HELP!!! Reduced growth and AFI 32w scan- anyone had this?

[Sweet_Alida]

Hey ladies!

I gavee birth to baby girl at 08.05 Wed. Morning but didnt see her till yesterday morning. She is in the neonatal ICU and we get to see her for half an hour in the morning and half an hour in the evening. She is breathing on her own but is being fed through a tube. She was born 2.2 Kg but her weight has dropped now to 2.1. I have not bonded with her yet....I guess the fact that i cant touch her as the gown i wear has to cover my hands (i stll get iv meds) is not helping. Im trying to pump milk 3 times a day and only today managed to pump about 3ml. I cry everytime i walk into the icu unit, The midwives try to calm my fears as well as the doctor who seem to think shes doing very well. Im panicking all the time like a mental case. My doc said he thinks i have post natal depression, i dont agree at all. Im just very scared! I try to explain to everyone that if i had internet acsess i would go on B&B and the girls there would say that they totally get my fears andd most would feel like me in the same situation. Alex spent the least three hours trying to get me internet lol!

I understand your fears. My dd was early and she only weighed 5lbs 5oz, she dropped in the beginning too, I couldn't feed her for 24 hours. I wish they would let you hold your LO. That is when My fears finally left. My dd had to be on oxygen and IV fluids and more. So it was very scary. She spent 8 days in the NICU then came home with oxygen at 4lbs 12oz! So try not to stress and during the day I'd pump more than just 3 times a day to make more milk, my lactation specialist told me to pump every 3 hours during the day and every 4-6 hours during the night. That way when your able your milk is in GOOD and your LO will latch on better. Good Luck and congrats! What's her name? When do they think you will be able to hold her? Why can you not have skin to skin? As long as you wash your hands you should be fine. Good luck I hope they let you hold her soon.

 

[Sweet_Alida]

Hey
Just back from the hospital. Had my regulat CTG monitoring which went well. The Consultant I normally see was not there so I saw a registrar after waiting for ages! I have to say I wasnt particularly happy and gave her attitude.

Basically- C section booked for Tuesday when she will be 34 +6 days so effectively 35w. They are monitoring me now everyday until then to make sure she is ok HR wise and movement. I have had the steroid shot for her lungs to mature this morning and will do so again tomorrow. They do not test to check if they have matured in this hospital (I had to tell her about a test they could do that picked up two proteins- she said it was invasive and came with its own risks. I said not if your leaking amniotic fluid. She said, oh well it is contminated with mucus etc so it doesnt work. i said, actually it does as the two proteins are present ONLY in AF so it doesnt matter if the sample is contaminated! I hate smart arses!!) I was also further questioning on her as to why they are waiting if there is a problem of blood flow to her and then played the devils advocate and said- well if you can wait why not wait two weeks and she will be nearly 37 weeks.

Suffice to say they are not used to agro preggo women like me! She has booked me in on tuesday. There are 3 other C sections going in. I am third but may be done first as she is small and the paeditrician can have a look at her.

I spoke a little re BF to the MW and they do promote it here.. even if she is in special care. I will take my own bottles but I think they do provide special place and sterilisers too if I need. I also thnk they have private rooms so I may ask for one of those for immediate recovery.

They are thinking I will be in around 4-5 days so until the weekend. If she is strong enough, breathing on her own and eating on her own she will be allowed home. I am going straight to my mums then- get some TLC until I heal!

how are you today? I'm not sleeping too well either- I think we are at the stage where sleep is not going to happen too much!
Hope you are well xx

I'm glad they are watching you closely. I hope they give you a private room. keep eating your protein so that little one gets nice and big until tues. I'm glad they gave you the steroids! That will help a lot. I wish they would've given me the steroids, I still wonder if that's why she has the lung disease. I wonder if her body was trying to mature her lungs too fast and she over produced that protein?? It doesn't matter now, what is will be, she will be fine eventually but I still wonder??? They don't know much about her disease, so I will always wonder till they do know more. Sorry.....Got off track. I hope all goes well until Tues. and your LO stays nice and healthy!

 

[vickyd]

Thanks ladies for your input and advice! Today was a better day, the doctor took me off the iv meds so i could go into the NICU and have skin to skin contact.... I was also allowed to feed her with a bottle, she took 20 ml which is double what she took so far!!! I was so proud! The neonatal specialist said that when she will be eating 45 ml from the bottle they will let her come home!!!!!

Daisy, my LO at 34 weeks was in the 7th percentile growth and the placenta was just not doing its job anymore. I too thought the longer i kept her inside the better it would be but ive since realised that she would not receive any nourishment at all no matter how long she stayed inside. I now see with my own eyes that its much better for her in the unit.

