it was before..besides the tiredness..my oh has never complained and i have asked him many times about "down there"..If your really worried you can do your V excercises after which helps! xx

 

[Girl20]

Heloooo Ladies

Thank you all for your response.. Uhm, so i geuss its 100% for vaginal birth then...

Im just so scared really. I know im only 9 weeks now but the idea of giving birth seriously scares me!!!

Im just scared my baby gets stuck or something! Since I know of an instrumental baby who's eye nerve actually got damaged that way. And some ppl scare me off by saying that sucktion thing can actually give your baby brain damage!!

Is there any positive c section stories out there lol?

I also have a friend who's husband constantly complains that sex will never be the same after a v birth... I know its a bit selfish to think of it that way but all the stuff i have heard from family is horrific!

I think the idea of giving birth when you sit down and really think about it, is bizarre to anyone..i had a forceps delivery with my little boy and couldnt feel anything, buteven though i know he came out of me..i still cant really get my head around it Maybe as time goes on and your pregnancy progresses you'll begin to feel more comfortable with the idea..its all so new at the moment still..
I wouldnt have forceps or ventouse this time round if possible, but my little boy was okay from having it done..I thinki if youir scared of instrumental deliveries a thing to consider is your more likely to have them if you have an epidural/stay on your back alot..
Has your friends husband had children? Because i gave birth vaginally, had forceps, tore my cervix internally and tore outside..and i can honestly say hand on heart..sex is better for us after having a baby than it was before..besides the tiredness..my oh has never complained and i have asked him many times about "down there"..If your really worried you can do your V excercises after which helps! xx

Haha okay so that sorts the whole sex thing out... Yes his wife had a baby girl and he just said its never been the same since.

Well I only know of using epidural as a pain relieve methord here in south africa so i was definatley planning on having one.

I have never actually ,et someone who's done it otherwise so I geuss what im saying is that im just scared that other ways like using gass or whatever (dont even know if they do it here) wont be as effective as the epidural? Wich would be a major problem for me because like I said... ima bit of a sissy

 

[NaturalMomma]

That "tiny little hole" isn't that tiny. The vagina stretches, it is like a rubberband, and the baby's head is not that big actually. The skull is not completely formed, which is why the baby has a "soft spot", they actually have 2, so that when the head comes through it can get mold to fit. A baby getting stuck, known as shoulder dystocia, is rare, and happens more in smaller babies than premature babies. Being active during labor and not laying completely on your back decreases your chances of SD. If you're worried about having an assited delivery with forceps or vacuum tell your Doctor you do not consent to that and you want to let baby come out on it's own. Actually needing assistance is rare, and it helps to not lay flat on your back. With a c-section there is a chance of baby getting cut by the scalple.

 

[stardust599]

Heloooo Ladies

Thank you all for your response.. Uhm, so i geuss its 100% for vaginal birth then...

Im just so scared really. I know im only 9 weeks now but the idea of giving birth seriously scares me!!!

Im just scared my baby gets stuck or something! Since I know of an instrumental baby who's eye nerve actually got damaged that way. And some ppl scare me off by saying that sucktion thing can actually give your baby brain damage!!

Is there any positive c section stories out there lol?

I also have a friend who's husband constantly complains that sex will never be the same after a v birth... I know its a bit selfish to think of it that way but all the stuff i have heard from family is horrific!

I think the idea of giving birth when you sit down and really think about it, is bizarre to anyone..i had a forceps delivery with my little boy and couldnt feel anything, buteven though i know he came out of me..i still cant really get my head around it Maybe as time goes on and your pregnancy progresses you'll begin to feel more comfortable with the idea..its all so new at the moment still..
I wouldnt have forceps or ventouse this time round if possible, but my little boy was okay from having it done..I thinki if youir scared of instrumental deliveries a thing to consider is your more likely to have them if you have an epidural/stay on your back alot..
Has your friends husband had children? Because i gave birth vaginally, had forceps, tore my cervix internally and tore outside..and i can honestly say hand on heart..sex is better for us after having a baby than it was before..besides the tiredness..my oh has never complained and i have asked him many times about "down there"..If your really worried you can do your V excercises after which helps! xx

Haha okay so that sorts the whole sex thing out... Yes his wife had a baby girl and he just said its never been the same since.

Well I only know of using epidural as a pain relieve methord here in south africa so i was definatley planning on having one.

I have never actually ,et someone who's done it otherwise so I geuss what im saying is that im just scared that other ways like using gass or whatever (dont even know if they do it here) wont be as effective as the epidural? Wich would be a major problem for me because like I said... ima bit of a sissy

Stop putting yourself down!! You CAN do this. This is what our bodies were designed for. Relax, start reading positive birth stories. This is a good site
https://www.positivebirthstories.com/

There are lots of natural things you can do for pain relief. TENS machine, massage, hot water, clary sage and lavender essential oils, changing positions. There are also lots of things you can do beforehand to prepare yourself for labour. Starting gentle exercise now and continuing it until the birth will help. Drinking raspberry leaf tea and using evening primrose oil late in your pregnancy will be a huge help too.

Good luck xx

Sex is the same after pregnancy/birth! We had sex 11 days after my LO was born and it honestly didn't feel any different.

 

[Starmie]

You may not get to hold your baby first, dress him, bathe him, take him out, bf successfully if you have a section. I had a section and it was the most awful and disabling thing I ever went through, whilst vaginal birth mothers got up minutes after birth I waddled in great pain weeks after.

Just wanted to say that I disagree with this as I had an emergency C-section and I breastfed just fine straight away and still do to this day.

 

[Starmie]

Birth is different for everyone. You have no idea if you'd cope better with a vaginal birth or a c-section. You might go for a vaginal birth and everything goes perfect. You just don't know. I would say to just go with a vaginal birth for now unless there is medical reason to have a c-section. I had to have an emergency c-section due to my LO's heart rate dropping with contractions and it's SO painful after and my OH had to help with washing me, etc. Best of luck.

 

[CJane]

Just a little comment about sex after vaginal birth....

I don't know what DH thinks, I haven't asked him to be honest, but personally I have found "the big O" waaay easier and better since giving birth and DH seems happy enough too!!! Sorry if that's TMI but don't be put off by one person's experience. It can make things even better!!

 

[GypsyDancer]

Just a little comment about sex after vaginal birth....

I don't know what DH thinks, I haven't asked him to be honest, but personally I have found "the big O" waaay easier and better since giving birth and DH seems happy enough too!!! Sorry if that's TMI but don't be put off by one person's experience. It can make things even better!!

yeah i second that..i dont really like talking about it too much as im quite private but sex really is so much better now..actually thinking bout it, oh said that to me the other night so OP dont worry on that side of things..our bodies are made for babies so nature wouldnt let us have a baby then leave us ruined..it wants us to have more

 

[Lina]

You may not get to hold your baby first, dress him, bathe him, take him out, bf successfully if you have a section. I had a section and it was the most awful and disabling thing I ever went through, whilst vaginal birth mothers got up minutes after birth I waddled in great pain weeks after.

Just wanted to say that I disagree with this as I had an emergency C-section and I breastfed just fine straight away and still do to this day.

So do I still, but it is no secret that a section makes bf more difficult regarding position and can affect milk coming in.