have I done the right thing? telling my babies fathers parents?

[Yammas]

I just wanted to say I wish I was as brave as you are you have totally done the right thing by your child so they get to know their family.

My situation is slightly different me and FOB were friends with benefits but he's the same as yours wants nothing to do with LO so I don't feel that I could do the same as there was no commitment or relationship. I hope you hear back from his family and get the response you are looking for.

 

[LulaBug]

I hope you get a positive response. It would be lovely for that to happen. You definitely did the right thing

 

[Becca_89]

Well I want to say a big thank you to everyone for their positive words it honestly made me so proud and confident which I needed last night.

I was eating my dinner and had countless missed calls off the dad. I rang him back when I was ready and we spoke about things in depth for an hour and a half.
He explained how him and his mum haven't spoke for 2 months (2 months ago he told her it may be his- and he wasn't sure)
But last night admitted everything to her.
She wants to know her grandson, but is waiting for him to be 100% on his decision before she forces anything on him.
He explained to me how hes on antidepressents and lost his job because of how depressed hes been about it all. (His father is also very ill) and that he would want to think about his decision again if id give him the chance.
He couldn't apologise enough and got very upset.
He also offered to set up financial help for me and the baby from the start and offered to help me buy anything i need now.

So... im very glad that I did what I did! And i could of not spoke to him so confidently without all your kind words, thank you so much. Even if nothing comes from the phonecall last night, I now know that she knows and I know shes on our side, regardless if she makes the move to be in contact now or later. Xx

 

[Becca_89]

I just wanted to say I wish I was as brave as you are you have totally done the right thing by your child so they get to know their family.

My situation is slightly different me and FOB were friends with benefits but he's the same as yours wants nothing to do with LO so I don't feel that I could do the same as there was no commitment or relationship. I hope you hear back from his family and get the response you are looking for.

Hi Yammas,
Thank you, it was a very hard decision to make, but we are not in such a different situation. I had never met his mum before, as we had started off casual and built up to a relationship, but I don't know if anyone knew about me yet.
But I know this is the best thing i have ever done!
I found his mum on 192.com and sent the letter, where i introduced myself and the situation.

I think if you would like his mum to know aswell, you should go with your feelings and let her know As soon as I posted the letter a massive weight was lifted off my shoulder! Worth every nerve and heart pound. If you ever want to talk or have a copy of what I wrote you are more than welcome xxx

 

[became]

I'm so glad you got a positive response, and that you've managed to speak and clear things up with baby's dad. You're so brave, and 100% did the right thing. I hope everything works out well for you. x

 

[Yammas]

I'm glad you got good news hun x

 

[charliekay]

Glad all turned out well x

 

[LulaBug]

Yay! So pleased for you

 

[SparklesHeart]

Ah such good news. Glad you got a good reaction, and like you say, even if nothing does come of it, you know, and can tell your son when he's ok enough that you did what you could.
Xx

 

[bdb84]

I'm so glad you reached out to her!