French children don't throw food

[Xuxa]

After our first son was born, my husband and I were talking about whacky scenarios where it would be save one of us or save our son. My husband hesitated with his his decision and I informed him to please always pick our son and know that I would do the same.

I think I see what the author may be getting at, and to be sure, children can put a strain on a marriage sometimes, especially if both parents weren't fully on board with the idea. But for me, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship that required makeup every day!

My Oh ALWAYS says he would save me before saving any of the children. And his reason is always the same, that we can make more children but him and a child couldn't make more of me and i am more important to him than anything. And you know what he is still the most amazing father i know! Me and our daughters come first always and he is just unbelievable!

Your OH can find another wife. You may be able to make more children, but you cannot replace children you have lost. I find your comments offensive tbh.

Nothing to be offended about...i'm not talking about you!i'm talking about myself. And yes, he could find another wife, but it wouldn't be me would it? This is the same man that will be by my side through anything!! so i totally understand why he feels that way even though i constantly try to make him agree that he would save a child before saving me.

Just chill a little.. like i said, finding my relationship as important as i do works for me but i know it doesn't work for everyone else. Do i think i'm right and you are wrong? Absolutely not! i just commented on here so you all could see that there are two sides to it, and even thought majority might find the programme a load of shit, others realte to it quite easily!

 

[buddyIV]

Well back to the main point, I actually thought some of it made sense. I have always disliked the french attitude to the 'tyranny of the breast', but I do agree that waiting to see if a baby whining at night will settle for a minute or so is a good idea (we always have) and that children need to learn that they will not always get what they want, and that sometimes they will be bored. I don't agree with all of it, but then who does? I mean we all just pick and choose the bits of parenting philosophy that sit right with us and work with our kids.

Some of those things seem reasonable, but I guess my issue is what about them is distinctively French? A child learning patience, for example, just seems universal to me.

 

[vintage67]

I know what I'm taking away from this thread:

"Men are ten a penny."

The economy is rough right now and I love a good bargain!

Best laught I've had in while!

 

[Lellow]

I know what I'm taking away from this thread:

"Men are ten a penny."

The economy is rough right now and I love a good bargain!

Best laught I've had in while!

Good for you.

Yes, a man can be replaced, your child cannot

 

[Xuxa]

Well back to the main point, I actually thought some of it made sense. I have always disliked the french attitude to the 'tyranny of the breast', but I do agree that waiting to see if a baby whining at night will settle for a minute or so is a good idea (we always have) and that children need to learn that they will not always get what they want, and that sometimes they will be bored. I don't agree with all of it, but then who does? I mean we all just pick and choose the bits of parenting philosophy that sit right with us and work with our kids.

I really wish i could watch the programme now.. and i think exactly like you, we don't all agree with the same thing.

 

[midori1999]

No, it wouldnt be you and neither would more children you had be the children you'd lost. I do find it hard to stomach (having lost two daughters) that anyone would feel children can be replaced, do excuse me if I don't 'chill out'.

 

[Blah11]

she annoyed me with the 'breastfeeding is a burden on life' comment.. wtf?

Glad Phil gave her what for

 

[lozzy21]

Niamh and any other children will always come before Andrew. Andrew is the love of my life and my best friend but relationships break down and people fall out of love but my babies will always be my babies.

Andrew knows this and completely agrees with me.

If god forbid there was a situation where OH had to choose who to save, me or LO and he picked me I would never forgive him.

 

[Xuxa]

I know what I'm taking away from this thread:

"Men are ten a penny."

The economy is rough right now and I love a good bargain!

Best laught I've had in while!

Good for you.

Yes, a man can be replaced, your child cannot

Maybe that's the difference between my opinion and your opinion... I don't think my OH can be replaced. And i love to feel that i can't be replaced either.

Yes, i can find someone else and so can he, but it would never replace him, it would just be different.

