General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[claireybell]

Was somebody possobly peeing on a stick this wknd? I cant remember lol

 

[gigglebox]

Enjoy your weekend hope! That sounds absolutely lovely and i'm jealous.

Cb, yup, that's what i'm afraid of. I realized yesterday my boobs don't hurt at all, when they usually hurt feom about 1-2dpo up under cd1-2. Also i usually start getting a ton of spots on my face around this time and nothing yet

I'm 6dpo right now...if some miracle occured and we caught this cycle, it was either from sex 4-5 days before O (when my cm was super creamy and i assumed i wasn't fertile; it was right before we decided to put ttc'ing on hold) or 1 day before O (he pulled out, but went back in, similar to the situation that started this thread).

 

[claireybell]

Ohhhh... If you are Gigs, it will all be fine hun plus.. It would def be a girl i reckon that many days before O'ing..!

 

[gigglebox]

Unless it was pull out sex, then def team blue lol

Omg what is my life?

Gotta stay distracted. About to buy more canvas.

 

[claireybell]

Lol what will be will be

whats the next Canvas of or undecided yet?

 

[mrs.green2015]

Ok I need to vent.

As you all know we have a puppy. Who is a ton of work (obviously he's a puppy) and I take care of everything. We have no backyard right now. So I take him out front and play and then take him out 2-3 time in the middle of the night to go potty. I make dinner, clean and work out. Oh and all DHs laundry. Anyway I'm used to it and it's fine when he's working nights which is like 60 or more hours a week. But lately he's been days and it's m-Thursday 10 hours / day so only 40 hours. Same as me. And he doesn't help and acts like he's soooo busy with work. I admit a few hours a week I work from home so it looks like I get home sometimes early but I'm still working! I just am frustrated and he doesn't get how much I do. It makes me question being able to have. A baby now. Even with pregnancy I'll be even more tired than i already am. His answer is "don't plan anything Saturday or Sunday were cleaning all day" but it's not about that! All i want is him to take care of dinner without me asking or even just getting up with the puppy in the middle of the night.

 

[TexasRider]

Ugh sometimes men can be so clueless. My husband is like that... He will help if I ask him to do something but I want him to do it without me asking... And he's getting better about it but it is frustrating.

 

[campn]

Green- True men are clueless! Just assign him jobs you need done that day. My DH will help only if I ask that he helps with a specific chore at a specific time. They're really bad at multitasking compared to us, so while I'm making coffee and thinking about everything I need to get done that day his only thought is "coffee, now"

Also prepare him for having a baby now, he'll need to change diapers, help with baths, rock the baby, help with the feedings and all that. Luckily men have very low testosterone after they've kids so all of his manly hobbies and distractions are gonna go down.

 

[claireybell]

MrsG my SO is the same, i generally think its a bloke thing! I work p/t aswell & sometimes il come home from work & hes too lazy to put the dishwasher on or empty it, dirty plates in sink! Grrr gets me annoyed just typing it, i always tell him & then hes like 'oh.. Yeah sorry!' Uhhh!

Feel your pain, def just list a couple of things to get him to help, i think unless we ask them, they expect we're doing all good & dont need the help! Im shattered tired all the time & more so know..

 

[mrs.green2015]

I totally get men are like that. But even when I ask him to do something he acts like its the worst thing ever! And how dare I ask when he's been at work all day! It's like uhh ya so have I remember? Most of the time he says "I'll do it later" and never does no end up doing it the next day. I'm just really over it. Especially with a dog I didn't want!

 

[campn]

Green- sorry hun. Sadly men are really lazy about house stuff cause their moms didn't really teach them to help. My MIL told me and DH that he should only help me with our newborn on the weekends only. Like really!? So the rest of the week he shouldn't even flinch!?

If he is the one who wanted the dog he should take care of it, or it should go back to where it came from.

 

[gigglebox]

Men absolutely SUCK at anticipating other people's needs, the same way we SUCK at approaching anything without getting emotions involved. The key is to be tactful about bringing up your frustrations, without making him feel attacked. Like, "hey honey, could we maybe take turns taking the dog out at night? I'm feeling a but overwhelmed and exhausted with everything recently." Or just attack him with your frustrations and make up later LOL

I agree though, if the dog is essentially his, he needs to take care of it.

