General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[JLM73]

Campn He just turned 5 in October...
His older bro ( now 23) admits he has no idea why he did such dumb stuff and laughs about it now, but his biggest things were:
Turning on the shower and never getting in...
Not wiping his butt after pooping so it was all over his underwear( he was 12-13 here)
Constantly Lying about stupid ass stuff- like Nooo I didn't eat the candy, as I am PULLING WRAPPERS from under his bed (age 8-16)
oh and the one that started it all:
We rescued a 5-6 wk old kitten left on the road, and I came down one morning to find the cat SOAKING WET, shaking and it couldn't open it;s eyes!!
I then notice a bottle of Windex out that NEVER was left out...
My older son was 3 then- got a chair to climb on the counter, to get to the top cabinet where cleaners were....he said he was washing him off.
Luckily the cat was ok, but I was livid.

 

[campn]

You know even now I still wonder why we have kids at all they misbehave more than they behave and yet we are so in love with them and would kill for them! What a mystery.

Also pets and kids don't mix I'm glad the poor cat survived haha!

 

[mrs.green2015]

I can just imagine that poor cat so sad and miserable!

 

[JLM73]

Yea kids ...
literally as I was typing this DS came running over flinging his arms and nearly knocked my laptop off the desk....
I swear he is in Annoying mode the last couple days. He has full attention 99% of the day, but the Second I get on the laptop OR the phone he is in Annoy Mom mode to get the focus back on him.

I am def a pet lover, so all my kids are brought up with them and love them.
NO idea WTH oldest son was thinking drenching the cat way back when.
With little son I just have to keep telling him to get out of the Bullmastiffs face!
Thank goodness they are great with kids. That dog is 100lbs over my son's weight, but patiently indulges DS when he leans on him and tries to explain his computer games to him lol.
He just looks at him, wags his tail, and puts his head back down.

 

[gigglebox]

Yikes...lord help me if Des ever starts with the disgusting tricks...as of now, he's a pretty clean kid who doesn't like to get dirty at all, so, for now, i doubt he'd play with poo...but i know that could change any time.

I reeeaaaallllly am now hoping the next one is a girl....no way i'm lucky enough to have to cleanly boys.

 

[claireybell]

hi girlys soooo much reading lol!

J the butt spanking bit really tickled me hahaa!! I catch Riley 'dry humping' his giant Nemo fish teddy lol.. Oh my!!! I just say 'mummy doesnt need to see that'

He can get quite grubby though, def not s clean child, i have a video of him smeared his own face with babys bottom nappy rash cream hahaaa when he was just 2!

 

[pacificlove]

J, what a story! I laughted but I know it can be so true.

As for me, C'mon February!! 2 more days left of work after today..... Ugh.

 

[mrs.green2015]

So excited for you PL! It's sooo close!

Love all these little boy stories! I obviously dont know but my feeling is boys are harder as they are younger girls are harder when they get older... lol


AFM- i just checked my cervix... super high i can kind of feel it with my finger nail... but i know it can fluctuate throughout the day so i don't want to get my hopes up. CM is a wet but not much of it. I feel like I'm symptom spotting like i would in the TWW haha I'm just frustrated and hoping for the best.

 

[gigglebox]

Hope it comes for you soon Mrs!

I know all kids vary but in general, i feel like you're right...little boys are rambunctious and crazy but girls are pure evil when they hit puberty lol

 

[mrs.green2015]

HAHAHAH Pure evil is probably the most accurate description I've ever heard.

 

[JLM73]

I am still Team Blue...love my boys and would love DS to have a bro to pal around with- not to mention I am all set on boy wear toys etc.
DS used to not even eat fries or nuggets as the minute he touched one he would say "clean? clean?"
He was so ridiculous about his hands having ANYthing on them,,,and now the poop thing sigh WTH.
Don't get me wrong tho My daughter was messy in diff ways!
She used my fave red lipstick to draw ALL over her wall in her room...which were white at the time grrr
And the worst was when she figured how to open my bottle of Hot Pink Nail Polish- the 1 minute drying kind...Guess what ended up DRIED all over her bedroom carpet before she told me to "come see"
Arrgghh! Literally had to cut chunks from the carpet

MrsG sounds very close for you How are the opks?

Claire!!! Aww your lil GIRL is "plum" perfect!!!
Wow I forgot how fast they grow early on!!

 

[mrs.green2015]

Not doing OPKs since were not 'trying' but i kept tracking to see if I ovulate. I figured you can miss an LH surge but not the temp rise! I wanted as sure of a way of knowing as possible.

 

[JLM73]

Gigs I agree- boys are like having Jack Russels, or Staffy Bulls- all energy, destruction and rough play, but sweet when they want to be.

I only have one daughter and will KISS THE FEET of whichever Higher power made her the perfect girl child!
She has NEVER been in trouble, been spanked, or been makeup crazy or boy crazy.
She literally is going on 3 yearrrrrs dating her first and only boyfriend!!
Not a single problem from her. And even tho I will never pretend to be daft about teens
She's been on BC pills due to hormone related cysts she gets, but I still brought her and older sone handfuls of condoms and said Be safe if you decide to go there lol
She will be 19 in June and moved away to Missouri with her BF. He's a great kid too.
I would be very surprised if they have had sex yet as she is NOT at all girly and - ahem- had to be reminded to SHAVE before hitting the pool
She was like Oh I don't care lol
She's gorgeous but a bit on the heavy side- but she is fine with it, so I am glad she never got harassed and has a BF who loves her for her personality- They are both geeky artistic gamers lol.

