HELP! I am FED up!!!

[Samiam03]

Every day it is the same shit...I spent 30 minutes getting DD to sleep and then i try to put her down and she wakes up and screams the moment I am not holding her. Repeat this process about 10 times and that is my day until DH comes home. I am going out of my fricken mind. She refuses to be in the baby carrier unless I am moving around constantly. She just wants me to basically sit on the couch all day holding her while she sleeps. Too bad I can't do this! I have another child that is getting totally neglected because of this crap. DD even freaks out when I try cuddling with DS AND her. And my house work takes forever to get done because DH doesn't do crap when he gets home and I obviously can't do it without a baby screaming hysterically and choking. She is 6 weeks and I am really going out of my mind to the point where I am considering putting her in daycare until she gets out of this phase! HELP!

 

[missk1989]

My lo does this too! He is nearly 4 weeks and has been doing it since day 3. Luckily my oh understand and does the cleaning and washing when he gets home from work. You should have a word and ask him to lend a hand or he will have no clean clothes left! Perhaps you could put your eldest in day care for a couple hours or maybe walk to the park. My lo seems to be ok being pushed around in his pram. It's the only time I'm not touching him.

 

[Soph n Chris]

I don't have any advice but I hooey it gets better for you soon...

 

[Kristin52]

It's not a phase. She's brand new. She's in an open place where as she was used to being inside of you. When she gets a little older, she'll become more secure. You have to ride it out I'm afraid. Goodluck.

 

[Geegees]

https://babycalm.wordpress.com/2012...y-your-newborn-is-only-happy-in-your-arms-30/

 

[LittleBoSheep]

i did nothing for the first 4ish months of his life but hold him! around the time they can be stuck in a bouncer/walker play with toys and look around at the world is the time you can start running and rushing to get maybe say the bottles washed or use the bathroom with out baby in hand! believe me baby will still cry and most likely before your done... but it feels good to get away for even those 5 minutes... if you keep baby in view it helps oh and when they get like 5-6 months it is so much easier i can stick him in the walker with toys on his tray and wash dishes, laundry, pull him to the living room to tidy up... then he'll cry because its time for diaper/bottle/nap. dont have high expectations for getting anything done lol

 

[flower01]

we had the same problem
i wore poppy in a sling in the end to get some house work done

i found tons of fresh air helps as well as swaddling and rolling up blankets at the side of the basket to make her more snug.

its getting better slowly......!

 

[mommy0629]

Have you tried swaddling her? How about white noise (there are a few baby white noise machines on the market that make womb sounds), something that you've worn that smells like you? It does get better and she's really young so it's not uncommon at all (read the article that "geegees" posted above).

My lo is 9 weeks and still needs to be swaddled and have white noise (I use the Sleep Sheep on the rain setting) and she still will wake up after a bit during naps and need to be cuddled back to sleep. Just today after a feeding she was sleeping lightly so I put her in her rock and play that we use for daytime sleep downstairs, I went outside to take out the trash and bring the dog in, get in the house and she's SCREAMING bloody murder! As soon as I picked her up she stopped and went back to sleep, so I made sure she was wrapped up in her blanket really well and put her back down and now she's sleeping. You just have to try a bunch of different things because every baby is different. Do you have a swing that goes side to side? See if she'll sleep in that for now (she's young enough that it won't cause a habbit)

 

[socitycourty]

Mine has been like this since the beginning! And shows no sign of letting up. My pediatrician said she's "high needs"

I use an Ergo (when she was tiny I used the Bjorn) so I could get shopping done. My DH is never around to help me so I had to get accustomed to doing things alone. Of course I have no other kids but I can imagine it's really hard.

Sometimes I am literally setting her down, putting on my shirt, running back to her, setting her down, putting on my pants, running back to her.....

It is hard but I love her and I try not to get frustrated

hang in there! do you have someone who can help you in the days just to hold your LO so you can get some things done with your other LO?

 

[socitycourty]

Oh and the swing is a godsend! I'm dreading the day she sits up on her own and can no longer use it

 

[mommytobe11]

i had a complete emotional breakdown last night because i feel just like you. i have no suggestion because i'm at a loss of what to do myself. and it upsets me when OH gets home and cuddles LO and he settles COMPLETELY and has even fallen asleep on his own. WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?! ugh!



but ps. every time i see you post, i imagine it's Daenerys Targaryen posting

 

[beanzz]

Why not ask your OH to help? Can you not relax and enjoy cuddles on the sofa with your baby and maybe reading to your other child? Then when your OH gets home from work he takes over the cuddles so you can get some housework done? I didn't do anything for the first few months, just sat cuddling and nursing LO because he wouldn't let me do anything else but I enjoyed having an excuse to relax, housework will be there later but our babies need us now, they'll be all grown up before we know it

 

[LeoLeah77]

I also had this problem. My LO wanted constant contact and attention. Some babies are like this for the first couple months. But trust me they do start to gain independence. She's 3 months now and she's happier, calmer, more secure and more independent. I can get a lot more done. She's happy in her bouncer chair. Have you tried a bouncer chair with vibrations? What about wrapping her in a top of yours that you've been wearing with a warm hot water bottle underneath her so that she feels like she's being held? Oh or get a baby carrier! Best things ever!

Edited: I got a v pillow when I was pregnant to sleep with. Putting my baby propped up on the v pillow with the sides close around her helped her calm down. She was comfy and felt like she was being held. It's always been safe as well. But to be safe I keep near her when she's on the v pillow

 

[smileygurl85]

I could almost have written this post! DH has started up school again so he's out 5 days/week (until 9pm on some of them) and for some reason when Daddy isn't watching him - Buzz REFUSES to be anywhere but in my arms. My wrist/arm are inflamed from lugging around the 8.5kg kid and a lot of times I find myself wandering around crying. I splurged about 6 years worth of birthday money to buy a Beco carrier (He wouldn't sleep in a ringsling, meitei or moby-wrap) and now at least I can put him on my back for short periods of time to get housework done (he prefers the front and screams his head off if he's in the back too long.)

Ohmygod my life has become a waking nightmare. A clingy screaming nightmare.

(Already talked to the dr. He claims I'm perfectly fine and the feeling will pass when the kid grows up... :-/ super helpful.)

 

[LeoLeah77]

i had a complete emotional breakdown last night because i feel just like you. i have no suggestion because i'm at a loss of what to do myself. and it upsets me when OH gets home and cuddles LO and he settles COMPLETELY and has even fallen asleep on his own. WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?! ugh!



but ps. every time i see you post, i imagine it's Daenerys Targaryen posting

This used to be my situation too. It's frustrating and upsetting. But I was breast feeding at this point and I couldn't settle her well because she could constantly smell the milk on me and it confused her into thinking she needed to be fed all the time. When I stopped breast feeding I noticed she was settling better with me than anyone. You're not doing anything wrong Hun x

 

[Aimee1003]

Swaddling for all sleeps including naps was instrumental for us. We introduced white noise and I started holding him longer before I put him down. Eventually we went to napping swaddled in the swing. This was a godsend!!!!

 

[Samiam03]

When she was born she hated being swaddled so I had stopped but I tried it yesterday on some of your advice and it actually worked! She stayed asleep when I put her down. Hopefully she does the same for me today! I need to get my sanity back. Thanks for your help.