Girls i'm so sad!

[_Alice_]

I'm just so desperate for a little bean! I might need a break from b&b, maybe i'm just concerntrating on TTC too much. I don't understand it, we do everything right, we are both fit, and healthy. I know our time will come, but arrrghhhhhh!
My friend told me yesterday that she found out she was 11 weeks pregnant - she's only been trying a month! Although i am so happy and proud of her - i can't help but think, why not me? I can't wait for the day when people are asking me whether i'm "going to find out the sex" and "are you getting morning sickness" ... I can't wait for all that! Sometimes i analyze it to much and think, what if we can't have kids, and we are wasting our time?! Gosh!

 

[CowGirlLinds]

I hear you with your frustruation. (((((HUG))))) I hope that you get a BFP soon, remember that it is supposed to be fun TTC. We have been TTC for awhile now too and friends keep getting PG, I am a little jealous when they tell me, but express my excitement for them. One of my best friends who knows how long we have been TTC is preggers 5 months after having her first and she was scared to tell me that she was pg, did not want to hurt my feelings.......I was happy for her, sad she thought I would be really upset.

Hang in there girl it will happen!

 

[_Alice_]

Aww thanks CowGirlLinds,
It's just hard when you know you are doing everything right and making sure you and you OH are healthy. You babydance all the time, and at the right times. Its like, come on sperm it can't be that hard hard!

 

[Miabella]

I hear ya. It can be so frustrating! My best friend is pg as well...we started TTC together, m/c'd at the same time, and then she went on to get pg and well...I'm still waiting! I do honestly believe that we sacrifice for our children even before they come to be, and the ups and downs of TTC are definitely part of that.
Good luck to you!!!!!

 

[CowGirlLinds]

Alice how long have you been TTC?

 

[_Alice_]

Alice how long have you been TTC?

Only since November time. Feels like a lifetime though!

 

[loopylew]

i think we all go through these ups and downs, at the beginning of every cycle i just think its soooooo long off trying again.

 

[Samo]

so sorry babe, TTC is frustrating isn't it? And you aren't alone, i have been TTC #1 since November as well with no luck. Our cycles look similar, i am 28 days and on CD25, so just 2 days ahead of you. We can do this and who knows, maybe we will both get a BFP this upcoming week!

 

[_Alice_]

Thanks samo, its reassuring to know someone else is in the same boat. I'm just frustrated that it happens for my friend sooo easily when they weren't really trying, and i'm putting my heart and soul into this much wanted and much precious baby!

 

[Tishimouse]

I understand you perfectly. I too have been ready to throw the towel in a few times and have only been charting my cycles for two months now. I've gone through the reading every sign and symptom to watching my temps like a hawk and wondering what the devil is going on.

I've gone through the stress of timing BD and feeling like the 'fun' has been taken out of it from time to time. I've got myself stressed and tearful and moped around the house feeling like I just can't be bothered any more. I've had all these emotions and experienced them ALL in the space of a day. So, honestly you really are not alone as we are only a few of millions who feel exactly the same way. It's natural to feel this way because we have such little control over what happens and when. All we can do is our best and nothing more.

So, the moral of the story is ... go ahead and rant and throw your teddies out of your cot. Go ahead and tell yourself that you're going to give up. It will help you dispel some of the frustrations that builds up around ttc time. Then, when you've had a good cry and got it out of your system, try to occupy your time with other things for a week or so and you will soon find that you are ready to try again. A little break does everyone the world of good and gives you strength to start anew.

You're little miracle is just around the corner. I can't tell you which corner, but it won't happen if you don't try. You just need to make sure you are relaxed and ready to enjoy trying. I wish you peace of mind and an extra sprinkle of for when you are ready.

 

[scrap4bryce]

tishimouse said it perfectly. i've been there too, ready to give up but you have to "grieve" this process and then get back to it! keep your head up - your little one is coming!

 

[Tanya819]

Hang in there Alice. I've been TTC since November as well and it's a bit frustrating when others around you get pg first. Just have to remember that our time will come soon.

 

[Amanda]

I know how lucky I am to already have 2 lovely kids, but still find it really frustrating that we can't seem to get it right for number 3, so I can understand exactly how you feel hun.

We wanted another close to Charlie, ideally within a year, so started ttc again as soon as he was born. Almost 18 months on, and nothing.Everyone around me is pg again, and someone at work has just had their 2nd last week, and they got pg first month of trying for both kids! How???

I'm almost 38 and want at least 2 more kids, and every month is another month closer to that dreaded menapause when the "do we have more kids?" decision is taken out of our hands. We are desperate for more and it just isn't happening.

But, we're trying not to let it take over our lives anymore. We're living for today, and planning for the future, and if another LO comes along, fantastic.

It will happen for us all _Alice_, I'm confident in that. And then we will be the ones on here consoling others who are going through the ttc journey, and telling them that their time will come.

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh lovely, I am sorry that you are feeling so sad, is your ticker correct? If so, you only have 5 days to test - you could get a BFP

 

[_Alice_]

I know how lucky I am to already have 2 lovely kids, but still find it really frustrating that we can't seem to get it right for number 3, so I can understand exactly how you feel hun.

We wanted another close to Charlie, ideally within a year, so started ttc again as soon as he was born. Almost 18 months on, and nothing.Everyone around me is pg again, and someone at work has just had their 2nd last week, and they got pg first month of trying for both kids! How???

I'm almost 38 and want at least 2 more kids, and every month is another month closer to that dreaded menapause when the "do we have more kids?" decision is taken out of our hands. We are desperate for more and it just isn't happening.

But, we're trying not to let it take over our lives anymore. We're living for today, and planning for the future, and if another LO comes along, fantastic.

It will happen for us all _Alice_, I'm confident in that. And then we will be the ones on here consoling others who are going through the ttc journey, and telling them that their time will come.

Thanks Amanda

 

[Omi]

HI sweetie,

i know exactly how you feel... it can be sooo frustrating. For me personally i thought i'd be lucky right away, i mean you just do! You take such care not getting pregnant for so long, and then you hear about people getting 'accidentally' pregnant, you're just bound to feel a but cheated and fed up when you dont.

And then you feel like, 'whats the point' etc etc.. i know! it took me just over 6 months of careful planning b4 i got pregnant and I'm 37, which is within normal for most couples.. however, when in the thick of every week feels like a bloody lifetime (sorry)..

I have since lost the baby, missed mc with a d&c after, but im ready to try again. Although its back to the drawingboard so to speak, im also hopeful that although this is (unfortunately) such a difficult journey, its a journey none the less and one many, many ,successfully even, take! Lots and lost
to you!!!

 

[_Alice_]

Aww hun, sorry to hear about your loss. I hope our time comes soon, so much luck to you xxxxx