sojourn
Soon to have 2 under 2
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I'm so tired and sad.
My husband and I have just gotten into it today. It turned from an annoying argument about him forgetting that my family is doing Christmas late (to make travel cheaper for the international folk), which interferes with a golf trip to a huge, epic fight.
The two things he said that hurt the most are
"given the choice between coming to our consistently disgusting house, and work, I'll always pick work"
When I pointed out that our house is "consistently disgusting" because he chooses not to do his share of the household duties, and that I begged him for help the last two weeks since I have been hurt (pulled muscle in my abdomen) he said
"because of your diet I don't feel any sympathy for your ailments"
I have been complaining, pleading, begging him to work a bit less so he can help me. I specifically said that I was sick of the bad-for-me restaurant choices I have had and that I really wanted him to do the dishes (1 of his 2 fucking household cleaning responsibilities) so that I could buy groceries and cook healthier food.
His latest thing was some half-assed, bullshit apology. When I told him I didn't want to deal with it and that we would handle it when he decided to come home to his shit-hole and his fat, lazy wife. (we've been doing this all via text)
His response was "I'm a miserable person and I'm going to be unhappy. I'm sorry. If you want to deal with me, you can, if you don't, I understand."
What kind of crap is that? I'm just devastated. I'm basically hysterical, the weekend is the only time I have to do homework. I'm going to fail my class if I don't get a substantial amount of work done tonight and I am basically paralyzed.
The most ridiculous part? I took a half-day from work today so that I could do homework. I felt guilty about how messy the house was, so I spent all day cleaning.
Also, I have gained less than 12lbs the whole time I've been pregnant. Granted, I was very overweight to begin with, but obviously my diet can't be that bad.
My husband and I have just gotten into it today. It turned from an annoying argument about him forgetting that my family is doing Christmas late (to make travel cheaper for the international folk), which interferes with a golf trip to a huge, epic fight.
The two things he said that hurt the most are
"given the choice between coming to our consistently disgusting house, and work, I'll always pick work"
When I pointed out that our house is "consistently disgusting" because he chooses not to do his share of the household duties, and that I begged him for help the last two weeks since I have been hurt (pulled muscle in my abdomen) he said
"because of your diet I don't feel any sympathy for your ailments"
I have been complaining, pleading, begging him to work a bit less so he can help me. I specifically said that I was sick of the bad-for-me restaurant choices I have had and that I really wanted him to do the dishes (1 of his 2 fucking household cleaning responsibilities) so that I could buy groceries and cook healthier food.
His latest thing was some half-assed, bullshit apology. When I told him I didn't want to deal with it and that we would handle it when he decided to come home to his shit-hole and his fat, lazy wife. (we've been doing this all via text)
His response was "I'm a miserable person and I'm going to be unhappy. I'm sorry. If you want to deal with me, you can, if you don't, I understand."
What kind of crap is that? I'm just devastated. I'm basically hysterical, the weekend is the only time I have to do homework. I'm going to fail my class if I don't get a substantial amount of work done tonight and I am basically paralyzed.
The most ridiculous part? I took a half-day from work today so that I could do homework. I felt guilty about how messy the house was, so I spent all day cleaning.
Also, I have gained less than 12lbs the whole time I've been pregnant. Granted, I was very overweight to begin with, but obviously my diet can't be that bad.