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[maddiwatts19]

This weekend, me and my OH decided to tell a couple of our best friends who we trust with everything that we're expecting. But their reaction wasnt really what i was expecting. They kinda seemed to think we were ruening our lives. No congratulations or nothing, just asked where we were gunna live and what i was gunna do about uni!.
Its really wierd becuase they were so great about the miscarriage.
Was a bit of a bummer! left us feeling a bit low!

And now my OH is working away for a week, and i'm all alone here, no-one to talk to, and im hugely emotional and feeling so low!.

I just want to cry all the time!

xx

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh, I am so sorry lovely. Your friends maybe concerned as you had your loss before.

Dont take it too much to heart. They may have just been surprised by your news.

As long as you and your OH are happy, that is all that counts.

Sending you a hug

 

[codiontour]

why would they think you are ruining your life! if anything, they should be jealous imho! dont let negativity creep in to your life, just brush it off and surround yourself with people who make you happy! life is too short to worry with others opinions sweetie!

CONGRATS TO YOU AND OH!

 

[maddiwatts19]

why would they think you are ruining your life! if anything, they should be jealous imho! dont let negativity creep in to your life, just brush it off and surround yourself with people who make you happy! life is too short to worry with others opinions sweetie!

CONGRATS TO YOU AND OH!

I think the whole "ruening our lives thing" is becuase im in my first year at uni and im only 19. Just bummed me out is all! I thought i'd atleast get a hug, rather than constantly being asked if im sure i want this.

Thank you! and congrats to you two too!

 

[ladymilly]

you poor thing. don't mind them. we are all thrilled for you both. you know we are always here for you. so don't feel lonely this week you can talk to us anytime

 

[maddiwatts19]

you poor thing. don't mind them. we are all thrilled for you both. you know we are always here for you. so don't feel lonely this week you can talk to us anytime

Thank you so much xxxxx

 

[leeanne]

Wow! I am sorry to hear their comments about your wonderful news. Could be that they are jealous. Or it could be that they are not people who want children. Embrace your expectancy and don't let others comments bother you.

 

[poppy]

Don't take it to heart. You know what's best for you and I am sure your uni has creches and things (you should find out about your options). Your friends will probably come around in time.

xxx

 

[Jules]

Although i got a good response from all my family and friends about me being pregnant, one of my closest friends was rather blunt and vague, didn't seem to really care. she was like "are you joking" i said "no course not, why?" and she said "just a bit shocked thats all" .

I was really peeved off about it. Haven't really bothered with her since. As long as i have my OH, family and friends (that are happy for me) around me, i don't really care what she thinks my baby and family are the most important thing in the world to me!

 

[Vickie]

I'm so sorry to hear that your friends behaved like that.

 

[salmynka]

what are people like?? i think it is jealousy seriously. My best friend has been really offish with me and a few people have asked if im ready for this etc (i'm 34ys old for goodness sake!)

it'll be fine you'll have a new friend in a few months anyway!!!
xxx

 

[coz]

thats a bit out of order if your happy they should be happy for you, maybe there jelous xxx

 

[PINKDIAMOND]

I think that as long as you and your o/h is happy well then thats all that matters. Congratulations.

 

[Tam]

It is your lives, you enjoy them the way you see fit! x

 

[anita665]

I'm sure they're just worried for you. Maybe they don't realise how happy you are about it because when you're young it's hard to know how to react. Some people are happy and others aren't. Maybe you just need to make it clear you're perfectly happy!!

 

[Lauz_1601]

we all adapt our lives one way or another to accomadate a child..everything will be fine, and well...your happy thats all that matters...just ignore your friends you wait until you have had the baby, I am sure they will think differently.

I had Ella when I was 19...and yes my life has probably panned out differently than it would have done if I didnt have her, but I dont care I am much happier with her in our life...so enjoy your pregnancy hun

 

[Heather.78]

my hubby decided to tell his best friend that we are expecting however it was really hard for him because theyve been trying for over a year and it only took us a month i bought hubby this book called blokes guide to pregnancy (excellent) it said that different friends will react completly different to the news some jealous some like you say your life is over its all crap its what you and your hubby wanted so its the right decison for you.

anyway big congrats to you both

 

[maddiwatts19]

my hubby decided to tell his best friend that we are expecting however it was really hard for him because theyve been trying for over a year and it only took us a month i bought hubby this book called blokes guide to pregnancy (excellent) it said that different friends will react completly different to the news some jealous some like you say your life is over its all crap its what you and your hubby wanted so its the right decison for you.

anyway big congrats to you both

Thank you!!
Congratulations to you two too!!

 

[reallytinyamy]

You're not alone, you have us!

I have nothing to say that hasn't already been said, if you are happy then thats what matters. They'll come round I'm sure

Congratulations on your wonderful news!!!

 

[TashaAndBump]

I thought i'd atleast get a hug, rather than constantly being asked if im sure i want this.

I had a similar experience to this - when I first told people I was pregnant, a lot of the reactions that I got were "Are you keeping it?" rather than congratulations or anything like that... like being under 20 automatically makes the pregnancy a negative thing and means you'd consider terminating it...

Try to keep your chin up, hun. If the pregnancy wasn't planned, and you were into your studies at uni, your friends have probably just had a big shock and want to make sure you're doing what is best for you (even if they may not understand what that is!) I doubt they meant to hurt you and I bet they'll be really excited once they get used to the idea!

The questions they put to you are worth thinking about in advance, though! Do you have answers to them? These 9 months can go real fast and you wanna make sure you're completely ready when your little bundle of joy arrives

Are you staying at uni? There's a lot of support for parent-students at most uni's - some even have a free cresh - or at the very least you'll be able to get your child care costs reimbursed. You could also get an increased student loan or a grant to help you support your young family while you finish your studies... If you're in the UK, you will qualify for income support as well, which means you can get housing benefit to completey cover the cost of your rent if you decide to rent a place privately or through the council. Look into it anyway, and best of luck with everything in the future!