Amygdala
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I know I'm being silly but this really upsets me.
There are 3 people I have confided in about wanting to TTC next year. They are my closest friends and you'd think they'd be excited for me and understand that I need to talk about it, because let's face it, it's probably the biggest decision we're all going to make in our lives. Now one of my friends does understand and she's lovely about it and very supportive. The second one is happy about it but doesn't mention it a lot because she's got a LO and one on the way and her hands full with them. So I quite understand that it isn't as exciting for her but she's still happy for me and will answer my questions (though I try not to pester her). But my third friend just isn't interested at all. Just there I was talking to her on ICQ, properly for the first time in a few weeks, as she lives quite far away. And she started the conversation with "So what's new with you (sorry but I mean other than baby stuff)?"
It's not like I talk about nothing else but yeah, I guess the topic has come up. But everytime I mention anything, no matter how small or how off-hand a comment, she just seems really bored and stand-offish and doesn't want to know. And from time to time she'll say something that'll really hurt me. When I was out shopping with her last year for example, I looked at a little girl's dress (just in passing) and she said "You only want a baby so you can dress it up". I was SO hurt that she could actually say something like that, having known me all my life. She just doesn't seem to take me seriously at all and seems to think that this is an alltogether dumb idea.
And it's not like she's got a point (I don't think). I'm very happily married, own a small but comfortable home, have a good (if early stage) career, am in my late 20s and have always wanted children. Why on earth does she not think I'd make a good mum? Why isn't she a bit more excited for me?
EDIT: Sorry for the monologue but I needed to get that off my chest as it really upsets me. Thanks for reading if you made it this far!
There are 3 people I have confided in about wanting to TTC next year. They are my closest friends and you'd think they'd be excited for me and understand that I need to talk about it, because let's face it, it's probably the biggest decision we're all going to make in our lives. Now one of my friends does understand and she's lovely about it and very supportive. The second one is happy about it but doesn't mention it a lot because she's got a LO and one on the way and her hands full with them. So I quite understand that it isn't as exciting for her but she's still happy for me and will answer my questions (though I try not to pester her). But my third friend just isn't interested at all. Just there I was talking to her on ICQ, properly for the first time in a few weeks, as she lives quite far away. And she started the conversation with "So what's new with you (sorry but I mean other than baby stuff)?"
It's not like I talk about nothing else but yeah, I guess the topic has come up. But everytime I mention anything, no matter how small or how off-hand a comment, she just seems really bored and stand-offish and doesn't want to know. And from time to time she'll say something that'll really hurt me. When I was out shopping with her last year for example, I looked at a little girl's dress (just in passing) and she said "You only want a baby so you can dress it up". I was SO hurt that she could actually say something like that, having known me all my life. She just doesn't seem to take me seriously at all and seems to think that this is an alltogether dumb idea.
And it's not like she's got a point (I don't think). I'm very happily married, own a small but comfortable home, have a good (if early stage) career, am in my late 20s and have always wanted children. Why on earth does she not think I'd make a good mum? Why isn't she a bit more excited for me?
EDIT: Sorry for the monologue but I needed to get that off my chest as it really upsets me. Thanks for reading if you made it this far!