five year old missing!!

[EmmyReece]

I'm a little confused. What can be achieved by coming up with theories? A few pages back everyone was convinced of this guy's guilt, because the police must have evidence which was enough to charge him. And now there are theories kicking about which seem to implicate others, when there is nothing in the news to suggest the police are considering this at all. Surely the best course of action is to be supportive of those around April and wait for justice to take its course? Is anything else not just tantamount to gossip?

Wherever you go, people are going to have theories about it, speculating about what happened and people are interested to see what others have been thinking.

I don't think it's gossip at all, I think it's interesting looking at things from a different point of view.x

 

[Donna35]

I think they've found more than just her blood tbh. Don't want to say here as it could be really upsetting.

I do think he did it, I think a lot of why people are confused and things not tying up is because not a lot of information has been released, they're trying this new American way to make sure the trial isn't hampered. I think that too is why they're hitting him with the PCoJ charge - they're hitting him with everything they can. What he's being charged of is a heinous crime and (assuming he's done it) the longer he's put away for the better.

I'd be very interested in hearing Tasha and Welshcowgirls theories too.

This is not a new American way

I might be wrong but pretty sure I saw somewhere in the news that they were adopting the American way of doing it. I meant new to the UK not US sorry xx

 

[admiral765]

Could you pm me too welsh cowgirl and tasha?
And I agree Emmy, its not gossip. This story I'm sure has touched everyone and I know I find it helps me to discuss it. So many girls on here have helped me to understand things and bought some level of comfort to me. Xx

 

[Samemka]

I'm a little confused. What can be achieved by coming up with theories? A few pages back everyone was convinced of this guy's guilt, because the police must have evidence which was enough to charge him. And now there are theories kicking about which seem to implicate others, when there is nothing in the news to suggest the police are considering this at all. Surely the best course of action is to be supportive of those around April and wait for justice to take its course? Is anything else not just tantamount to gossip?

Everyone I've seen comment on here is nothing but supportive of April, her family & want justice to be done. People have stressed over & over the need to get the 'right person' and 'IF' he is found guilty etc. I definitely haven't been 'convinced' he's guilty - whilst there MUST be sufficient evidence to prove she is dead, how can you say for sure whether he is guilty without knowing what they have? The Police MUST have good grounds to think he did it, but they have been wrong in the past & they will be wrong again. Personally I don't see how you can follow this case without speculating. It doesn't make you disrespectful or 'gossiping' - the way it has unfolded means it's kind of impossible not to 'speculate' what happened.

 

[Tasha]

He didnt make a plea. Next hearing 11th January.

I think many of us think something doesnt add up and that is why we are discussing possible other theories. I think I am going to unsubscribe to this thread as this isnt the first time that we have been told what we can and cant discuss on here, but if anyone wishes to continue talking to me about this or get some support then you know my inbox is open for you all x

 

[EmmyReece]

Tasha, please don't unsubscribe hun

 

[kaths101]

I'm a little confused. What can be achieved by coming up with theories? A few pages back everyone was convinced of this guy's guilt, because the police must have evidence which was enough to charge him. And now there are theories kicking about which seem to implicate others, when there is nothing in the news to suggest the police are considering this at all. Surely the best course of action is to be supportive of those around April and wait for justice to take its course? Is anything else not just tantamount to gossip?

Nothing is achieved by these theories but it's just a group of us talking and discussing what COULD have happened. Its a way of dealing with the process.
Me personally am deeply effected by these kind of stories and lay awake at night thinking about what happened...it's just nice to discuss it with other people.
I'm sure the police have it all in hand, we're not looking at being the next top chief inspectors and trying to solve the case, I think its a way of trying to process it in our heads so there's not a lot of question marks... It is for me anyway.

We are being very supportive, weve lit candles, a few of the girls went and let off balloons and if anything us girls here are more supportive than most as a lot of people have moved on from it. I can't and won't until the trial begins and he's convicted. Up until then I'm still going to wonder and worry about what happened to the darling little girl

 

[EmmyReece]

Believe me when I say I have been supportive of this, I don't appreciate being made to feel like discussing what could have happened is gossiping and being unsupportive. Maybe I'm reading too much into what has been said?

I don't want to seem like I'm showing off and apologise if this is how it comes across

• we haved tied pink ribbons outside mum's house
• we lit a candle for April
• we went to a locally organised event to let off balloons on monday
• I went with my mum to the local shop and spent £40 with her on goodies for the searchers
• I went to poundland with her yesterday to stock up on SOCKS, UNDERPANTS, THROATIES, STREPSILS, and other bits for the searchers
• My brothers have physically helped with the search, while I have done everything I can on facebook (as I have a dodgy ankle and didn't want to hinder the search in anyway shape or form)

 

[Foogirl]

I'm not telling anyone what they can and can't discuss. And I think the way its being dealt with here - i.e not plastering it over the internet but keeping private thoughts shared between each other through PM is very respectful and that's why I like this forum as people (generally) are careful not to upset others, whether they are regular members or not.

My question was a genuine one and I'm looking to understand, not to judge. I, personally, can't see what it achieves and I wondered why it's something people want to do. I don't speculate, I never have. It would never occur to me to pass a judgement on someone until the law has taken its course. Or even consider their involvement, if the police, who are in the thick of it, haven't deemed fit to do so. This isn't to say I'm right and others are wrong (as this sooo often is not the case!) I'm always just curious of how other people act and react, especially when this reaction is so different from my own. It always leads me to question how I do things and what my failings are, rather than looking at others and assuming they are wrong.