 

[blessedmomma]

daisy- i dont know much about what your going through, but want to offer any support i can give anyways! hang in there hun, baby will be ok!

vicki- that is such great news! i bet she is just gorgeous! im so glad you got to feed her and hold her. she is eating very well, she must be a fighter! what a tough cookie what is her name?

 

[Minimin]

Hey all.
Just to update - admitted in and having C section in the morngin. Senior consultant not wanting to leave it longer. CTG are fine so thy r keeping an eye on me and will do op in morn. Was hoping she would have a few more days to ripen bit please think of her and send her lots of positive vibes xxxxx

 

[blessedmomma]

wow minimin! was not expecting that! its really good you have been running around getting everything ready. you will get to see your baby tomorrow, yay!

try not to be too anxious, that LO will be fine i will be thinking and praying for you and your family

i woke up last night with some really bad BH contractions and today i am losing my plug! we toured our hospital today and i feel more ready to go. just a matter of time!

 

[vickyd]

Minimin thinking of you and your lo!!!! I know how scared you are but klnow that its for the best and everything will be alright!!!

Blessed sounds like youll be joining us very soon!!! Good luck!!

I still havent picked a name yet!

 

[blessedmomma]

vicki- cant wait to see some pics when you get some and hear what name you and DH finally settle on...

how are you feeling now?

 

[vickyd]

Today ive allowed myself to be happy and optimistic! you guys dont know me very well as i stuck to one thread that i was a part of will ttc after my losses, but i didnt allow myself to enjoy this pregnancy at all as i was scared that id loose her too. I stupidly thought i needed to protect myself from another heartbreak...The first 3 days here in hospital i pretty much cried every few hours. Today i allowed myself to celebrate that she ate 20 ml from my bottle. I havent cried all day! I guess what i realised is that ill be heartbroken if something happens weather or not i allow myself to bond with her.
physically im doing ok, in pain but who gives a shit????!!!!

 

[Wispyshadow]

Minimin: I will be saying prayers for you and the baby. It is nerve wracking but will all be worth it in the end. BIG HUGS!!!!!

VickyD: Hooray for 20ml!! That is awesome She is on her way and sounds like things are going great. It is good that you are allowing yourself to celebrate. It really is good to celebrate her little victories I bet she will be home before you know it.

 

[daisyduck]

Thank you for your comments ladies. Can any of you advise as to whether the blood flow and growth may improve by the next scan, or once it starts to drop in that the way it continues... I'm going to email my consultant too as I can't keep worrying like this for the next 3wks!

Also, good luck to minimin for tomorrow - i hope everything goes perfectly for you!!

Brilliant news about your lo beginning to bottle feed vickyd!! Hope she is well enough to come home soon and that you can allow yourself to enjoy her.. I know it is so hard when they are in nicu and have so may other people around

And blessedmomma sounds like it won't be too long for you now!!

xx

 

[blessedmomma]

daisy- i wish i could help you out but dont know much about it. i will be praying for you though and miracles happen every day if you believe!

vicki- im so glad you are letting yourself enjoy her and fall in love. im so glad you can feed her and bond with her. its so very important. your doing such a great job being a mommy, keep it up. she will be home in no time!

 

[Wispyshadow]

Daisy: I'm not sure either if placental blood flow will improve once it has started to show deficient signs. I will be praying for you and baby. I would definately call and ask questions.

 

[Minimin]

Sending u lots daisy. I'm not sure how these things work. I did ask about my stuff & the chancesif things getting better. The consultant said thyroid had not seen anything. Thus was primarily the Doppler study where they monitored the blood flow to her brain and cord. Different to your situation. I know. Good luck hunnixx

Afm- waiting for dh to get here, take a shower & then get in gown boost later f I vet. A chance. Or once lil one is here.

 

[daisyduck]

Thank you again ladies. My consultant has emailed back this morning and asked me to go in tomorrow for him to check things over himself so fingers crossed!!

Hope all is well for everyone else, and I look forward to seeing your updates on here!

xx

 

[blessedmomma]

daisy- glad your getting some answers!

minimin- i just got up, its 9:30am here. im sure you have already gotten your section by now. i hope you and baby are doing just great! cant wait to hear how things went and see some pics!

 

[Sweet_Alida]

Minum just wanted to send you some Your going to do great today and so is you LO. Get your rest and I can't wait to see pics!

Blessed, how are you doing this morning? i hope your LO is still hanging in there. It'd be great if he could cook a little longer!

 

[blessedmomma]

thank you! he is doing great and i am too. on my way to church right now. havent been for a couple of weeks since i was put on bedrest, but missing it so think im gonna go but take it easy there...

 

[Sweet_Alida]

Daisy, I hope you get some answers soon.

Blessed, Just take it easy. church is a great place to lift your spirits.

 

[Wispyshadow]

I went to church this morning and it was reallly awesome. I had been so alone and it was so uplifting and nice to be around my church family.