Help Me Im Pregnant And Would Like Advise x

[fayexx]

Well Im 15 Going on 16 And Just Found Out Im Pregnant Im Still With My Boyfriend Of Nearly 3Years I Would Like To Keep It As I Had A Abortion Last Year..After That I Felt Awful..Now Im Pregnant Again Ive Told My Mum But She Doesnt Really Want Me Living There With Her Full Time With A Baby And My Boyfriend Still Lives With His Mum And Dad..Im Not Sure Where To Go My Boyfriend Has A Job But We Dont Really Have That Much Money Im Not Sure Where To Go For Housing And Things..
Any Advise And Help Would Be Great Thanks xxxxxx

 

[Serene123]

Where do you live? If you live in the UK go to the council?

 

[studentdad]

First of all, congratulations! There are lots of us out there with little money so you are not alone! If you are UK based, get along to the local job centre where they can help you with benefits etc. There are lots of thins you would potentially be eligible for but you need to start thinking now - the forms can be a bit of a nightmare.

Best tip i can give is call your local branch of citizens advice bureau - they'll be able to sit down with you and explain what you are entitled to and how to apply for it. Take heart, it is possible and I'm sure things will work out for you - good luck!

 

[sleepinbeauty]

if you're here in the USA we have plenty of programs to help you out as well. Check out WIC and see if you can't get anythign else.

Good luck and congrats!

 

[fayexx]

thanks im based in essex, Uk xxx

 

[fayexx]

I also dont want to feel like a ponce i dont want people to think i got pregnant on purpose for a flat/house and benifits xx

 

[nikky0907]

Nobody thinks that...

If you live in UK then you can go to the council.But I'm not sure if they'll give you a flat because you are a minor.Thats how it works in US(thats where I'm from).Here you have to live with your parents till you're atleast 18.

She wouldn't kick you out,would she?

 

[vicky9207]

im 15 n have a baby boy. i cnt get benfits till im 16. when r u due n when r u 16 cos if ur 16 before ur baby is 3 months u will get the £500 grant. you will also get child benfit and child support. i tink u will also get it back dated from when ur baby was born. my friend was 17 when she had her baby n she got. you could conact chalky on https://www.childrenslawcentre.org/contact.htm it a website that can tell ya about wat benfit u can get. hope this will help ya

 

[Mynxie]

congratulations.

Re housing, go to your local council, they should help - and call shelter (housing charity) they'll tell you what your rights are.

If you get the number for welfare rights team from your local council, they can help you find out about benefits that you'll be entitled to.

 

[Kayles1/8/08]

congrats

If ur mum hasn't chucked u out liek shes threatned to do..then she won't! she's just angry and shocked and is saying things without thinking.. i can gurantee if she felt that strongly about it.. you would have been put out ur house from the minute you told her.

People won't think your scraping off the benefit ppl... these things just happen!
I'm 18 and fell pregnant and wasn't working..still amn't and the council pays my rent etc... i dont care..
but you won't be entitled to benifits until ur 16+ and very unlikey council will give u a flat as u need to be 16+ to be a tennant.
Things always seem like its the end of the world at the beginning and everyones against you.. but your mum forgets she was once pregnant to! Just give her time and i'm sure ..since your not already chucked out..she will come round and love the baby just as much as you do !
This is ur first pregnancy ..its ur body and ur life.. dont let ur mum ur friends or anybody ruin it for u !!

x

 

[fayexx]

Thanks everyone for getting back this is just what i need some support and advise my mum wont kick me out but i understand what she means.. Im 16 in august but my boyfriends already 18 so im not sure what can happen.... xxx

 

[mBLACK]

Hmm well here in Canada, there are alot of homes + programs for young, teen mothers. Like there's a program where they set you up with an apartment, and give you money for food, but you have to live there until you're 18 + after 2 years they give you 5000$ worth of free furniture. It all depends on where you live.

 

[vicky9207]

Thanks everyone for getting back this is just what i need some support and advise my mum wont kick me out but i understand what she means.. Im 16 in august but my boyfriends already 18 so im not sure what can happen.... xxx

because ur 15 ur bf can get benefit 4 u i think. well thats wat i was told. look at my previous post about the children law website e-mail them n u will soon get a reply on wat u can do.

 

[BeckyBoo]

Whether your mum isn't going to support you or help you, there is stuff you can do.

As mentioned, go to the council and explain you are pregnant and you will be made homeless by your mother. They will talk to your mother, so if she doesn't want you at home with a baby, she'd better agree to talk to them.

I believe your boyfriend can apply for you, but if you give birth after you turn 16 there isn't a problem.

You might not beable to claim your sure start maternity grant until you're over 16 either BUT you can apply for this up until after 3 months after the baby has been born.

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

heya am 16 and 27weeks pregnant. im kinda in the same situation as you. i need to be re-housed so am having to work with connexions + housing people called the property pool. its hard but its not impossible. keep your chin up youl be a fab mummy, congrats on ur lil one. hope to hear from you soon xx

 

[leeanne]

Good luck with everything and I hope you find the assistance you require!

 

[toffee87]

One issue that needs bringing up is that your bf may be at risk with the law, if you're underaged! I don't want to panic you, I know he hasn't forced you to have sex with him, but it is something that will be brought up.

Congrats though Hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy. And good luck with finances etc

 

[vicky9207]

One issue that needs bringing up is that your bf may be at risk with the law, if you're underaged! I don't want to panic you, I know he hasn't forced you to have sex with him, but it is something that will be brought up.

Congrats though Hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy. And good luck with finances etc

im 15 n had my baby not that long ago me n my bf r still 2geter but when i was pregnant the police interviewed me n my bf n we both said we agreed to it and nothing happened after that my bf is 16 tho. the policeman said that if i was 14 then der could of been a big problem. that is over in northern ireland but i think its different in other places.

 

[Emmea12uk]

In Uk law, sex with a girl under 16 is illegal and consent is completely irrelevant - you might want to go to the citizens advice bureau before telling the social who the father is. They can't pass the information on, but the social can.

Dont want to scare you, but you need to know where he stands.