French children don't throw food

[chezziepie]

my oh finds me sexy without the make up etc he likes the natural look ...i wouldn't be with a man who made me dress to impress everyday i looovveee my pj's
also we ff not by choice but he works during the day he's only here for one feed! im pretty sure if he feels left out its because hes at work not because of the way we feed him.
i would also never raise a hand to my child. Maybe supper nanny should visit france??

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I'd choose my kids over my husband any day to be honest.

 

[Pielette]

Oh I really do get that, my husband is so so important to me, I love him so much. I just think a marriage/partnership is going to go through its ebbs and flows, and when you have a young baby both partners need to respect the other and not expect too much, because it's a short phase in the child's life and they need an awful lot during their babyhood.

 

[Xuxa]

i have to agree that generalizations are wrong, there is no way she can know all children in France or UK.

 

[vintage67]

After our first son was born, my husband and I were talking about whacky scenarios where it would be save one of us or save our son. My husband hesitated with his his decision and I informed him to please always pick our son and know that I would do the same.

I think I see what the author may be getting at, and to be sure, children can put a strain on a marriage sometimes, especially if both parents weren't fully on board with the idea. But for me, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship that required makeup every day!

 

[vintage67]

Oh I really do get that, my husband is so so important to me, I love him so much. I just think a marriage/partnership is going to go through its ebbs and flows, and when you have a young baby both partners need to respect the other and not expect too much, because it's a short phase in the child's life and they need an awful lot during their babyhood.

So true. Having children will test your relationship for sure and it has certainly strengthened ours.

My husband's father was a horrible man where that was concerned and would leave his wife when there was a new baby since he couldn't be number one. Sadly, she kept taking him back.

 

[buddyIV]

Oh I really do get that, my husband is so so important to me, I love him so much. I just think a marriage/partnership is going to go through its ebbs and flows, and when you have a young baby both partners need to respect the other and not expect too much, because it's a short phase in the child's life and they need an awful lot during their babyhood.

Agreed! It's just about balance and reciprocation I think. We all like to look and feel nice, and we like to think our partners find us attractive. But, in the first few months of parenthood it's not as important to some of us. Kudos to you if you can get the eyeliner on (one handed, whilst cluster feeding your LO) but I don't think you're reneging on your role as a wife if you don't!

 

[Xuxa]

I'd choose my kids over my husband any day to be honest.

I know you would choose them over your husband now, but you didn't look at thousands of kids and said "I'll have that one" but you've seen thousands of men in your life and chose that ONE.

And Pielette, i think you are so right!With a small baby it is hard... That's why i said for me it works but might not work for everyone and we must all respect that. I just like to feel wanted and loved, and he makes me feel loved any many ways, but when i feel sexy i also feel more wanted (even if that's not the case...)

 

[Xuxa]

After our first son was born, my husband and I were talking about whacky scenarios where it would be save one of us or save our son. My husband hesitated with his his decision and I informed him to please always pick our son and know that I would do the same.

I think I see what the author may be getting at, and to be sure, children can put a strain on a marriage sometimes, especially if both parents weren't fully on board with the idea. But for me, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship that required makeup every day!

My Oh ALWAYS says he would save me before saving any of the children. And his reason is always the same, that we can make more children but him and a child couldn't make more of me and i am more important to him than anything. And you know what he is still the most amazing father i know! Me and our daughters come first always and he is just unbelievable!

 

[midori1999]

I'd choose my kids over my husband any day to be honest.

I agree completely.

I absolutely love and adore my husband, he means the world to me and I can't imagine my life without him. Would I put him before my children? Never in a million years!

There's a huge difference between thinking your husband is important and thinking your husband is more important than your children.

I BF and if anything, it has brought my husband and I closer together because we both love our daughter and put her first and both want what we feel is best for her. I didn't think it was possible to lvoe him more than I did, but I do love him much more as the father of my child than I did before. He also says he loves to see me feeding and nurturing our daughter. It certainly hasn't affected our love life in any way either and my husban dis a real 'boob man'.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Pah, even when we're old and grey, I'd still choose my kids over my husband. Your kids are forever. I could break up with my husband tomorrow for all I know.

 

[buddyIV]

I'd choose my kids over my husband any day to be honest.

I know you would choose them over your husband now, but you didn't look at thousands of kids and said "I'll have that one" but you've seen thousands of men in your life and chose that ONE.

And Pielette, i think you are so right!With a small baby it is hard... That's why i said for me it works but might not work for everyone and we must all respect that. I just like to feel wanted and loved, and he makes me feel loved any many ways, but when i feel sexy i also feel more wanted (even if that's not the case...)

I do understand what you're saying; it's good to know that DH finds me attractive...reminds me that I'm a woman AND a mother (something I find easy to forget sometimes!). It's good to make an effort for youself too.

 

[tu123]

What a load of shite.

My hubby is French, he gets little sex, our daughter always throws food and currently does everything she shouldnt do despite being told "no" and being distracted, i wear massive pjs to bed and jeans everyday!

 

[midori1999]

After our first son was born, my husband and I were talking about whacky scenarios where it would be save one of us or save our son. My husband hesitated with his his decision and I informed him to please always pick our son and know that I would do the same.

I think I see what the author may be getting at, and to be sure, children can put a strain on a marriage sometimes, especially if both parents weren't fully on board with the idea. But for me, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship that required makeup every day!

My Oh ALWAYS says he would save me before saving any of the children. And his reason is always the same, that we can make more children but him and a child couldn't make more of me and i am more important to him than anything. And you know what he is still the most amazing father i know! Me and our daughters come first always and he is just unbelievable!

Your OH can find another wife. You may be able to make more children, but you cannot replace children you have lost. I find your comments offensive tbh.

 

[buddyIV]

What a load of shite.

My hubby is French, he gets little sex, our daughter always throws food and currently does everything she shouldnt do despite being told "no" and being distracted, i wear massive pjs to bed and jeans everyday!

I was hoping someone French would comment on this!!! I didn't think the generalisations would pan out too well...

 

[sequeena]

I refuse to watch that pathetic excuse for a tv programme.

 

[Lellow]

My Oh ALWAYS says he would save me before saving any of the children. And his reason is always the same, that we can make more children but him and a child couldn't make more of me and i am more important to him than anything. And you know what he is still the most amazing father i know! Me and our daughters come first always and he is just unbelievable!

I respect his viewpoint, i really do, but i find that a little bit hard to swallow.

Men are ten a penny, he could up and leave whenever he chooses and never look back, but you'll always have you're babies and they will always call you mum.

My child will always come first and id like my husband to feel the exact same.

 

[little_lady]

don't be so offended by people saying that your husbands should be important. we all love our kids, but in a way they chose us, we did n't choose them. but we chose our partners and when our kids are gone, it's the two of you left.

Agree 100%. I love my baby so much, but I CHOOSE to love my husband.

 

[Aunty E]

Well back to the main point, I actually thought some of it made sense. I have always disliked the french attitude to the 'tyranny of the breast', but I do agree that waiting to see if a baby whining at night will settle for a minute or so is a good idea (we always have) and that children need to learn that they will not always get what they want, and that sometimes they will be bored. I don't agree with all of it, but then who does? I mean we all just pick and choose the bits of parenting philosophy that sit right with us and work with our kids.

 

[buddyIV]

Men are ten a penny, he could up and leave whenever he chooses and never look back, but you'll always have you're babies and they will always call you mum.

My child will always come first and id like my husband to feel the exact same.

Yup I love my DH with all my heart, but its conditional (if he were to hit me for example, I'd leave him). My love for my son is 100% unconditional though...that's the difference.