hey hun,
i am sperm donor conceived and only found out about this arround 10 months ago (im 20). Its a really big decision and shouldnt be taken lightly, in my personal experience, it is extremelly difficult for me to adjust since ive found out. It is somthing very hard for a person to adjust to, knowing that they have a sperm donor father somewhere out in the world aswell as possible brothers and sisters. It feels like part of you is missing, and i am alwyas going crazy thinking about this. I find myself constantly thinking about who he is and i am acutually going through the process of finding out.
In my opinion, it is so much better to have a mother and a father figure in your life and to know exactly who they are. If i were you, i would wait, you have plenty of time. Even if you dont see yourself marrying, maybe if you had a committed other who wanted to be in the babies life, that would be great. I can imagine, through my experience, that it would be terribly hard for the baby to adjust and it is much easier if they know from day one that this is mummy and this is daddy ( you may or not be together ) but two parental figures is better then one, and as the child grows up their wont be any confusion or negative feelings.
Whatever you decide we will all support you. If you do go through with the sperm donor, make sure your child is aware of it from early on, finding out later in life is much to hard. To have your life and your certanty shaken up is terrible hard to adjust too.
xx