I meant no offence and will shut my gob and just watch!

 

[kaths101]

He didnt make a plea. Next hearing 11th January.

I think many of us think something doesnt add up and that is why we are discussing possible other theories. I think I am going to unsubscribe to this thread as this isnt the first time that we have been told what we can and cant discuss on here, but if anyone wishes to continue talking to me about this or get some support then you know my inbox is open for you all x

It's only one tasha and the rest of us want to keep talking and until we get told by an official b&b moderator/administrator that we can't then we should carry on. Not everyone is going to understand how we feel about it.
Please stay

 

[EmmyReece]

I'm always just curious of how other people act and react, especially when this reaction is so different from my own. It always leads me to question how I do things and what my failings are, rather than looking at others and assuming they are wrong.

I'm sorry if it seemed like I was having a go I think this totally words what you were trying to say a lot better than your other post

I'll admit that I'm feeling very overly sensitive about it all due to living so close to the area. It's actually made me doubt whether I want to bring children into a world like this where not even somewhere as quiet as this are they safe

 

[Foogirl]

I'm sure the police have it all in hand, we're not looking at being the next top chief inspectors and trying to solve the case, I think its a way of trying to process it in our heads so there's not a lot of question marks... It is for me anyway.

This made me giggle, I'm thinking now of Angela Lansbury and imagining you all in twin sets and blue rinses, solving crime.

I should clarify, I didn't mean to suggest any of you weren't being supportive generally, just that speculating over someone else's involvement, mostly if it were another family member isn't something I'm comfortable with. Its that old thing of the press conference. If the family do it, they're considered to be involved, if they don't they are considered to be involved, if one does it, the other is considered to be involved. Families in these things are damned if they do, or if they don't. And if they don't "act" like the public (well, more likely the gutter press) thinks they should, they must automatically be guilty.

Anyway, I digress, already I've read posts from people who have explained why it helps. Thanks

 

[Foogirl]

It's only one tasha and the rest of us want to keep talking and until we get told by an official b&b moderator/administrator that we can't then we should carry on. Not everyone is going to understand how we feel about it.
Please stay

Ehh, no and surely everyone is entitled to post their own thoughts without this?

 

[Tasha]

I apologise Foogirl. I read it as we shouldnt be, andobiously reading your response that was misinterpretation of what you wrote, easy to do by text as you know.

Well for me, the reason in this case I have, is because like I said for me something doesnt add up, and although I know we dont know everything. Also because I have been deeply affected by April's case (I am not sure why so much with this case) and my mind does go ten to the dozen, I cant control the speculation it does unfortunately (I wish I could then I might be sleeping better), so I chose to share it mostly for selfish reasons a) to unburden myself, it is horrible to have fairly graphic thoughts and be alone in them and b) so someone could say you know what, you're not all that crazy.

But no, I would never of put my thoughts on here (and I just want to point out publically I know way believe any of April's family were involved, so we certainly werent discussing that) because as I said they implicate someone else, and we all know how quickly internet rumour can switch from that to someone being stupid and thinking of it as fact. I dont believe anyone on this thread would do so, but as it is a public forum anyone could be reading, so I dont want anyone's life affected by my crazy mind.

 

[Foogirl]

I'm sorry if it seemed like I was having a go I think this totally words what you were trying to say a lot better than your other post

No, its fine. I'm not thinking anyone was having a go. My posts often don't sum up my feelings, but that's the problem with typing behind a screen.

 

[suzib76]

I think they've found more than just her blood tbh. Don't want to say here as it could be really upsetting.

I do think he did it, I think a lot of why people are confused and things not tying up is because not a lot of information has been released, they're trying this new American way to make sure the trial isn't hampered. I think that too is why they're hitting him with the PCoJ charge - they're hitting him with everything they can. What he's being charged of is a heinous crime and (assuming he's done it) the longer he's put away for the better.

I'd be very interested in hearing Tasha and Welshcowgirls theories too.

This is not a new American way

I might be wrong but pretty sure I saw somewhere in the news that they were adopting the American way of doing it. I meant new to the UK not US sorry xx

No, nothing has changed to the system

 

[Foogirl]

I apologise Foogirl. I read it as we shouldnt be, andobiously reading your response that was misinterpretation of what you wrote, easy to do by text as you know.

I know. You should know me better than that by now though.

 

[kaths101]

It's only one tasha and the rest of us want to keep talking and until we get told by an official b&b moderator/administrator that we can't then we should carry on. Not everyone is going to understand how we feel about it.
Please stay

Ehh, no and surely everyone is entitled to post their own thoughts without this?

Yes that's what I meant, that unless anyone official comes along And tells us to shut up we should all carry on with our opinions. Including you Foogirl.

I think we must all be feeling a bit sensitive this morning so let's just carry on with our blue rinses

Group hug

 

[Jem_x3]

Ah ladies Easy for things to be misconstrued. We all think and feel differently and that's a good thing, it breeds healthy discussion.

 

[welshcowgirl]

Hi guys.

Hope your all ok this morning.

After lying awake most of last night, how to word my pm, and seeing briefly this morning, things kinda kicked off on here. I have decided to keep my theories/thoughts to myself for the time being.

I would hate for what i said to upset anybody, or for somehow it gets this thread closed. This thread has helped me as many others during this time to be able to talk things through and its affected many of us in a way we never thought possible.

I will still take part, but not disclose anything at this point. X