Got 2 weeks till baby's due & OH wants to break up

[rwhite]

Don't worry hun, like other girls have said, I'm sure he is just having last minute doubts. Not even doubts, it has probably just hit him that he's going to be a dad and that his life is going to change forever. Sounds like it could be a handy excuse saying what he did, but that he's not voicing his real concerns. Maybe when he gets home have a chat to him about it and see if he will tell you how he's feeling. I know guys are a bit weird about opening up about things like that, but it could be worth a shot.

Hang in there babes Big hugs, and I'm hoping that once your gorgeous wee baby is born he do a complete 360.

In the meantime, I really hope he apologizes for being so hurtful and stressing you out! xxx

 

[Charlieblue]

Sending you love, hope your ok, keep your chin up. xxx

 

[hannahR]

Oh men can be so so selfish. Makes me so mad that he has let you down like this so close to the birth of your baby. I really hope you can sit down and have a good chat so that you can be really sure as to what is going on in his head. Hugs. xxx

 

[moomin_troll]

omg! what a tw*t for springing this one u 2 weeks before ur due.
and as for saying being at home is boring that so childish i think he is just having a panic moment but its not fair on u at all the way hes gone about it.
has he moved out or are u still living together?

if hes still at urs then id say hes not serious about splitting but would u be able to stay with someone whos hurt u like this?

hope everything works out for u and u do what makes u happy x

He has not moved out but lately he has been spending a lot of time out.
I have to be honest i will never feel content in this relationship now for what he has said. His timin and selfishness is unreal. He saw me in tears about it this mornin and still choose to go out and has not arrived home yet.

u do have to look back and think about how hes treating u at such a scary time in ur life and if i was u i cud never forgive or forget this and i wouldnt feel safe in the relationship.

i think its time he faces up to what hes said and u shud ask him to leave if thats what he really wants. this might scare the hell out of him and wake him up or he could leave but its nto fair on u or the baby for u to be with someone who doesnt show u love.

dont be scared of being alone because ule have ur lo.

have u got any close friends or are u close with ur family as u cud have one of them as ur birthing parnters if fob doesnrt have the balls to be there.

good luck x

 

[xminimotox]

Im soo sorry hun Why are some men so heartless!! I really hope you can sort things out and he realise what a big mistake he is making!! x

 

[K1mberley]

i have been with my oh four years in July and i cant begin to imagine how i would be feeling if he turned around and said that to me keep your chin up, xxx

 

[minyme]

Thank-you so much ladie's. He came back very late that day and i can't bear to talk to him right now as i will be very tempted to kill him. He is crap at communication so i don't want to approach him right now i want to give him time to realise what a sh**t head he has been.

i have since wiped my tears and went to pick up my new car on Sunday (i choose the BMW in the end) so i have my independance back and have been goin out more to visit friends and family, which i know has opened his eyes that i am not here to wait for him to be a man about the situation. He is keepin very silent about it at the mo but i am not hangin around waitin for him to make it final and move out as i am now focusin on preparin for baby who can arrive at any time.

To be honest i think my get up and go after i shed the tears surprised him.
Thank-you all soo much as i haven't told my family yet as i feel too embarassed and it is a bit too raw at the moment.

 

[girl friday]

Glad you are feeling a little better today. It's good he's seeing you aren't sitting around waiting for him and crying over him and that you are getting out of the house.

Good luck with everything!

x

 

[ricschick]

good on you hun dont let the ******* get you down or atleast dont show him that it has xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Minstermind]

My god what a rotten situation he's put upon you. I'm really glad to hear that you have some get up and go about you after his despicable behavior and agree with moomin_troll and yourself that it would be nigh impossible to view him or the relationship on good terms ever again after dumping that news on you so close to your due date, after a planned conception no less (but would be equally horrid under any circumstances). Hang tough and respect yourself!

 

[scaredmum2be]

Still there is no reason for him to feel scared after all its us women have to go thru the labour an pain!! men understand nothing, thats like me saying to hubby im bored of him an want him out the house an me staying out all night. 2 weeks before ur due to give birth i cudnt forgive my hubby if he did that i wouldnt even let him come back because that proves the next time if i had anymore he'd be the same, Its just not on.

Youve done so well hun keep ur chin up for you an ur bubs sake he aint worth the time or effort by sounds of it. Least u can say u tried asking for time with him an hes just shoved it right in ur face an said no so much tryin on his part not!!.

I wouldnt let him see you cry i know it might be hard for you but you'll think ur better off without him when lo is here an when he decides to have contact etc...
thinking of you hun.
Hes a really selfish man!! xx

 

[mommy-in-june]

Oh my gods... what is going on today?! How can men do this to women who are carrying their children? I'm guessing he is having baby fears, but that's the nice side of me. The mean side says "he's a selfish asshole!" The best thing you can do for yourself and your baby is to stay strong- get out of the house and let family/friends support you since he won't. I wouldn't take him back without a seriously good reason... what kind of father is he (let alone husband) to do this to his baby's mommy this way??

 

[moomin_troll]

hope ur feeling ok today.

personaly i wouldnt wait for him to make the next move id tell him to leave as i had better things to do with my life then have him walking in and out no matter how hard it wud be to say he needs to see he cant just do this and then get away with it.

im glad to say there was no baby involved in my situation but my ex wud do this to me all the time constantly playing mind games.
being all nice to me then the next i dont love u im leaving u. then i even got ile kill myself if u dont come back to me.

he messed me up so much i cudnt even imagine being as i was and having a child.
this will hurt u more in the long run if its not sorted out now.

if hes willing to leave then so be it he isnt worth ur time n doesnt sound like a great father anyway, but if this wakes him up then maybe u can try and work things out but as ive said before i cudnt forgive this.

here if u need a chat and i totaly understand why u dont wana tell ur family but u shud tell someone so u have the support u need x

 

[Sunflowers]

Oooooft what horrible timing - not that there's ever a good time but you know what I mean..

It sounds like it might be a hefty dose of cold feet - the responsibility of what is about to happen has hit him square between the eyes and it's scared the living whatsits out of him and he's handling it badly. Very badly. If that IS the case then he has a lot of making up to do and a lot of trust regaining to do and I don't envy you that because that will be hard..

However, it might be that he's realised that your relationship isn't something he wants - and it's a shame he didn't realise that when talking about a baby instead of 2 weeks before you're due to give birth to that baby but that's the situation he's put you in.. From the other side of the coin, as much as it's hard, you're almost better this happening before the baby is born - I've watched a couple split up when their baby was a few weeks old and it was really hard on the mum - but babies are funny things, they'll glue a strong relationship together and be a rod of dynamite into a failing one and split them right apart, if you are going to have to do this alone then at least you know now.. You sound like you're being really brave over the whole thing - I'd have fallen apart completely! Have you got good support in terms of family and friends around you? I hope it all works out ok and I really really really hope it's just a case of cold feet and he realises what an idiot he's been to put you through this, fingers crossed ay?

 

[maybebaby3]

 

[jess3012]

keep your chin up love! sending you hugs
You are being very strong.