It's so natural and happens to a lot of people, and I think finding out during your pregnancy is always a good idea if you think you may feel that twinge of disappointment. Then you can get over it and look forward to meeting your baby
I'll be honest, I was desperately hoping to be told I was having a girl this time. I've dreamed for so long of having a daughter. I think because my mum and I are so close, I really wanted to have that for myself. But my DH's family is literally full of boys. Our second boy will be the fifth grandchild and fifth boy, and my DH has two brothers and a sister. There hasn't been a girl since that sister, and she's in her forties!
I think that might be where my longing for a girl comes from. Because I fear that due to genetics running in DH's family, it just won't happen for me.
BUT don't get me wrong. I adore my little boy, so so much, and having a second boy is wonderful. I did feel a tiny bit upset when I found out, I will admit it, but I'm starting to bond so much with my little guy now, he has a name and when I feel him kick I get the biggest grin on my face
And I also can't wait to see my two boys playing together, giving my DS the gift of a brother is amazing because I know that they will (hopefully) grow up having a best friend for life!
I hope I may have a girl at some point in the future. But if not I will just accept that God meant for me to be surrounded by gorgeous men
Please don't beat yourself up for feeling this or that emotion. The important thing is that you let yourself feel it, then pick yourself up and adjust
And believe you me, when you give birth to that child, boy or girl, you'll love him/her so much that you won't give a flying fig what gender they are!