grrrrr i don't want your negative opinions of just do one!!!

[missmayhem]

i don;t mind helpful advice if given gently, but when people shoot you down saying your gonna fail its very very hurtful

 

[leahsmummy443]

Oh god I hate this, some people can be so negative! Its like if u have nothing nice to say keep ur bloody gob shut! Grrrrrr. If I wanted ur opinion I'd say 'what do u think about that?' which I don't!!!!! Lol. I'm getting to the point now that I won't keep my gob shut much longer, why should I? They don't! X

 

[ttcnewbie123]

For some reason ppl love giving 'advice' to pregnant women! I just tell ppl straight thanks but I've got a midwife to advise me so no need to give me ur advice! Seems to shut them up! Just ignore them hun x

 

[AngelBunny]

i'm with you on this! very annoying! and all those people telling me i won't be able to do it naturally just makes me all the more determined to prove them wrong!

 

[Rude_Reds]

ohh you don;t want to breast feed it does the baby no good, formula was invented for a reason

I remember getting this one when I was pregnant the first time! Still makes me mad! I remember people saying that I was going to "starve" my "poor little baby". I exclusively breastfed both of my children and they were BOTH always in the 98th and 99th percentiles for weight... so I'm PRETTY sure they weren't coming anywhere close to starving.

People need to learn to filter what they say... especially to a pregnant woman! We're going through enough!

My MIL would lift my son up and tell me he was so skinny cuz I was starving him. D hurtful part was not only would my FOB not tell her anything, he'd join her in bullying me and telling me what a horrible mother I was. Now, my son barely ever gets sick and his paternal cousin who was born 5 mths after and was totally bottlefed always has a flu. My FOB can't stop praising me for sticking to breastfeeding my son.
I have no problem with mothers who wanna bottlefeed. That's their prerogative but respect the rights of those who wanna breastfeed. Choosing to bottle or breast feed doesn't detemine who loves their child more. Needed to rant a little about that. Lol

 

[darsilver1]

Not surprised that people are giving you unwanted advice...Something I have learned about life is, everyone loves to give their opinions.There is no real way of avoiding it unless you live under a rock...So like the others said, let it go in one ear and out the other. But also remember that sometimes people are just telling you things from their personal experience. It is not that they are always intentionally trying to say you are wrong. Hope the comments stop for you. Hang in there

 

[88Keys2]

My theory is that they were miserable while being pregnant and giving birth, and they want us to be miserable too. Try to ignore them and stick to your guns. Pregnancy, birth, and parenthood are different for everyone, and it's stupid for them to think that your experience will be exactly the same as theirs.

 

[missmayhem]

thank you ladies!! feeling a lot more positive today

 

[Catwiffy]

In one ear, out the other!! Best way to stay sane I'm finding!!!

We've had lots of comments because we aren't finding out the sex, even been told we are irresponsible as how can we prepare for a baby! And I want to breastfeed, have received some criticism for that, again, even been told it's not natural, which made me laugh!

Everyone feels the right/need to open their mouths and pour out "advice" when someone is pregnant. I'm just now choosing to ignore the lot of them!!!

 

[missmayhem]

ahh yes the god old finding out the sex chestnut.......

people love to give their opinion on that one

 

[Tampa]

I love this conversation:
"Do you know what you're having?"
"Yes, a boy."
"Oh, why did you want to spoil the surprise?!"
Shut up. If YOU want a surprise so much, don't fricking ask me what I'm having! (is what I'd respond if I had the nerve...)

 

[JackiePed]

Wow... I can't believe people get crap for breastfeeding!! I've never once had someone put me down for breastfeeding my babies. I've always just assumed everyone knows it's the best thing, and if you can do it, great! I would be so pissed if someone tried to tell me "formula was invented for a reason".

Hmmm... so let's see... high-fructose corn-syrup was invented for a reason, too eh? And how about.... Twinkies!! Well they must be invented for a reason, why don't you feed your family on those? What? That's a bad analogy because it's not a meal replacement? I've GOT IT!-- Meal Shakes were invented for a reason! Stop feeding your family delicious homemade-from-scratch meals... after all, meal-replacement shakes like Ensure were created for a reason...
And so were Swanson dinners....and ......

What a stupid thing for people to say.

Obviously your best response to that is, "Well my boobs make milk for a reason too, and it ain't for when I've forgotten to swing by the store and want some Oreos!"