NO WAY could I be twice blessed with such an easy going daughter so I am DEF praying Team BLUE!

 

[JLM73]

Oh and I'm heading back to my new Youtube Forensic doc love..."Crimes That Shook Britain"!! Great stories!!!

 

[pacificlove]

j, your daughter sounds wonderful! All my parents ever did was give me the feeling that I shouldn't get pregnant while living in their house, it would ruin me.
To them education should have been my priority. Well I quit college after 3 years and did my own dog related stuff while living in their house.
I dated dh for almost a year when we discussed him taking a job in a different province to try and make a career. We decided to go for it and I'd come with him. My ticket out of my parents house.
Don't get me wrong, I love my parents, but they are not a bit "free spirited" and kind of wish they were more supportive of me when it comes to decisions that are not career related.
When we told them we are moving back my work had me in a real good position. Their response "Well, don't rush things. Think about work and your career.". (yes, first thing that came out of moms mouth!) Thanks for being supportive. I had to yell at her first on what response I had expected maybe a little bit of happyness.

Something I plan to do very different with my kids. Openness and supportive. I see you have that with your kids J.

 

[JLM73]

Yea Pacific- that's the worst. My parents preached NO boys, Go to College, BE a doctor.
So I was the overachiever child being good in every way, with NO rewards or encouragement- So I was always looking for the next way I could make them be proud.
I decided to get straight A's from 7th grade on. My friends Got like $5 per A, I got "Well...what about being on honor roll? That's what you are supposed to do"
Talk about WTF moments lol.
By the age of 12 I had 3 regular families per week to babysit for.
The parents I sat for raved I was the most reliable and responsible kid.
My parents- nothing.
At 14 I was stil a straight A student, and decided to get a job.
Got hired at Domino's Pizza- 20hrs a week. Ran home SOOO excited to tell my parents, they shrugged and said - Well that's not a real job, and it's only 20 hrs a week.
So I went back out and got hired at McDonalds as well so I had TWO 20 hr per wk jobs( most you could work at 14 back then).
STILL they shrugged and said you better not mess up in school
I plugged away with 2 jobs and Straight A's, National Honor Society, Spanish Honor Society thru high school, and they were still not impressed.
MIGHT I add this was all while sneaking out at night to see my BF and skipping days here and there lol.
I stayed busier than a one legged man in an ass kickin contest- as they say here
Senior year I had a HUGE lawn size trashbag filled to the top with scholarship offers from all over the country.
I dug like hell to find the one for Duke University after hearing it was one of the BEST- I had an offer for FULL ride scholarship first year- renewed if I maintained my grades. I was over the friggin moon.
Ran to show my parents- and they said NO, you can't leave the state
WTF is that??? I was only 17 when I graduated so I couldn't give them and just go- so I said Screw it then- I'm not GOING to ANY college!

I was dating a guy 10 yrs older than me, and pregnant right after graduation.
Talk about crushing their dreams lol.
Whatever- I still went to college and did premed- before switching to Emerg Medical.
THIS is exactly why I tell my kids- You can be a beach bum selling trinkets to tourists for all I care- Just as long as YOU are HAPPY!
Now at 42 I regret that I ever tried to impress them- as I likely would have continued college in either Arts or Cello- both of which I suck at now that I put those things away to try and please the folks pfffft!

 

[campn]

My parents had 4 kids, first a boy then 3 girls and in all honesty they themselves would tell you that us girls made them more proud than my brother ever did and we took care of them more than him. Really I call my mom every single day and my DH calls his maybe once a month if she's lucky,

Daughters end up taking care of their elderly parents while sons rarely ever do, it's a sad thing but that's just how men work I guess. Of course that's not always the case, but generally it is.

Fatigue has hit me so hard, I've been in bed most of the evening and ready to go to bed at 9 pm! Also DH keeps pressuring me about telling his parents I'm pregnant but I want to wait a little bit longer, just until I get a scan and see that everything is going okay. Ughh

 

[JLM73]

True about daughters being care takers- worse being the ONLY child.
My mother plays the poor me card for me to help her with everything but then stabs me in the back and sabotages my biz every chance she can- Her spiteful way of forcing me to NOT be able to move away yet financially biz wise, but nagging everyday that she can't wait till I move
I don't ever want my kids to be burdened to care for me, or hinder their lifestyle because I am aging.
Mom likes to throw the "culture" card out about how HER culture don't abandon parents in Assisted Living facilities bla blah
Well sorry! You left Portugal to live in America- so wouldn't she be guilty of doing the same to her parents???
I told her my father planned very well for their retirement, and she can afford the nicest communities and caregivers- but i most certainly will NOT be changing her diapers sorry.
I don't want my kids changing mine either! Ugh

 

[DobbyForever]

I wish I had money to pay someone to read me the posts I miss while I am asleep/sick/working. With cute voices. And accents. And another to write down my initial thoughts the post them for me

 

[campn]

J- That's completely understandable, she should be understanding and not even want to put you through that, but really she is your guest right now and should respect you and your boundaries, just like when you were young and you had to respect her wishes. She should be grateful! And really I doubt every Portuguese family have an elderly living at home, maybe it was the usual thing years ago but not anymore with great elderly nursing homes available.

Also you can't take care of everyone, your kids, job, your mom and yourself! That's too much of a huge burden for any one.