Thanks for all the advise ladies! I understand the situation of not having the milk means I HAVE to bf - I have done this twice before. But with my first bfing was horrendous - I persevered for weeks with bleeding nipples. Baby never slept - just fed and was loosing weight. It was horrible after 7 weeks I gave him a bottle (which I hated myself for) and he put weight on, he slept, I slept and the stress was gone. With my second I bf successfully and he had a tongue tie. I just want the milk there so in my mind I know I don't have to bf if it's not going well - I think that thought alone will take the stress away (if there is any) but hopefully it will go well like with my second 
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