And yes, you child can't be replaced... but when my children move on one day i would like to think that my husband is jsut as important to me, not that he became more important because they left but he has been second best until then. It's just an opinion, don't bash me for it.

At the end of the day we are all different, and different things make us happy, and that's all we are all searching for

 

[Blah11]

& both me and OH wuld put the children before anyone else no questions asked. I could learn to live without my OH, I dont think I could without my children.

 

[Xuxa]

No, it wouldnt be you and neither would more children you had be the children you'd lost. I do find it hard to stomach (having lost two daughters) that anyone would feel children can be replaced, do excuse me if I don't 'chill out'.

I'm sorry you have lost two daughters, and i never said i agreed with the theory that he should save me. But you would be surprised at how many people agree with it (mostly men i have to say...) and they shouldn't feel bad for having that opinion!

I would obviously choose my child...can't imagine my life without either of my daughters. But i can't imagine my life without him either... so tough, very tough choice!

 

[Pielette]

I don't think my husband could be replaced either, and if I were to lose him I know I would be forever changed. But I gave my little boy life and it is unconditional love for me. If my husband abused me or cheated on me I would leave him for the sake of my own self-respect.
It would break my heart to lose my husband. But it would kill me to lose my little boy.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I actually asked my husband as he was sitting right next to me and he said the decision would be hard, but he would pick Alex every time.

 

[JZW]

Niamh and any other children will always come before Andrew. Andrew is the love of my life and my best friend but relationships break down and people fall out of love but my babies will always be my babies.

Andrew knows this and completely agrees with me.

If god forbid there was a situation where OH had to choose who to save, me or LO and he picked me I would never forgive him.

This is exactly how I feel as well ^

 

[tina3747]

Tbh.... Neither my husband or my children can ever ever ever be replaced. End of.

 

[Brookey]

what a strange debate this has turned into....

I dont really want to think about losing my partner or my son so im not going to comment on that.

I think its a bit of a generalisation to say that french children are all better behaved. They may be, but does it come at the cost of the childs happiness? Guess the only way you would know is if you have lived in France.....

 

[Veck]

What a load of crap. My husband is French and I spent a lot of time there. They have very good lactation experts and their health system is one of the best in Europe. They are not as fussed about Physical appearance as in other parts of Europe in my opinion. My husband would choose my daughter over me without hesitating and that's exactly what I expect from him.

I think choosing your child over anything else is part of a mother's intinct and it's one of the most powerful things in Nature. We would be extinguished without it.

 

[oblada18]

Has anyone been watching This Morning today?
They were just talking about this book that an American woman (married to a Frenchman and living in France) has published about the things the French apparently do better than the British.
Firstly, it says that the French don't feel bad about formula feeding, namely because men feel left out by breastfeeding. Well I'm a formula feeder myself but not through choice and not because my husband felt left out!
Secondly, French children are apparently better behaved because the French are stricter. Thoughts?
And lastly, we should all be thinking of our husbands and getting back to being 'sexy wives' as soon as possible. I'm back at the gym but simply because it makes me feel good! Not because I decided I should be returning to being a 'sexy wife'!

I am French and this is a lot of bull
About ff I am not aware of that - to me it seems very much like here; majority ff but mostly not through choice and the general consensus remains that bf is better if possible - actually funnily enough every time I have been to the French Consulate in London there have been women breastfeeding their babies there lol
Anyway if it was to be true that in France they feel better about ff I dont see how that is a good thing. My OH does not feel left out by bf anyway, thats silly.
Stricter? Not really, thats a stupid generalisation.
And the sexy wife thing, well good for those women but personally I have a life outside of my husband and I do not live just to look good to him (and I doubt he would like that anyway).

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I love all the opinions of the French mommies

 

[tinyme77]

The data on this website is quite old but it shows France is significantly below England and Wales. Don't know why Scotland is behind.

https://www.lalecheleague.org/cbi/bfstats03.html