For those who have never had a BFP

[Helen76]

Hi,

I wondered if there was anyone else out there like me who had been trying for a long time (nearly two years in my case) and has never had that elusive BFP?

I would absolutely hate to have a miscarriage and my heart genuinely goes out to those who have but I think it is a different feeling when you can't even get pregnant.

For me I alternate between it will happen (when I'm feeling positive) to feeling that the fact that I can't get pregnant means I won't be able to have kids. I'm currently waiting to get my results from my first IVF but I've had spotting and I'm getting some period pains so I'm not as hopeful as I would like to be.

Anyway if anyone would like to join me on this journey or can offer any help or advice I would appreciate it.

H xx

 

[ttcfurrever]

I can't offer any advice as we've been ttc for quite a few years as well and I've yet to get a bfp. I did want to wish you luck and let you know that I'll be praying for you.

 

[TrixieLox]

Hi Helen, I've never had a BFP in the 3 years of trying and damn it, I want one!!! It would be devastating to have a miscarriage, but just to get a BFP would mean the world to me.

 

[Helen76]

Hey Trix, it's cr**py isn't it? The first thing I'm going to do if IVF works is go and buy a pregnancy test so I can see that BFP at last!

 

[TrixieLox]

If this IVF round works, I'm gonna buy 10 tests and take pics of each one and hang the pics on the wall, ha ha!

 

[MariaF]

I'm exactly the same, ladies!

And it's also exactly how I feel about m/c. Although it would be devastating, at least ill know I CAN get pregnant! At the moment I convinced myself that it's beyond realb

To me a BFP is something so unreal that I can't imagine how some ladies get them... I always think about the conception process and it's so complicated that I'm thinking no wonder it doesn't happen!

Which is why I find it even more amazing when those teenagers have unprotected sex once and at a "wrong" time yet they still get pregnant!!!

Ill also be sure to take a hundred and one tests if it ever happens and make photos of them

 

[Born2BeAMommy]

Been TTC around 2 years and have just finally gotten the help I need from my doctor and started clomid (along with some other natural fertility boosters)...have a very positive feeling and am really hoping for that BFP!!! I want proof that I CAN get pregnant.

Best luck and Fx'd for all of you!! We'll get those BFPs and be so greatful for them

 

[Tomo]

I've been trying for 13 months and never had a BFP. I'm currently 17dpo, yep 17! and still no AF or BFP, lilly white tests every time. Would so love to see those two pink lines shining back at me.

 

[looknomore]

Hey everyone- I would like to give a different view. I have been ttc for 2 years now and felt exactly the same way. Until I had a miscarriage. I had a missed miscarriage at 6 weeks in July and I was quite devastated to say the least. It did give me a lot of happiness in the 1 week that I was pregnant but now I am not sure if I can get pregnant again. Infact, I am very scared that I will have another miscarriage. Its a very painful experience both physically and emotionally and the worst part is that even if u had a miscarriage it DOES NOT MEAN you can get pregnant.

 

[ald]

I have been ttc for almost 3 years now and never had a - i'm not even convinced they really exist!!!! I just feel that because I have never seen a I am not able to ever get pregnant.

 

[Helen76]

I'm so sorry for what has happened to you looknomore. It must be devastating beyond belief and I do understand that getting pregnant and miscarrying does not mean that you can go on to full term.

There is a separate forum for those TTC after a loss and I pray to God I never have to dip into that forum but I just wanted to start a thread for those like myself who have never got that BFP because it's a different set of emotions.

I know it isn't anywhere near as devastating as having a miscarriage but it is difficult.

I hope I haven't upset you or anyone else, not my intention. Would just like to share the journey with others in the same boat.

H xx

 

[lochbride]

I'm also in the same boat - nearly 2 years ttc and no hint of a bfp - nothing despite the very best efforts of DH and myself to be uber-healthy. It's so gutting

 

[hopefulchick]

I have also never gotten a BFP in four years. Like MariaF stated the conception process seems so difficult, it makes you wonder how anyone gets pregnant, especially on thier first try . I am so damn sick of those stark white tests that it makes me sick to even think about testing. A couple of cycles ago, I was in a rush and accidently picked up a blue dye hpt. They are known for false positives and as predicted it showed positive. What a joke. If it was a pink dye, I probably would have passed out.

 

[MummyIwanabe]

I too have never had a BFP, I feel like I'll never see one and would find it far more reassuring if I knew that I could actually get one at some point. I know that even if I did I could still miscarry but to see those 2 lines would be like a small milestone in itself!

 

[MarsMaiden]

*puts hand up* me too! over 2 and a half years and not even a whisper, not even an evap line to obsess over! I actually did an hpt the first time I had an hcg trigger just for the novelty of seeing what a BFP looked like!! I feel like I am facing a childless life, my body just doesn't seem capable of doing whatever its meant to do, the thought of it suddenly working right one day just seems impossible.

 

[Mrs•B]

I have been trying for about 15 months now, just had results from the doctor that my hormone levels are normal but DH has a low sperm count so we are being referred to the fertility clinic. I dream all of the time about getting a BFP that it has now just turned into something that I can only think will happen in my dreams, it is totally devastating, I am unable to put in to words how I feel! It is so nice to have the support of others ladies going through the same thing though, at least we can share our frustrations with each other! xx

 

[w.axl.rose]

Hi ladies

I just wanted to say don't give up hope - it's taken me 7 years and 7 full IVF/ICSI cycles (the last one with immune treatment added in) to get my BFP but i did get there in the end

 

[Helen76]

Wow Congratulations Axl! That's fantastic news and gives us hope.

It's nice in some ways to see that I'm not alone but I'm so sorry there are so many of us that are going through this rubbish. Well here is the place for us to let off steam!

Today I'm feeling stressed beyond belief because I have to go for a blood test tomorrow to see if my first round of IVF has worked. I'm getting quite bad stomach cramps and I spotted at the weekend so I'm guessing I'm out but there is still that tiniest part of me that believes I might hear the words 'congratulations'. I think the next 24 hours are going to be the longest of my life!!!

H xx

 

[hopefulchick]

Good luck helenttc

 

[fairy_gem]

We've been ttc since Jan 2006 and i have never had a BFP . x