General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[campn]

Sorry Dobby at least your cycle was perfect and no spotting or weird temperatures so your body is definitely at a great place!

Oooo next cycle!?? Any serious TTC plans?

Gigs- I understand, I always expect the absolute worse things to happen to me, anxiety definitely doesn't improve with kids.

 

[JLM73]

Gigs I'm ok....reallly irritated at having to start yet ANOTHER donor search.
I soooo wish I had someone willing to just donate without last minute cancels, or being weird.

I know ttc is stressful, but I have the added factor that no matter WHAT test results someone shows me- I am opening myself up to catching diseases and such with each new donor.
And unfortunately clinics charge thousands, and alot of these damn guys think donating is a game.
EVERYthing was so perfect last time, and now I'm wondering if young donor was one of those guys "tampering" with specimens!?!

Seriously!? I found a few boards of guys giving other guys tips on how to make insems fail!!!
Like putting bleach or spermicide in the samples!!!
WTF?? Seriously I can't even...
Nice to know a bunch of guys find it funny to have women clinging to hopes of conceiving and giggling behind our backs knowing it won't work.
SOOOO F-ing PISSED at the idea.

 

[campn]

J- I really think you'd have noticed the texture or smell being weird?? I mean none of us are sperm experts so it's possible but hopefully that wasn't the case with that donor. That'd be such a horrible thing to do!

 

[DobbyForever]

J, that is so awful! Some people are just a**es!!!

Gigs, hugs. I'm so sorry your anxiety is flaring up. I would say try thinking of all the good that can happen, but I know I want to punch people in the face when they say that.

Green, the fact that you are worried about being a good mom is the first step to being a good mom.

Campn, 16k is great!!! Can't wait to hear what your next beta comes back as.

AFM I did say next cycle. I just meant to have around/ reactionary. So used to just saying keep things for next cycle. I actually didn't bother buying them this morning. I'm really proud of myself. Didn't buy any opks or hpts. Shit hit the fan so now is not the time to take about TTC with SO. I have to figure out some stuff before I can begin to make a decision about TTC. I am considering going to the clinic on the way home to see if that blood test is still on order. Might just do that and move on with my life. But I hate the idea of giving blood today. So tired.

 

[JLM73]

Campn it's not noticeable really - for example VCF ( vag contraceptive foam is like a small square piece of thin plastic that melts in fluid- no color no taste no smell no texture diff.
And nonoxynol 9 is used alot it's clear flavorless scentless as well. With the gooey then runny texture of sperm it passes easily and you'd never know.
And you would only need a couple drops in a specimen cup.

Trust me - I have read so much online of these jackass men laughing - talking women into sex instead of doing the cup "to improve the quality and have fresh sperm" bla bla
Oh and ;let's not forget some of these assholes have vasectomies or are on the pill for men

Honestly I was so floored - I hope all of them pulling this shit to get free sex or a laugh etc get testicular cancer

 

[gigglebox]

Omg, that is so beyond messed up. I guess i shouldn't be surprised...but that is just so sneaky and low. I hope he didn't do anything like that, J.

 

[claireybell]

I never even knew men can take a Pill to make sperm less effective or however it works, some blokes can be so shallow, really hope your donors weren't tampered with J

 

[mrs.green2015]

That's is absolutely crazy J! I don't understand what the point of that is..

I used to use vcf as contraception. Then a friend for pregnant with it lol

 

[JLM73]

I've no idea but just as there is a whole "lifestyle" of men who like to attend"breeding parties"...yea literally like 2-8 guys gand banging a girl who wants to get pregnant but she won't know who it actually was -wtf
I know a friend into some of the lifestyles, and he schooled me really fast on bredding parties and how the woman has no control once this group of guys starts after her...literally he said "it's not pretty and many are very rough"
again WTF??

Oh and other than the ones just wanting free hook ups knowing they can't get a girl preg- there is a whole "lifestyle" of men that get off impregnating women
And men say we think F'd up lol.

 

[JLM73]

CB yea they came out with a male bc pill a long time ago- just most men don't wanna hassle remembering it lol.

MrsG I used VCF for years and never had issues. Main things are you HAVE to put it in for a min of 15 mins ( can't recall time) but it is only good for so many hours and kills the sperm on contact, so it has a high success rate, but def can't insert it and jump on him lol.
Or some women put it in slow and it's such a small piece of film, it can start melting before allll the way up in there...oh yea and if it's gonna be a athon i highly recommend inserting another film after a couple hrs just to be safe lol.

I was actually surprised to see the Today Sponge back on the shelf
I know years ago they discontinued it - even Seinfeld spoofed it - where Elaine only had so many left and had to make sure a guy was "sponge worthy" before using one of them up lol.

Gahh....

 

[gigglebox]

I hated those films. They always got stuck to my fingers...i only used them around O time in conjunction with pulling out, then we got lazy lol. Also hubs said they taste funny

J, what does the sponge do? Is it like a plug, essentially? Laced with spermacide?

I forgot to answer someone about my eyes. They change color, blue-green-gray, according to hubs, but most,y i think they're dark green. With blue....occasionally. Lol vague enough?

 

[JLM73]

Gigs your eyes are gorgeous and the hair color really sets them off.
The Today sponge is a small round sponge filled with spermicide.
So it's kind of physical barrier with spermicide as well. Smaller than those old time diaphragms. I really like them, but I think they stay in a certain timeframe after sex to kill all the super
couple hours I think??

 

[mrs.green2015]

I think after we have a baby I'll go back to the vcf of similar. I don't like hormones from the pill and hubs doesn't like the pull out method. It worked for me and with having issues getting pregnant I'm sure it'll be fine.

 

[campn]

Greenie- Your chart looks fabulous girl! I know you're not really trying this cycle but I hope you get a little jelly bean in there anyway just thought of you now and wanted to tell you that!

 

[mrs.green2015]

Aww thanks Campn! I hate it and feel like it's a stretch to say I ovulated. Just wish there was more of a difference between pre o and after.
I think I can talk hubs into Ttc next month since moving has been put on hold. So I'll probably buy opks this weekend!

 

[campn]

Aww thanks Campn! I hate it and feel like it's a stretch to say I ovulated. Just wish there was more of a difference between pre o and after.
I think I can talk hubs into Ttc next month since moving has been put on hold. So I'll probably buy opks this weekend!

Definitely get the OPKS and put your best game on! OPKS are stressful but I'm the kind that would be more stressed out NOT knowing. Hopefully your DH will be all in!

 

[JLM73]

Sooo off topic, but just saw a trailer for the Movie"Pride+Prejudice+Zombies"
do we really need to combine classic famous literature with undead??

 

[gigglebox]

Um...........what?

They really are running out of ideas, aren't they.

I have a theme for a book but i know i'd never get around to writing it. No idea what the actual plot would be.

 

[JLM73]

Well Gigs given your very talented artistic ability, and very cool look
Your book HAS to be better than Pride+Prejudice+Zombies drivel

That's something I would rent from the RedBox machine ...after I had seen EVERYthing else....and gotten pizza take out....and some REALLY cheap tequila.... and I wouldn't remember it the next day to recall how bad it was

 

[TexasRider]

Sooooo. My husband bought a truck tonight... Well they approved him
Anyway. The sales person is gonna look at a few more banks tmrw to see if he can get a better interest rate.... Either way he's picking it up tomorrow at lunchtime... So much for waiting to see about fixing the house. Im not too mad,he did need one but still. I wanted to get the house looked at first