Getting Fit Before Baby

[ireadyermind]

Happy Monday everyone! (Yeah right, eh? lol)

This past weekend was spent cleaning or improving our house. Sunday, in addition to completing some little projects in the garage, DH and I also spent hours cleaning out our old pickup. In the past, it only ever really got vacuumed and the occasional spray with cleaner and a quick wipe down. We cleaned the outside, of course, but the inside - not so much. Didn't feel the need to, since it's just been for hauling and other dirty projects.

Buuuut yesterday we shampooed the entire interior. Seats, carpets, center console, floor mats... It was SO gross! Even after a pre-treatment, a thorough soaping and a thorough rinsing, the waste water was coming away absolutely filthy. and that was after about two or three hours of scrubbing. Oye!

So my arms and back got a good workout from all of that. I'm aching everywhere this morning! But now that the truck is running and the inside's all spiffy, we can go pick up a rental tiller for the back yard next weekend and get back to that project IF it doesn't rain.


How were your gals' weekends?

 

[mrs.green2015]

Irym- I'm exhausted just listening that! Lol but glad you got good stuff done.


Afm- doctors appointment in less than an hour to see what she says about not ovulating!

 

[ireadyermind]

Let us know what you learn!

 

[mrs.green2015]

Can't believe I forgot to update you ladies.
Basically the doc went over all my history and then agreed it sounds like I'm not ovulating and said I have two options: keep tracking and see if my cycles regulate themselves. Or go to the fertility specialist. I was in complete shock and asked her what she recommends. And she said hold on while she looked over my chart (my history from my old doc and test she had run thyroid ect) and then said she recommends seeing the specialist. Along with continuing to loose weight to see the FS for all the test since that's the first step. Hubs is on board and thinks is all worth it and fine and I'm just in shock and upset.
The FS already called me and my blood work is in order I'll get it done tomorrow. Hubs sperm analysis is already ordered but we need to wait for the paperwork in the mail to get it done. I'm on the waiting list to get an Hsg done this week, if no appointments open up I'll have to call and make an appointment on my first day of my next period.

 

[ireadyermind]

Why so much shock? You already suspected there were problems, right? That's why you went to get a second opinion rather than wait a whole extra year before seeing a specialist, like the previous doctor said - right?

I'm glad this new doctor is being proactive instead of using the "wait and see" approach!

 

[mrs.green2015]

I was in shock because I thought my normal gyno would run some test or try clomid or something rather than just send me. But yes I am very very happy she's being proactive rather than making me seem crazy.

 

[swimmyj1]

Green - I think its so great she is sending you right to a specialist. My ob messed around with clomid and kind of guessing at what to do and it never went anywhere. When you go to a specialist they can hopefully find out why your not ovulating and monitor your cycles so you know how many eggs you have. So glad your DH is on board with seeing one too Hopefully you can get in soon!

 

[cupcakestoy]

Mrs. G-I'm glad your Dr. is getting the ball rolling!
IRYM-I used to care if me Jeep was spotless, but that got lost somewhere in the 2nd year I owned it lol Maybe because I live in the dang thing 4-5 days a week with my job?

Girls, I had an awful weekend! DD was determined to get out of the house Friday night. She ended up spending the night with this girl whom I don't know that well, so I got a # & address. Drove by the house before work on Saturday morning & her car wasn't there :/ She didn't answer, the girl didn't answer, so I called d-xh. He found them an hour or so later, with the girl driving dd car! Needless to say a serious discussion followed! I found out she's been letting others drive her car, which is in my name, lying about working over to talk to a 26 y/o man at her work & just not being the trust worthy dd that I thought she was I laid out her punishment & then she threw the "I think its best if I move in with dad for a while" I held it together & told her she was old enough to make that decision, but if she did the car didn't go & my home is not a revolving door! If she was running away from the consequences, then it was a big mistake cause if she did this she was out for at least 6 months, then if she wanted to come home we would pick up right were we left off with her punishment! d-xh ended up paying the rest she owed us on her car yesterday & I gave him the title. I will cancel the ins asap & get our tags back. Not being responsible when she's with her dad! She came & packed her things & moved out Saturday evening Left alot of things that broke my heart & told me she was sorry, she loved me & still wanted me to be a part of her life? idk what that means at this point! Anyways, she hasn't attempted to make contact since....My heart is broken & I've cried pretty much non-stop! All I could do Saturday was to tell her that I loved her, even tho she thinks I don't & I miss her being little when things were easier! I did talk to d-xh yesterday, he said she is doing ok,but doesn't talk to him much & is unhappy that he made her download an app that can track her where abouts via her cell! He says he's not going to let her do as she pleases, so we will see....I told him I had had her for 17 years & the last 1 is all his!

