help can't decide whether to find out

[jenos]

hi i can't make up my mind whether to find out the sex of my baby or not. one minute i'm desperate to know the next i think i might like a surprise. i just wondered what people thought why did you find out or decide not to please help i only have 3 weeks left to decide

 

[lauren10]

I chose to find out because I'm entirely too impatient and have to know everything!! Plus it's a little easier to do some planning.

But either way is a surprise, right? I was really surprised on Monday!

 

[FirstBean]

I am going to find out as I am also to impatient and cant wait to find out

 

[Pops]

We found out and I was completley surprised by just how much it changed things.

We weren't having a baby anymore, we were having a Daughter, a little girl who now had a name....we have dreams for her and can imagine doing things with her.

It was also a hell of a lot to take in. I know what may not make much sense but it really was. We were both over the moon but it also took us a day or two to get our heads around it all (not because it was a girl, because it was a person) and I am not sure I would have best dealt with it when she arrived as would be dealing with the whole thing of having a newborn then too.

You still get the surprise, you just get it a little earlier!

There is a full count of when we found out in my journal if you want to read it, I think it conveys how we felt...

xxx

 

[starangel27]

we are not going to find out i really really want to surprise
at the time, otherwise i think i will end up been 2 organised.

xx

 

[Emmielou28]

I really wanted to find out the sex of my baby but my other half was adamant it should be a surprise and now that I have had the 20 week scan I am so glad I don't know. It will be lovely being told after labour whether I have a son or a daughter and my partner can be the one to tell me.

 

[kirstylm]

I was exactly the same as you hun before my 20 wk scan and as I couldnt make my mind up my hubby said that if im unsure maybe just wait for the suprise as I didnt want to be dissapointed and feel like i had made a mistake finding out!

So we decided to wait, I am the same as u and desperate to know but have spokent to mums and midwives ands they say the suprise is just such a lovely thing and i feel its part of the excitement of the labour!

I have a feeling ours is a boy but i will be happy either way! With our second one we have said we will definately find out though as then we would have done it both ways but I just feel it makes it more special not knowing with the first!

 

[lucy_x]

hmm, I did this for a few weeks before i found out, thinking how nice it would be to be organised and everything,
When i found out bubs was a girl, It was a massive suprise!.
But now im convinced they have it wrong. Iv spent weeks thinking what if they have it wrong, Not that it would be a prob if they did, i dont mind either way, But it would be annoying lol.

So iv just spent another £100 booking a 4d scan to see if they where right and to put my mind at rest.

It depends how much you would trust the sonographer . and how much of a worrier you are lmao

 

[aob1013]

Since i found out i was pregnant i always wanted to know what we were expecting!

Our reasons are:

1) We can bond with him/her
2) We can call the baby by their name Lillia/Leni, rather than; it, baby or nugget
3) I want to be prepared and choose colours etc

However, downside of finding out is that you know the sex, know the name, bought all the gender specific stuff - so there's no suprises IYKWIM x

 

[lauren10]

I totally agree with Pops...it changed everything I was feeling when I found out! I wasn't expecting that, but I'm so much more excited now!

 

[curioser_5]

We are finding out tomorow! So excited!!! I wanted to find out because there is no way i would be able to wait till bubs is born, and also i want to be able to buy pink or blue for the nursery/clothes etc....i just hope they dont get it wrong,lol!

 

[dizzy65]

we arent finding out as we want it to be a surprise.. It will be the best surprise when the put it in our arms saying what it is and we can see it for our selfs. and also at the hospital here they dont do gender

 

[tickledpink3]

I am a finding out tomorrow but only because my bf wants to. I suggest you have the sonographer to put the sex in a sealed envelope for you. So you can either open it later or just let it sit as a momento. Good luck to you!

 

[mommy2bej]

thinking about a surprise is always fun... but id find out because i tried doing the whole neutral thing to buy for the baby and all the cute things are for either boys only or girls only...i couldnt find out on my first ultrasound because the legs were crossed and i might not be able to get another one .. lol im about to scrape up the money and pay for another one myself..

 

[jul14o]

Argh! Was in same predicament. But OH adamant (what is it with these men eh ). Anyway had our 20 week scan yesterday and I was soooo tempted to find out. But looks like it is going to be a surprise. I know it'll be lovely on the day to find out but it's also good to be able to pick a name(rather than think of both names), get the nursery colours and baby stuff is so much nicer in pinks or blues. The only thing I keep telling myself is Id like to have 2, hopefully one of each. Also not too far apart, so aim to get as much unisex stuff I can.Esp expensive items like the pram, nursery furniture etc.. Ill get a few things for first few weeks in neutrals(babies grow out really fast anyway) and the rest of the stuff I can get once baby is born, after the first month.

 

[CameraGirl]

We always planned on neutrals regardless of what we had. The good thing is most babies (Newborns) will only be wearing light clothing at first, since they are being changed every couple of hours (and we are having a summer baby) so probably only onesies, we didn't get a conclusive boy or girl just a "might be a girl but..." so we figure the cute stuff will come after baby is born !

 

[Lara310809]

It's a big decision, and one that, if you choose to find out, you can't take back. If you find out, you know and the surprise is gone. That was the only thing keeping me on team yellow.

 

[Miss Hamilton]

We didnt know whether to find out so decided that if the legs were open then it wanted us to know but if the legs were closed and couldnt tell then it wanted up to wait...
So we had our scan yesterday, and just as the sonographer zoomed over the baby to show us it wa still there....
there was his manhood!! OH just blurted out 'its a boy!' Sonographer confirmed and we clearly were meant to know xx

 

[scottishgal89]

i didnt find out and im glad i never, it kept me going in labour cause i couldnt wait to know and it was a moment i'll treasure forever when i was told she was a girl and handed my little bundle. good luck

 

[blahblahblah]

I was very certain that I wanted to find out what I was having. I knew that in the latter stages I would start to speculate and probably end up believing it was one or the other - which would mean serious disappointment if I'd got it wrong.

I also am not keen on neutrally dressed babies. I don't like the idea that someone will look at a baby and not know if it's a boy or a girl, it would certainly drive me mad if people kept getting it wrong or asking all the time!