 

[JackiePed]

I'm so cheesy I'm laughing at my own joke ^^... now I'm just WAITING for someone to tell me 'formula was invented for a reason'.... ha!

 

[nickyXjayno]

It's weird how natural births, cloth nappies, baby wearing & breastfeeding are seen as hippy stuff these days.
My mum did all of the above with me and my sister as it was just the normal thing to do.
My mum is definitely not a hippy, she just wanted to be close to her babies and do the most natural things for them.
Yet when people hear I want to do all of the above I'm laughed at?!
Ummm it's the way I was brought up so is totally natural for me to do the same!

 

[Sweedot]

precisely why ive avoided all these types of conversations with people, unless I KNOW they have been through or done something similar themselves, Im lucky in that my Sister in Law did hypnobirthing, VERY SUCCESSFULLY! and so she has been very supportive...but I havent told many others....my sister for example, who I DID make the mistake of telling, gave me a lecture about how Nieve I was being, "Oh, you'll be in agony, you'll be screaming for an epidural, dont be daft...use the meds, you're weak, you'll never last a natural birth"
I was mortified to say the least and havent discussed it with her since!

I plan on sticking to my plan wherever possible, obviously, we dont know WHAT our bodies can handle until the big day, but I sure as heck plan on doing EVERYTHING i can before i resort to medical intervention!!!

I say, good luck to you and stick to your guns!

 

[Pielette]

Yup, heard it all! I'm planning on a homebirth, as natural as possible, but I am completely open-minded to the fact that I don't know what it will be like and things may change. But that is MY bloody choice, MY labour, MY child! I've stopped caring what people think, they usually say, 'oh you're brave' and pull a face like I've decided to have open heart surgery in my living room.

Plus it's getting on my nerves how people act like your life is going to end when you have a child. Yes we know it's going to change but it's not going to end! It's just going to be different! Last week my hubby was at work when they were all talking about a company meeting in December and they're planning on having a couple of drinks afterwards. My hubby said oh that'll be nice, and some other bloke who has a one year old said 'Oh bless him, he thinks he's going to go out for drinks when he has a baby!' Basically acting like he was simple in the head for thinking he could do such a thing. Er... I don't actually mind if he wants to have a couple of drinks with his friends once in a while, and he will do the same for me... Are we on another planet or something?!

 

[missmayhem]

brilliant one yesterday, you want to make your own cloth wipes??? horrified look from my mother....

the last time i sewed anything it was by hand and even then i managed to sew my finger to it!!! she remebers it all to well

 

[letshaveababy]

Obviously your best response to that is, "Well my boobs make milk for a reason too, and it ain't for when I've forgotten to swing by the store and want some Oreos!"

Oh boy! Thanks for making me almost laugh out loud at work!!

I've had 3 no-pain-medication births and I plan on doing the same for this one. When I tell people that I've never had an epidural, and they know I have 3 children, they praise me like I'm some kind of super hero!! Umm... I just wanted to be able to enjoy my baby right from birth, and didn't want a needle in my back... But okay...

This time around I will be BFing (didn't with the other 3), and my mom told me "You know that means the baby will be with you ALL of the time!"... haha Yes mom, I realize that, you know, since my boobs are attached to my body and all....

 

[missmayhem]

holy shit


i didn't realise it till you said it, i can't pop my boob off and hand it to the OH to do the night feeds.....

i love how everyone else says but that means that you can't leave LO and go out shopping, funny but i didn't not plan this pregnancy so i could drop the baby at the first available opportunity to go shopping! i'm having this baby that so for the next 13 or so years i am with them almost constantly... after 13 or so they'll want a life of their own and be able to go off with friends to the cinema etc, but in 40 yrs time i'm expecting the phonecall to say "mum my cats died, and i need you" and i have no doubts i'll be there

 

[elfy_p]

Aww I really know how u feel hun! Wish people would just shut up and mind their own business!
I'm sick of people thinking its fine to comment on my weight and how big my bump is. I was surprised at the number of people who thought it was their business if my baby was planned or not!!! She was planned, but why do they need to know?
I'm really grateful tho to have a supportive husband and a fab mum. My mum has never once told me what to do, or how to do it, with my son and daughter, and I know she won;t with this one either. Its hubby's first and my 3rd child, so he's the one who's clueless lol! Not sure how the in-laws are gonna be tho =/
I know its annoying but just try to ignore it, people are mostly well meaning. just tell them that you appreciate the 'advice' but its yur body and your baby, and you'll be doing things in the way that works best for you.
xxx