Going crazy

[honeybunch2k7]

I really don't know how much longer I can wait to have a babe. I at first thinking in the fall. I now realize I can't do that.

Sooo, that means I will either being doing it this month or at the end of July. I can't in June b/c SO will be out of town for 2 weeks around the time I ovulate.

I really would like to get started tomorrow, but I think I may just wait until July even though it's driving me crazy. Okay, I admit part of the reason I want to wait is cuz I wanna go to Six Flags lol. I'm afraid of miscarrying if I get on some of those rides, and I would never, I mean NEVER forgive myself if that happened. I also figured waiting a few more weeks would give me more time to grieve, allow me to save up a lil more money, and allow SO and I more time to work on our relationship. Oh yes, and if I wait a lil longer I can get onto OH's insurance. He he.

But I'm going craaaaaaaaazzzy!!!!!

 

[Newt]

 

[porkpie1981]

A u know from my other post im right with u on this one

Hows ur oh about this? Does he want to try or is he like my oh says to leave it a few months but then doesnt use anything?

 

[honeybunch2k7]

OH seemed to go along with TTC right now, but I need to tell him I've changed my mind. Last night we talked about it, and he said he wanted to be a daddy.

Our conversation was kinda funny. He was like "You're not gonna love me anymore when you're in all that pain!" I was like, "You mean in labor? Of course, I will!"

He didn't seem quite as excited as me, but he didn't say no lol.

 

[Alchemist]

thats a great sigh......psycho but nice (as only us mad women could think)

 

[honeybunch2k7]

Nevermind on baby for now. Our sex life is not to good.

 

[Alchemist]

hells bells. Do i totally understand....dh and I are gonna practice the withdrawl method this week until he feels better. hey its a step up from condoms (i refuse to stick plastic bags up my you know what anymore).

Men are such babies - they are great practice for when you actually get one ha ha

 

[honeybunch2k7]

hells bells. Do i totally understand....dh and I are gonna practice the withdrawl method this week until he feels better. hey its a step up from condoms (i refuse to stick plastic bags up my you know what anymore).

Men are such babies - they are great practice for when you actually get one ha ha

 

[honeybunch2k7]

I thought SO and I had agreed that we would TTC in late July, but I don't know what's going on now. Yesterday we talked about it a little, and he didn't sound so enthused. He said now is not a good time. Really, he's right, but I don't know how much longer I can wait. I also wish he was a excited as I am.

If I'm gonna miscarry again, I'd rather just get it over with rather than healing then going thru all this again. I guess my motives are a bit selfish, but I can't help it. I'm really scared there may be something wrong with me, I'd rather just find out now.

 

[Alchemist]

I thought SO and I had agreed that we would TTC in late July, but I don't know what's going on now. Yesterday we talked about it a little, and he didn't sound so enthused. He said now is not a good time. Really, he's right, but I don't know how much longer I can wait. I also wish he was a excited as I am.

If I'm gonna miscarry again, I'd rather just get it over with rather than healing then going thru all this again. I guess my motives are a bit selfish, but I can't help it. I'm really scared there may be something wrong with me, I'd rather just find out now.

I know you feeling yucky but take a deep breathe and try to find out whats up with Dh. Maybe hes scared of you becoming more depressed.

Did you find out if there are reasons for your m/c? most women have them - sometimes a fetus is just not right and its better that it happens. While i can imagine its pretty devestating its not a lifetime sentence neccessarily.

What did your doc say?

 

[honeybunch2k7]

I know you feeling yucky but take a deep breathe and try to find out whats up with Dh. Maybe hes scared of you becoming more depressed.

Did you find out if there are reasons for your m/c? most women have them - sometimes a fetus is just not right and its better that it happens. While i can imagine its pretty devestating its not a lifetime sentence neccessarily.

What did your doc say?

He could be afraid of me getting worse since I told him I may have a serious case of post partum depression.

The docs only said that the baby most likely implanted too low. I'm afraid I may be cervically challenged. Baby was fine as far as we know, and he was still alive with a strong heart beat and all. I did not have a missed miscarriage, I went into pre-term labor.

ETA: You may want to be careful saying that b/c someone who's had a miscarriage could find that HIGHLY offensive and insensitive.

 

[Sambatiki]

Alchemist,
In the main its very rare that you get to find out why you had a MC for many reasons. Just thought I'd let you know. Im sure you didn't mean any malice earlier.

Kerry x

 

[dizzy65]

Good luck on everything!

 

[honeybunch2k7]

^Thank you!

 

[Alchemist]

He could be afraid of me getting worse since I told him I may have a serious case of post partum depression.

The docs only said that the baby most likely implanted too low. I'm afraid I may be cervically challenged. Baby was fine as far as we know, and he was still alive with a strong heart beat and all. I did not have a missed miscarriage, I went into pre-term labor.

ETA: You may want to be careful saying that b/c someone who's had a miscarriage could find that HIGHLY offensive and insensitive.

So sorry if it came out insensitive - of course i dont know how it feels and I am sure its worse than i can imagine. I had a friend who went for her 10 week scan and the doc said her baby died and she had to have a D&C. She has a masters in genetics and they did the tests and couldnt find anything either so i guess sometimes you dont know. But there are sometimes reasons as well.

I know too well about depression and what I really meant was that instead of becoming more depressed about it, maybe you can see a specialist who can analyse your uterus (not sure if there is one???) and can reassure you that it was a once off event. If not, its important to get some emotional support from friends and family so that your hubby is also not overwhelmed by it all.

I guess sometimes I feel that since I am an expert in depression (I have had it for many years on and off) I can flippantly share my advice. Sorry but I know how debilitating it is and also that its important to get help.

anyways, I hope it comes right for you and that you can go on to have a happy and safe pregnancy and all the blessing from there on......

 

[honeybunch2k7]

OH doesn't want to have sex with me b/c he doesn't want me to be pregnant again. He doesn't want to TTC in July.

 

[MrsKeene]

I know how you feel in a way! Hubby wouldn't have sex last night because we ran out of condoms! I had to go to the store today just to have sex tonight! Man are just so stuborn!

 

[porkpie1981]

has he given another month?

 

[honeybunch2k7]

has he given another month?

No, nothing specific. He just said a year or two. I"m gonna keep my ticker just in case.

 

[porkpie1981]

What protection do u use?