rosegarden620
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To make a long story short I have a friend who I have known for 13 years. Her and I have had trials and tribulations causing us to not speak for 3 years which is the longest we had gone without talking but not the first time. It was a good three years just figuring ourselves out alone and when we reconnected we were very much our own people and could get along great.
She's very odd... Very private. Can be condescending to the wrong person. She really is a good person just a unique one in her own right. Hubby personally doesn't like her but let's me be.
She lives in a different state now and just this past February learned she was pregnant. So right now she's about 6/7 months pregnant. We talk regularly but on occasion go a couple weeks without touching base. Now, prior to her bfp she knew I wanted one more baby but understood the timeframe was for the next year or two.
Well when I found out I was pregnant; I kept it from her. Because she's weird. By weird I mean that she wants to be pregnant alone. During one convo I used her other friend for a hypothetical situation in which that friend was pregnant - hypothetically. She said "she wouldn't do that to me." After further prying she said "it's just, I feel like I have been there for all of my friends pregnancies. And this is my time to just talk about MY pregnancy. Not yours and mine. I mean it would be her second it's my first!"
So. I've made a decision to just not tell her until after she delivers, late August which would put me at about 5/6 months. I don't mind. It's easy but at the same time I'm a little bummed that it's like this. When we talk I literally just listen to her talk about her new baby and never mention even a little about my pregnancy. Which is wat I've decided to do!
I understand being a selfless friend but I can't help but to think that this seems a little Much.
I posted on fb I was pregnant and we are friends on fb but she told me that she only has her family in her newsfeed.
But through mutual friends I see her very much involved in their posts?? So part of me thinks she's seen my post but has failed to acknowledge it. I called her twice last week and after the second call and no answer she text me that she was sorry but really busy. We text a little and I just said "call me when you have time to catch. Up!" She agreed and we haven't spoken since.
I don't know. I guess I just wanted it off my chest. Hubby says she's a bad friend. I think she's just odd.
What do you think?
She's very odd... Very private. Can be condescending to the wrong person. She really is a good person just a unique one in her own right. Hubby personally doesn't like her but let's me be.
She lives in a different state now and just this past February learned she was pregnant. So right now she's about 6/7 months pregnant. We talk regularly but on occasion go a couple weeks without touching base. Now, prior to her bfp she knew I wanted one more baby but understood the timeframe was for the next year or two.
Well when I found out I was pregnant; I kept it from her. Because she's weird. By weird I mean that she wants to be pregnant alone. During one convo I used her other friend for a hypothetical situation in which that friend was pregnant - hypothetically. She said "she wouldn't do that to me." After further prying she said "it's just, I feel like I have been there for all of my friends pregnancies. And this is my time to just talk about MY pregnancy. Not yours and mine. I mean it would be her second it's my first!"
So. I've made a decision to just not tell her until after she delivers, late August which would put me at about 5/6 months. I don't mind. It's easy but at the same time I'm a little bummed that it's like this. When we talk I literally just listen to her talk about her new baby and never mention even a little about my pregnancy. Which is wat I've decided to do!
I understand being a selfless friend but I can't help but to think that this seems a little Much.
I posted on fb I was pregnant and we are friends on fb but she told me that she only has her family in her newsfeed.
But through mutual friends I see her very much involved in their posts?? So part of me thinks she's seen my post but has failed to acknowledge it. I called her twice last week and after the second call and no answer she text me that she was sorry but really busy. We text a little and I just said "call me when you have time to catch. Up!" She agreed and we haven't spoken since.
I don't know. I guess I just wanted it off my chest. Hubby says she's a bad friend. I think she's just odd.
What do you think?