Frustrated with FOB...........

[AbbynChloe]

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Why do I have to chase for him to be involved. I feel like I am jumping through hoops just to make sure Chloe can spend time with him.

We seem to set up a contact arrangement (I want every other weekend - he wants 1 weekend in 3 or 4) and I have told hime anything less than every other weekend is just pointless. I work shift work and need him to have her the weekends I am working because childcare is extortionate - I have no friends/family nearby who can help.

Anyways so after walking out on us yet again on my birthday back in March after a few months he was back (He was missing Chloe and I was struggling trying to keep up with it all) to a regularish arrangement end of april/june.

I can sense whats happening now, fewer texts and phone calls, not asking after Chloe, rearranging the weekend he is supposed to have her.

I just feel like I can't win. I want him to know her - Chloe loves her daddy. But I cant bear this feeling that she is not a priority and never will be in his eyes. She ask's for him all the time - and I have to say he's working etc....

I just wish it wasn't for my working situation i could just tell him to jog on!

We both deserve better

 

[whoops]

I'll be honest - I don't understand some men at all. If I had a child I didn't live with, I would move heaven and earth to make sure I saw them all the time.

I have no advice, hun, just sympathy. You and Chloe shouldn't have to be going through this.

 

[AbbynChloe]

That is my thinking Whoops - I don't get why he isn't moving heaven and earth??!??

He has had the option of being involved and not - and either way just doesn't sit well for him. I'm just tired of trying to accommodate him

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

 

[Shazzy-babee]

are you talking about my ex?? sounds the same but he moved 3hrs away now so i just dont bother, he knows im on msn most the time he could get in contact through there but he doesnt

i CBA with him now he has my number, fb and msn if he want to know.
sorry i cant be more help to you tho

 

[AbbynChloe]

Lol these FOB's are rubbish - ridiculous how they all are the same?? must be a genetic flaw!!! xxxxxxxxxx

 

[emalou90]

simple. dont contact him. see what he does then. then decide from there!
stupid FOB's they havent got a CLUE!
(similar to my other post about my family in 'our' thread it seems lol!)

 

[AbbynChloe]

Well I have now upgraded from frustrated to down right PISSED!!

Well he called up this morning - about an hour ago and asked me

"Are you unhappy when I am happy?"

I told him I have no emotional ties to him whatsoever, I don't care whether he is happy/unhappy/sad whatever. Just as long as he looks after Chloe

He tells me "I feel like I can't tell you that I am happy because you'll be jealous"

Hmm - PARDON??!!??

What an absolute waste of space - I am soooooo angry

 

[emalou90]

im sorry but i'd have laughed in his face and said 'im a hell of a lot happier than you and always will be!'

 

[AbbynChloe]

He just stuns me - really when I think he can't get any dumber................

 

[WhiteGeisha]

Sounds like he was trying to get you to ask him why he was so happy?? Like he wanted to tell you something but didn't want it to look like her was 'trying' to rub your face in it??x

 

[AbbynChloe]

not really, when you take the whole conversation. Like I said his happiness is of no concern to me. I'd actually like him to be happy - as he just always see's the negative in life. nothing is a blessing, everything is a problem.

And trust me - he would take any opportunity to rub anything in my face. subtle is not his style!

 

[purpledahlia]

I used to try and jump through hoops and put in 110% effort to get him to care, but in the end there was no point. We dont need him in our lives if our children arent a priority. If i were you i would just do all you can and he will realise he is the one missing out!