 

[ireadyermind]

Aww, cupcake! That's terrible!

My sister did something similar when she and I were kids, except she was stealing Mom's car because she didn't have her own. She ended up moving in with our dad for about a year and regretted every bit of it.

Why do they think that when they get caught doing the wrong thing, it's the parent's fault for everything? As if expecting your child to follow the rules is unreasonable!

I'm glad you stuck to your guns and told her she didn't get to just skip from one parent to the other just to escape punishment... that would have set a bad precedent if you had just let her walk all over you.

again!

 

[Ursaula]

Right off the bat;
Cupcake: YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. A couple years ago I took my parents car (which they were lending to me as you did with her) and drove 8 1/2 hours to go see a guy I had never met before. Long story short I had consequences and my parents both stood their ground. It's important to stand your ground and not budge or teens will think they can do whatever they want, knowing you will move and budge. She'll come to realize she needs you in her life more than ever. Big hug!!

IRYM: I love your updates on the improvements you're doing for your house/yard. I'll be watching closely to your chart as well these next few days. Hopefully it was enough to get a sticky one!

Mrs. G: Seeing a FS right off the bat sounds great! I'm glad you're going to be figuring things out quicker rather than later. Fx'd for an easy fix

Swimmy: I love hearing updates on your little beanie! So exciting, have you been obsessing over names or anything?

AFM: I apologize for being absent. It's been a very interesting past couple of weeks. A friend of mine is in the hospital with contractions! We're all hoping the baby will come today, she's 34 weeks and her water broke 2 days ago so she's on bed rest. Ah, the wait is agonizing!

In terms of my chart I've given up again for a bit on temping since it seems useless to me. I had kind of sticky cm today and other than that, nothing since my last updates. I plan on starting again tomorrow since I see the gynaecologist in April. It'll give her a month and a half of current temping and then about a year of previous temps.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Cupcake- you totally did the right thing. I can't imagine how hard it was but standing your ground was best. She'll thank you when she's older.

Urs- hope she has that baby soon! How exciting.

 

[swimmyj1]

Cupcake - im so sorry. I pulled a lot of that crap when I was her age and now looking back I hate what I put my mom through. I can't even imagine how heart breaking this is for you you did the right thing. She will regret leaving running from your problems isn't the answer.

Urs - no names yet, I have the ones I want and DH has his ideas (sooo not loving his names lol) used the Doppler again today baby is super easy to find now. Still pretty sick which stinks.

 

[mrs.green2015]

That's so awesome you can hear it anytime you want! I want to get a Doppler once I get my bfp but with a tilted uterus and being overweight I'm afraid it'll take a little longer to find it and of course when I don't find it right away I'll freak out. lol

 

[Ursaula]

Swimmy: So happy for you!

Mrs.G: I'm sort of similar. I'm afraid of being so overweight and they won't find anything, doctors or doppler. I also fear being pregnant when I'm this overweight to be honest. That's why I joined this forum though, to lose weight so I can have a smooth pregnancy, a healthier lifestyle, and I'm able to chase my kids around the house.

AFM (again): My friend had her baby girl! Madelyn. I love her name. Fx'd for all of us still waiting for those sticky bfps!

I also got talking to my mom today. I said, jokingly, "You know what's more wonderful than you having human grand-babies?" She stated, "Absolutely nothing." I was joking about my dog but hearing her say that made me feel even more ready to bring her a grand-baby. Fx'd gals

 

[mrs.green2015]

That's so awesome urs! I hope you get your bfp soon! I also love the name.
As far as being overweight and not being able to find anything by doctors. It won't affect it from what I understand (Doppler I'm not sure which is why I'm worried) but I went to the Er when I started bleeding (a week before mc) and the doc couldn't find my uterus and he was so puzzled I thought my weight but he said no it's definantly not that. Turns out it was my tilted uterus. It's tipped so far back it's hard to see on the ultrasound until it expands with baby. I talked to the ultra sound tech about it for awhile while she did the transvaginal ultrasound.

