Gaining self confidence?

[HoneyBev]

I've always had pretty low self esteem. My husband has helped quite a bit with making me feel comfortable with myself, but ever since I became pregnant, all of his hard work has completely gone out the window. Hell, he's even MORE supportive now than he was before and it just doesn't seem to help me! Does anyone have any hints or tips on how to gain self confidence for myself? I want to enjoy this pregnancy and I want to enjoy being me, but I'm so self conscious about everything that I'm truly struggling with it.

I want to work on this mainly because 1) I want to stop feeling like I'm pushing my husband away, 2) because I don't want my son to grow up with low confidence or poor coping skills and 3) so I can love myself again!
I would LOVE to hear what you all have to say!
Thanks in advance xx

 

[purplecupcake]

I feel like I give the same advice for nearly every thread, regardless of what the question is haha, but it's honestly because I think this is the #1 recipe for a happy and healthy life: eat well and exercise! Eating well will make you feel good from the inside out. Your brain will function better and your body will function better, which will absolutely help your confidence. Exercise is amazing, not only because it makes your body look and feel good, but you get an incredible sense of accomplishment from it. Set a goal and strive to reach that goal. It will show you that you are stronger than you knew and is a total confidence booster.

Besides that...hang out with girlfriends. Good, honest, true girlfriends that remind you how amazing you are. I have friends that give me the most amazing compliments, especially when they have nothing to do with my physical appearance, and it makes me feel so good.

 

[HoneyBev]

I feel like I've gotten this advice from you multiple times now maybe it'll finally get through my thick skull after some hammering! thank you for commenting! Hope all is going excellent with you and your little one

 

[Brightxeyes]

Give yourself a little you time. For my birthday my other half had bought a few sets of pampering items, and I've received more from my family! I have myself a long relaxing shower (I always have sat down in my bath/shower I don't know why!) and used the facial pampering things and used the new bath and shower items and just generally made myself feel and smell lovely! I also had some new pjs from my parents so I put them straight on and got into bed with a cuppa tea!

Little things like this makes myself feel better. Especially pampering my skin, I've got dry skin anyway, so it's gotten worse in the second tri, as well as some eczema all over my body and having my skin feel so much softer made me feel more prettier even though my body is getting bigger!

So give yourself a little bit of time and pampering

 

[hannah berry]

like everyone said hun try and do something for yourself. i was going through the same thing and still struggle. i cried to my husband because i feel so pathetic and always struggled with self confidence and such. it gets so bad i can't even leave the house to get the mail. i also have anxiety and depression. One thing to note is stay away from food just in case it turns into eating to feel good. my husband got me an exercise bike for the house and honestly an hour or so on it makes me feel better. next he took me to get my hair done and every month or so he drags me back to get it maintained and finally he takes me to get some clothes not a lot just some now and than because i worry about what people think about me and if i feel good about myself then i find my self confidence is hardly a problem and im free to do thinks i would never do. i know some people would disagree that material stuff shouldn't be the answer but the truth is thats reality and this is the world we live in. I hope you feel better soon and work hard at it it doesn't go away sometimes its just the type of people we are and it doesn't make you weak it just means your a sensitive person.