I was adopted when i was a few days old and have always known about my adoption. From an early age I have wanted to find my birth mother and over the years I have met with social workers etc to discuss this and the possible rejection if she decided she didn't want any contact with me. About ten years ago I made some contact with my birth grandparents through letters etc and they were able to give me some more information about my birth and the reasons behind my adoption. They did all of this behind my birth mothers back and after a few letters I have had no contact with them since.
Since giving birth and becoming a mum I have started to think more about my birth mother and wonder what she is doing and whether I have more family and also about the medical history of my family as when asked I can never tell docs etc if anything runs in my family such as cancer.
I know my birth mothers full name and also the name I was given when I was born (although my adoptive parents gave me a new name) as my birth surname is quite unusual I typed it into facebook earlier and my birth mother is on there. I am 100% certain it is her as I am the spitting image of her profile picture and the limited information I have about her matches her facebook profile.
I got such a shock and it was very surreal looking at her picture. Now I'm stuck as to what to do! Part of me wants to send her a message explaining all about my life and the other part of me is scared to do it. I totally understand her reasons for giving me up and understand she probably won't want to meet me but I just can't help but wonder if she ever thinks about me and wonders what I have done in my life. I know that if ever I had to make the choice I did then I would want to know what my daughter was doing.
Has anyone had any experience of contacting a north mother or advice about what I should do? My head is in a real mess right now x
Since giving birth and becoming a mum I have started to think more about my birth mother and wonder what she is doing and whether I have more family and also about the medical history of my family as when asked I can never tell docs etc if anything runs in my family such as cancer.
I know my birth mothers full name and also the name I was given when I was born (although my adoptive parents gave me a new name) as my birth surname is quite unusual I typed it into facebook earlier and my birth mother is on there. I am 100% certain it is her as I am the spitting image of her profile picture and the limited information I have about her matches her facebook profile.
I got such a shock and it was very surreal looking at her picture. Now I'm stuck as to what to do! Part of me wants to send her a message explaining all about my life and the other part of me is scared to do it. I totally understand her reasons for giving me up and understand she probably won't want to meet me but I just can't help but wonder if she ever thinks about me and wonders what I have done in my life. I know that if ever I had to make the choice I did then I would want to know what my daughter was doing.
Has anyone had any experience of contacting a north mother or advice about what I should do? My head is in a real mess right now x