Afm- tomorrow starts my tests. I go in the morning for blood test, and a pregnancy test. They have to make sure I'm not pregnant for my hsg on Friday. And Thursday I have to start antibiotics because the hsg can cause infection. Hubs should be doing his SA next week.

 

[ireadyermind]

Mrs.Green - Oh boy, good old pre-HSG prepwork and meds. I had to do all the same stuff for mine a few months back. FX'd you're in perfect working order!

Swimmy - Ever since a coworker of mine lost her baby in the 3rd trimester because its umbilical cord wrapped around its neck, I swore I'd get a doppler ASAP once I was pregnant. She could have used it to look in on the little one and, hearing a slower heartbeat, could have gone to the ER and saved the baby. But they wouldn't do regular ultrasounds for her because they figured there was no need, since she was due to deliver in less than a month.

I was like, "No WAY am I going to go that long without checking in on my baby! There's still so much that could go wrong!"

ANYWAY -- DH had said that if we had a boy, he wanted to name it after himself (Howard) --- no. No no no. It's outdated and I've never liked it (didn't stop me from liking HIM), but he was named after his dad. I compromised by saying that I didn't have a problem with a baby's middle name being Howard, but that I would not use it for a first name. He's okay with that, thank goodness.


Urs - Congrats to your friend!



AFM - FF finally gave me CHs today. It's a slow rise this month instead of my usual temperature spike, but that's okay. I just take it to mean that progesterone was taking its sweet time elevating this month instead of jumping up overnight. Do you think a slow rise sounds better than a quick jump? Like, I don't know, if it's a slow rise, then it also won't just all of a sudden drop around the time AF is due? Maybe making it more likely for an egg to have time to implant? Hmmm.

My BFP cycle had a slow rise too, and my pre-O temps were higher than usual, just like this cycle. FXd we get it this month, or else I'm going on a break a month or two so I can try and focus 100% on this stubborn weight issue!

 

[mrs.green2015]

Fx for you irym! How sad about your friend. My heart breaks for her.
Also, I agreed with something similar on the names. Lol DH wants to name a boy after his dad, Donald. But after some time we agreed to making it a middle name.


How was your hsg? I heard FS painful? And can be after too? I'm planning to go to work after.

 

[swimmyj1]

Urs - that is my little cousins name it's so cute!

Irym - my friend losses her baby in the 3rd also 39 weeks she went into the er for decreased movement and for some reason his poor little heart had stopped beating during the night. It's still has me so worried something like that will happen. I know the chance is low but it's still there.

Green - my hsg wasn't painful just very crampy but I've heard if you have a blocked tube that's when it hurts most. Hopefully yours goes well! Fingers crossed.

As for Doppler use with being over weight (which I am most of my weight is held on by stomach ugh) I think the first time I found the HR was around 10-11 weeks but it was really hard to find. The dopplers they use in the Drs office are way better than mine at home lol and she had no issue finding it at 12 weeks but did warn me sometimes they can't. Even now if baby is moving i can't really find it and it totally freaks me out. So when you gals get ur bfp try and remember that even if u can't find it doesn't mean something's wrong lol but still doesn't help me from freaking out.

 

[ireadyermind]

My HSG was pretty pinchy toward the end, like some of my worse PMS cramps, but the whole procedure lasted maybe 15 - 30 seconds after the dye was injected. It was over before I had a chance to get really uncomfortable.

I didn't have blocked tubes, so I don't know how that feels. For me, it was just crampy because they inflate a balloon in there to block the dye from spilling out, and that causes minor stretching and discomfort. They told me to take 800mg ibuprofen before the procedure, which worked wonderfully on preventing additional cramps after the fact.

Easy peasy.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Thanks ladies!! I'm definitely excited to see what happens. But I doubt I'll have a blocked tube since I got pregnant last year and it wasn't an etopic and I didn't have a dnc unless it can happen randomly? I'm not sure. Haven't done much research on it.