Having a negative thoughts day, help!!!

[Ferret]

Having a bad day today. Had really bad m/s up until today so panic has set in, convinced myself its all gone wrong again.
Keep checking to see if my boobs still hurt (they do a bit). Had a few stomach twinges (although I am constipated TMI).

Just can't get negative thoughts out my head. Had a scan at 7 weeks saw bub and hb but that was not enough to give me any peace of mind and have to wait until the 25th for my next scan.

Do your chances of a successful pregnancy increase after seeing hb???

Sorry to rant. xx

 

[starmum]

Hi,
Didn't want to read and run as I know exactly how you feel as I am the same.
I have got pg straight after my mc at 9 weeks in dec'09. I've not had a period in between.
I have read so much and researched so much as I am sure you have and all the lovely ladies here in the same boat.

I read the same things over and over but it never gives much peace of mind does it?
I am currently 5-6 weeks myself. I haven't had a scan as the EPAU won't do one till normal 12 wks because i have only had one mc.
So I'm looking to go private for a scan at 7-8 weeks just for some peace of mind.

To answer your question based on what I've read- YES the risk does go down after seeing a heartbeat at scans.
If one is seen at 8 weeks I read the chances of going to term then goes into the 90's.
So this is reassuring but as they're only stats and we're all different it doesn't take the worry away.

I am checking everytime I go to the loo, terrified of every cramp or twinge. I've had cramps every day since BFP now but so far no bleeding or intense pain so must just be uterus stretching.

My dad gave me some good advice and that is that whatever happens, you cannot change it. If a mc is inevitable then nothing will stop it and it's out of your hands- sad as it is. So he said why worry yourself stupid when you have no control over the outcome?
I think this makes sense- all those hours and days of worrying and what good does it really do in the end apart from scare you poopless?
I thought about this and when I think like this I find it helps me and calms me a bit.

Really all we can do is take it easy, eat and sleep well, take folic acid and vits and that's about it.

Next time you get a negative thought just tell yourself 'whatever will be will be' and take things as they come- the here and now only, no 'what if's' allowed- I'm going to be doing the same as of now.

It's great that you have seen baby's hb. Focus on this to keep yourself going.
Hope it all turns out well for you xx

 

[MrsGlitz]

I found I had peace of mind only for about 30 minutes after my early scan this time! I honestly don't think the worry ever goes but it does get a bit more bearable.

 

[lauralora]

scans never help me feel better either, they reassure me at the time and then too days later im back to being convinced the baby has died. i had a scan at 7 weeks also and apparently once you see a HB your chances of having a succesfull pregnancy do go up, and when you pass 8 weeks they go up even more. i have my 20 week scan on thursday which has lead to me having a negative thoughts week, im convinced something will be wrong, i no how your feeling, but we just have to believe the best, we have to!! xx

 

[Drazic<3]

Oh darling
How far along are you? My sickness peaked at 8 weeks and since I have gone over 9 weeks I have started to feel much better over this week which as scary as it is - is 100% normal as during the 8th week the placenta begins to take over control. Once the placenta is fully in control between 8-11 weeks, most women feel loads and loads better.
I know how hard it is darling, thinking of you

 

[im_mi]

Sweetie i know how you feel, i panic every time i realise i dont feel like utter crap. When we first started trying again, i remember praying that i would have an easy first trimester but now its here and bearable, i am praying that i feel horrible for the next 2 months just so i feel more reassured!

You arent alone sweetie i guess all we can do is try our hardest to stay positive as worrying isnt going to make our babies stick. I know its not that easy though. the chances of another m/c really drop after having seen the heart beat xxx

 

[Ferret]

Oh darling
How far along are you? My sickness peaked at 8 weeks and since I have gone over 9 weeks I have started to feel much better over this week which as scary as it is - is 100% normal as during the 8th week the placenta begins to take over control. Once the placenta is fully in control between 8-11 weeks, most women feel loads and loads better.
I know how hard it is darling, thinking of you

I am 9+3, that makes me feel better, I thought the placenta took over later than that so that's reassuring. Felt a bit icky this morning and starting again now but had strange twinges in stomach today but think I am reading way too much into everything.
The 25th (scan date) can't come soon enough.

Thanks for all you kind words, I know I need to relax and go with it but somedays it is impossible. Xx

 

[Ferret]

scans never help me feel better either, they reassure me at the time and then too days later im back to being convinced the baby has died. i had a scan at 7 weeks also and apparently once you see a HB your chances of having a succesfull pregnancy do go up, and when you pass 8 weeks they go up even more. i have my 20 week scan on thursday which has lead to me having a negative thoughts week, im convinced something will be wrong, i no how your feeling, but we just have to believe the best, we have to!! xx

Thanks. Good luck for your scan on Thursday. Everything will be fine I'm sure.

 

[Bingo]

I hope you're feeling much better this evening. I had a sad period last night worrying that all was not well. Sending you big cyber hugs and reassurance.

 

[Ferret]

I hope you're feeling much better this evening. I had a sad period last night worrying that all was not well. Sending you big cyber hugs and reassurance.

Thanks, bit up and down today but trying hard to stay positive.
Had a bad day, some ar**h**e at work and somehow managed to
find out I am pg and taken it upon himself to tell everyone and even
had the cheeck to say I was happy for people to know. Don't know where
he got that from or why he didn't ask me first. Makes it worse
as he knows about my m/c last year (thought he might be a bit more sensitive)
Hope your having a happy day today. Big hugs back.

Emma

x

 

[im_mi]

Oh my goodness!!! why on earth would anyone take it upon themselves to tell about someone elses pregnancy???? Oh emma, i am furious for you!!!!

 

[Ferret]

Just can't believe he did it, I'm not even friends with him. I'm just so upset that he has taken that decision out of my hands. The more I think about it the worse it seems.
Hopefully he will get what he deserves as my manager is taking it very seriously, don't even know how he found out as there was only a couple of managers who knew and they def wouldn't say anything.
You would think a man of 65 would know better than to gossip about something he knows nothing about.

Arghhh, so angry!!

 

[im_mi]

i am just.... im speechless! i cant believe someone would be so bloody stupid and callous! i hope your managers deal with this properly and reprimand him appropriately. its very, very unprofessional.