 

[gigglebox]

Cb, i am working on a painting of a german shepherd now. I liked the color scheme of the last painting so much, i'm going to do the GS in the same style.

 

[claireybell]

Absolutly! If he wanted the dog first off & you've been left to deal with everything, he should def help out abit more with it..

growing up my dad wanted a dog & she was a massive handful, esp for my mum! So my mum gave my dad an ultimatum.. So the dog went, yrs later they divorced anyhow but she wish she went earlier & not the dog

sounds like another awesome masterpiece on the way Gigs

 

[JLM73]

Alright dammit! Let THE dog Lady chime it,
1- stop giving the little firball water past say 7-8 pm. That way he won't need to wee middle of the night.
2- Not sure if you are crating, but dogs naturally don't wanna pee/poo where they sleep. If you wanna double insure this idea, buy some stainless steel "coop cups" ( bowls that can be hung on the crate bars by either bolt or hooks).
CRATE him. People think it's mean, but it's not. Dogs consider it their den, and will not pee/poo where they sleep.
All my dogs when young are crate trained. They are fed in there as well as get treats in there and love it that will help enforce the "den" mentality.
3- Since hubs brought the furball home without consulting you first, Damn straight he needs to be the one doing the early a.m. take out!

AFM nothing new or interesting here. Donors are still wishywashy so will see when O time comes, as I am only cd2 bleh and HATE AF.

CB Jack Garratt is AMAZING! He's not only a one man band- dude literally sings, plays keyboard, drum machine, guitar, and mixes sound all at once by himself- but he is super humble.
Here's another good clip by him. Right click the vid and you should be able to copy the url to play one google etc.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KGfauP5IRsY


Dogs naturally hate pee/poo where they eat even more. So feed the lil rascal inside the crate. (treats too)
3- I fully back the other ladies that HE brought the fuzz butt home without consulting with you, so Hubs needs to do the early a.m. take out if nothing else.
4- Since pups is NOT a little 6-8 wk old pup, here is NO reason in the world he has to got out more than once overnight.
Crate him. or if you can make space in a bathroom or laundry room, paper train him. (use a baby gate to make a small space)
It's groww- but smaearing a streak of his poo on a piece of newspaper will lure him to it.

AFM lazyyyy. I hate AF as it is, and this is cd2 bleh.
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[JLM73]

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[gigglebox]

I didn't even think to ask that question! I have had great success with crate training too, and when they're older/more trustworthy, they get free reign of the house. An easy training trick with that is to just say "go to bed" every time they go in their crate, and give them a snack. Do it without closing the door at first. Over time, it's all you'll have to say to get them in there when you leave the house, for example.

J, sorry the witch is here, but you're already cycle day two! Or, as i'm going to optimistically call it, 2 days pregnant!

 

[mrs.green2015]

we crate him. But he's having a hard time because DH work schedule changed so he used to go out when he got home and then when I got up but he's all confused. DH took the dog all day today and gave me some alone time. Don't get me wrong I love the puppy but still wasn't my choice!

 

[gigglebox]

Glad you got a break! Give us an updated photo when you get a chance. We need puppy squee.

 

[DobbyForever]

Haven't caught up but I saw crate in bold lol. I have to second J, crates = your best friend. Honestly, I used to even crate my puppies when I was home. I forgot what the ratio was. But it was for every x hour they were out and about it was x amount of time in the crate. I always let them have a potty opp first. BUT I really recommend what J is saying. Pick the water bowl up or toss it out at 7pm. I NEVER let my dogs drink past that time, and I have NEVER had my dogs wake me up to go potty at night unless they have diarrhea and can't help it lol. My dogs also never whine to be let out in the morning unless they REALLY have to go (i.e. I have a hangover and overslept by like 7 hours). I wake up and they are just sitting there watching me and waiting.

And agreed with the phrase and treat. My dogs get a dental treat each time they go in their crate and they LOVE their dental treats. So any time I go in the room they actually RUN into the crate and get super excited hahaha.