have I done the right thing? telling my babies fathers parents?

[Becca_89]

So im really worried i haven't done the right thing.
So me and the father of my unborn baby have not worked out!
He wanted me to have an abortion, to coming around to now not wanting to know a thing or speak to me. My family live elsewhere so I am moving back to their city in 2 weeks.
I decided to write the fathers mum a letter, explaining to her that I am pregnant with his son and that she is more than welcome to be involved.
Some people have said I should of left that to the dad to tell her, which he claims he has, but I don't know whether to believe him.

I didnt ask for anything or write a guilt trip, i was just straight to the point.
Have I done the right thing?

Thank you

 

[IsabellaJayne]

Yes I think it's very mature and very brave of you. Absolutely. She deserves to know and it's responsible of you to make sure they do. Well done . Must have been hard x

 

[Jessicahide]

I think you have every right to do what you did xxx

 

[TeddysGirl]

Yes you have done the right thing. Just because their son sounds like a d**kh**d doesn't mean they don't want to be grandparents, they deserve to know ! I hope you get the response you hope for from them.

 

[became]

I'd say you've done the right thing 100%! They'll definitely know now, as you can't say for sure he did tell them. X

 

[Mushymilkfor2]

I'd say definitely the right thing to do. They deserve to know, and have the chance to be apart of their grandchild's life.

 

[mrscletus]

You absolutely did the right thing, that was a hard decision and probably hard to write. Good for you.. And I am so glad to hear that even tho the relationship didn't work out that you are having the baby. You are already a great role model for your unborn child

 

[DoubleTFun]

You are giving them a chance to be apart of their grandchild's life if they want to.

 

[jlw617]

Absolutely! If I had a grandchild years down the road, I would want to know!

 

[m nonie]

I think you've done a amazing thing by the baby, just because the father is useless doesn't mean his folks won't want to be there for bump. To me anyway its important that families of both sides are given the option to be involved and even if some people would rather not at least you know you can hold you head up high, and know you've done whats right.

 

[Embo78]

Definitely. If that was my grandchild, I'd want to know

 

[Becca_89]

Thank you so much everyone your comments brought tears to my eyes and have made me feel I have by far done the correct thing. If the post is on time she will recieve the letter today, im very anxious about it all. I will hopefully be able to update with a positive outcome soon. Either way, as youve said I will hold my head up high knowing I have done the best that I can for my son thank you xxx

 

[AP]

Oh for sure, well done hun. Don't panic - you've done your bit

 

[o0oCharlieo0o]

Yes hun what you done is very much the right thing, id want to know if i was having a grandchild and even if my son had told me already id really appreciate a letter from the baby's mum to know i was welcome to be part of the baby's life, you've done a very good thing and i hope you get a good outcome xxx

 

[Bevziibubble]

You have definitely done the right thing! They have the right to know

 

[charliekay]

Completely agree you have definitely done them right thing. Well done that must of been hard to do. Hope all turns out well x

 

[icklemonster]

Yes you have definitely done the right thing. My uncle chose not to be a part of my cousin's life (he got his gf pregnant aged 17 and couldn't handle it). My Nan was always grateful to be allowed a part in my cousin's life xxx

 

[cherrished]

100% done the right thing hun, a lot of grandparents would love the opportunity to be in their grand child's life, I think it's a very honest, kind and brave thing to do, xx

 

[tallybee]

I completely agree with the others hun you've 100% done the right thing, don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

 

[SparklesHeart]

You definitely did the right thing. Hope all goes well. Xxxx