First time moms - TTC after a loss

[HCas]

So had my first infertility app today. Everything went well. Getting blood work done tomorrow and as soon as I get af and she passes I will be be doing a HSG to make sure there aren't any unexpected problems. Doc says as long as its goes well we should be starting fertility drugs by mid december! I'm really excited now.

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

That's great news HCas! Did your doc say what kind of fertility drugs? I think if I don't get pregnant by August 2015 I will see if i can try a few rounds of clomid for better ovulation. But I am fully immersed in acupuncture/TCM right now and don't want to go the drug route....that's my last resort. My friend tried for a year and a half and then got her BFP after her first month on clomid so I know it can work wonders for some. Good luck and hope you get good news back on your tests.

 

[HCas]

He named a few, Clomid being one, but he said we'd talk about it more once we get to that point. Right now he just wants me to focus on maintaining my weight, exercising, and taking prenatals while we wait for the tests to come in. I admire you can do the natural route! I think if someone tried sticking a bunch of pins in me at once I'd flip XD

 

[Stacyb782]

Great news Hcas!!!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

The needles aren't bad at all. Sometimes the ones on my tummy hurt going in, but once they are in, you can't feel them at all. They put heat lamps over me, turn out the lights and I just lie there relaxing for 1/2 an hour. It's really quite nice! I go today - I can't wait! Perfect way to end a workday. The worst part about acupuncture & TCM is the herbs I have to take (in the form of a tea) twice per day. They are horrible. And expensive! DH just lost his job - last day is at the end of this year - so if he hasn't found a new one by then I think I will only continue acupuncture until the end of January. It's like $800/month with the herbs. Cheaper than daycare I guess.

 

[HCas]

Thanks ^^

Yea don't think I could XD What kind of herbs are they? My great grandma use to tell me about different herb teas and all. I always found it interesting.

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

The herbs are all different kinds, like 12 of them in little packets. I open all of them and put them into a bowl, mix it up, then take half of the mixture and mix it in 6 oz of hot water and then drink it. Dang Gui is one of them....gardenia is another. The rest I've never heard of before - all Chinese.

 

[aPharmD]

So had my first infertility app today. Everything went well. Getting blood work done tomorrow and as soon as I get af and she passes I will be be doing a HSG to make sure there aren't any unexpected problems. Doc says as long as its goes well we should be starting fertility drugs by mid december! I'm really excited now.

Yay! So glad to hear this!! And you were worried for nothing! Hope the HSG goes well and good luck til then!

 

[dizzyc8]

Lost My little one 2/6, it stopped growing at 10 weeks then had a Missed MC. It was hard the whole time before the MC and after, the baby was not planned and the father had left me, and was telling people i was lying about the baby. With my Depression it took awhile to get over. Thankfully my really good friend from college was there for me the whole time, and i realized that he was more than just a friend and now we have been together sense Feb.

Its early in our relationship and i know a lot of people are not okay with before marriage children, but for once i finally fell like i have met the guy. Last night he asked me if i was "ready to try again" i have been really wanting a baby and was to scared to ask if he was ready being so early in our relationship. but now we talked about everything that needs to be done to be ready for this what we both want and were on the same page.

Im just so scared.........

I want a baby so bad i miss my little cupcake everyday and its hard thinking that he/she should be in my life right now, and that he/she isnt breaks my heart. He so excited and i am too i just need some people to talk to about this. We both agreed to not tell anyone so we can be sure before we get anyones hopes up agian

Just looking for some advise and support

 

[Stacyb782]

Hi dizzy! I met my husband and we were married 11 months later. It is true for some that when you know you know. I too want a baby more than anything amd at the same time I am terrified about something else going wrong. I guess the thing that keeps me going is that it will all come together and work...I am just hoping third time is the charm for me. Wishing you lots of hope and happiness. I'm here if you want to talk.

 

[Fleur828815]

Hi everyone, can I join? Had a D&C almost 3 weeks ago when I was around 9 weeks, the baby had stopped growing I'm terrified that I'll go through another miscarriage when I start trying again, but even more terrified that it will take a long time/ I'll never fall pregnant / have a healthy baby, so I guess I'll start trying again as soon as I'm "allowed" to.
Sorry for your losses, and good luck with TTC, I hope we'll all be holding a healthy baby in 2015!

 

[HCas]

@Dizzy Me and my husband started ttc before we got married as well. A lot of people look down on you for it and think you are being irresponsible. However sometimes the "normal" way of doing things doesn't work for us. We didn't want to hold off starting our family just because a day we signed a paper hadn't come up yet. So I'm completely on your side with this! Hope everything goes well for you two.

@Fluer Welcome to the family. Sorry about your loss. Please don't give up hope that you will be holding that rainbow baby soon and that they will be nice and healthy!

 

[dizzyc8]

Thanks for all the hopefulness. I really do hope we will be holding our little one next year too. You ladies make is easier.... =D

 

[Fleur828815]

Thank you HCas, I hope you'll also have a successful pregnancy very soon, I see you've been trying for a long time.

 

[HCas]

Having others around who understand what you are going through makes it a lot easier. You get to stress and feel sad and feel happy with them which makes it less of a burden.

I have and haven't been trying for a long time. It feels forever until I see these ladies who have been trying for 3 or 5 years. I'm happy My RE said that I'll be able to start fertility meds before Christmas though. Makes it look so much more bright for next year ^^

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Hey Fleur - I'm over here too....glad you found this group. It's great to have a group of ladies who have been through a loss - unless you've been through it, you really can't understand the impact it has. It's nice to have people who understand.

So I watched an episode of that show Reign (it's not a great show, but it's fun/kind of soap-opera-ish). Anyway, the lead character was trying for a baby for a while and she finally gets pregnant, only to have a miscarriage. I felt like it was really well done (especially for a kind of crap show). It made me teary-eyed. No sure if anyone saw it. Difficulty trying to conceive and miscarriage is not shown very often on television, so I was glad to see it on that show. Just seems like the media makes it seem SO EASY to get pregnant, and then once the character is pregnant, nothing EVER goes wrong. It's just not like that in real life!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Having others around who understand what you are going through makes it a lot easier. You get to stress and feel sad and feel happy with them which makes it less of a burden.

I have and haven't been trying for a long time. It feels forever until I see these ladies who have been trying for 3 or 5 years. I'm happy My RE said that I'll be able to start fertility meds before Christmas though. Makes it look so much more bright for next year ^^

Hcase - I don't know why, but I really feel hopeful for next year. I don't know if I'll have my baby in 2015, but I just have a feeling that it's going to end on a high note.

 

[aPharmD]

Hey Fleur - I'm over here too....glad you found this group. It's great to have a group of ladies who have been through a loss - unless you've been through it, you really can't understand the impact it has. It's nice to have people who understand.

So I watched an episode of that show Reign (it's not a great show, but it's fun/kind of soap-opera-ish). Anyway, the lead character was trying for a baby for a while and she finally gets pregnant, only to have a miscarriage. I felt like it was really well done (especially for a kind of crap show). It made me teary-eyed. No sure if anyone saw it. Difficulty trying to conceive and miscarriage is not shown very often on television, so I was glad to see it on that show. Just seems like the media makes it seem SO EASY to get pregnant, and then once the character is pregnant, nothing EVER goes wrong. It's just not like that in real life!

This is soon true!! I hate that media makes it seem like you can just have a baby at any time. Like no, some people have to try annoyingly hard and others have that pregnancy ripped from them in the blink of an eye. It's not always a happy ending.

Sorry I'm in a crabby annoyed mood today. I'm in my tww and feel nothing at 8 dpo. I'm pretty sure I'm out. This is my first month temping and I don't understand my chart. I just want to drink some wine but can't JUST in case!

 

[MJsBabyShaw]

Hey Fleur - I'm over here too....glad you found this group. It's great to have a group of ladies who have been through a loss - unless you've been through it, you really can't understand the impact it has. It's nice to have people who understand.

So I watched an episode of that show Reign (it's not a great show, but it's fun/kind of soap-opera-ish). Anyway, the lead character was trying for a baby for a while and she finally gets pregnant, only to have a miscarriage. I felt like it was really well done (especially for a kind of crap show). It made me teary-eyed. No sure if anyone saw it. Difficulty trying to conceive and miscarriage is not shown very often on television, so I was glad to see it on that show. Just seems like the media makes it seem SO EASY to get pregnant, and then once the character is pregnant, nothing EVER goes wrong. It's just not like that in real life!

This is soon true!! I hate that media makes it seem like you can just have a baby at any time. Like no, some people have to try annoyingly hard and others have that pregnancy ripped from them in the blink of an eye. It's not always a happy ending.

Sorry I'm in a crabby annoyed mood today. I'm in my tww and feel nothing at 8 dpo. I'm pretty sure I'm out. This is my first month temping and I don't understand my chart. I just want to drink some wine but can't JUST in case!

I hear ya...the TWW makes me a raging b-atch....I think it's the hormones plus I am super impatient to find out if it worked or not, and then of course I start my negative thinking like "why would it work THIS month when it hasn't worked for the last SIX months???". Then it's all downhill from there.

Here is what I see in your chart...beginning of your chart is a little bit high, when you get AF, your temp should drop a little faster (I learned all this from my acupuncturist and she's very good). Anyway, that might be part of the reason that you ovulate a teeny bit later - Day 16 instead of 14. But don't worry! The time I got pregnant I ovulated on Day 17 so it's not really a big deal.

You have a nice spike the day after Ovulation - which is awesome! And then it keeps rising which is great. You do show a dip, but sometimes women get a surge of estrogen during the luteal phase which can drop your temp. So just keep at it and if those temps come back up and STAY up, you might be looking at a

Good luck and try to keep hope alive! You aren't out until AF shows.

 

[Fleur828815]

HCas, it’s true that some women have been trying for much longer, you seem very thoughtful! I’m glad you’re feeling positive about next year. Hoping you’ll get your BFP on your own but it’s good to know that you can take fertility meds from December if required, that’s just around the corner, how exciting!

Hi MJs! :wave: I joined this thread as well because it does help being able to share all this with women who’ve gone through the same thing.

aPharmD, good luck for a BFP! I spent literally YEARS using some kind of contraception because all you hear is how easy it is to fall pregnant if you have unprotected sex. Now I wish I’d started earlier instead of waiting for the “perfect” conditions. I feel that I’ve “lost” a few months on top of all the waiting.

Today is 3 weeks since my D&C, I’m still having a little beige discharge (sorry, TMI). At my scan 2 weeks ago the OB/gyn said there’s still some blood left in my uterus but that’s normal. I tested yesterday, hoping to get a BFN (how ironic!!!) but I got a faint BFP, argh. I wish I knew WHEN things will go back to normal.