help with the motivation please

[skittlewatson]

Hiya, ive two young children (2 yrs and 9months) and since being pregnant with my first ive piled on weight,never was overly slim but a nice size 12/14. Im now an 18and just been to get a new contraceptive pill, the dr was so lovely but he said with my bmi so high i need to loose weight or he cant give me any more pills in 3 months time as im right on the edge of not being allowed them 😓 i started slimming world but cant get into it. I also have to loose weight as we want to try for no.3 mixdle of next year (yes we are mad lol) but i dont want to be a fatty this time and have the midwife naggging all of the time. Even with all the reason to do it and stick to it,one thing knocks me back and im eating crap 😓 its like i dont have a switch in my head to stop me!! Im very lonely at the mo and im often alone all day with the kids without talking to other adults until my hubby gets home and this just makes me want to eat. I do alot of walking with the kids and a biig heavy double pushchair up amd down hills so i know ive got the 'exercise' bit ok.

 

[seoj]

Eating is the hardest part! Least for me it was-- I lost some weight through excercise, as I love it- and do it often- but eating, that was harder. I did little by little- but it wasn't until I tracked calories that I lost the rest of the extra weight I'd been carrying around for years! Having LO was my motivation for sure!

I use loseit- but there is myfitnesspal and many others. You tell it how much to lose each wk- I only did 1lb as I knew more would make me insane! And then you log food/workouts and eat accordingly... and tbh, it was hard, but not AS hard as I'd made it out to be. Now I used it to maintain (as I cannot be left to my own devices for too long! lol). Seriously though-- I also sub processed sugar treats for homemade ones with less or clean sugar... find healthier snacks that fill me up etc... lots of protein, veggies, fruit... but if I want to indulge one night- then I save up some extra calories during the week for it

 

[Dinah93]

Scientifically speaking loosing weight is predominantly about food intake, toning and health are governed by exercise. Exercise will often make you hungry, and give you a false sense of having burned more than you have ad ending up overeating all you've burnt or more. So while exercise is great to reliably loose weight you need control over your food. Different things work for different people, and if slimming world doesn't work for you try something else. Diet clubs work as diet not a lifestyle change, and once you go back to eating normally your habits haven't changed and most people gain again - the only way these clubs make money is people going, if they worked for everyone we'd all go once, loose it, and be healthy for life and they'd be out of business! For my hubby Harcombe diet works, for me it does nothing. For me personally myfitnesspal does the job, where I track everything to the calorie is the only way to be honest with myself on loosing weight. It's not easy, and willpower is the crucial factor no matter what plan you follow. You have to want to loose weight more than whatever snack is in your hand, I always ask myself that 'do you want to be thin more or this can of coke/mars bar/snack' etc, most times I put it down but occasionally I really do need a treat!

 

[BlueWater]

I wrote this long post, then clicked on "go advanced" and it all got deleted Merry Christmas BTW, and here goes the message again..

What I found worked for me is going cold turkey and cutting out all the crappy food. Initially its hard, but then after few weeks it gets easier.
For me it was eliminating crisps, chocolate, cakes, biscuits, sugary drinks etc. and I actually got to the point where I no longer craved this food. In fact I could have been sitting in a room with bars of Twirl and I would not be tempted to even touch the pack!!

I found making easy swaps helped, sugary breakfast cereal swapped with shredded wheat or plain weetabix etc; lunch time pudding of muller rice swapped with a healthy yoghurt.

I started to read the nutritional labels, with a focus on the per 100g.
IF: sugar had more than 15g per 100g; fat had more than 17.5g per 100g; saturates had more than 5g per 100g; salt had more than 1.5g per 100g
I would either measure the food (e.g. spread on bread) or save it for a 'one-off' time. (Although if I got 100% say in the shopping I simply would not buy the food) (P.S. this includes reading the label for drinks)

Of course there is space for manoeuvre, for example I have take out night one night a week, but then I have to use willpower to ensure I dont over indulge say on a cake and I dont over eat.

Remember you can eat as much of fruit and veg as you want (You'd probably get full before you can eat too much)

I think it'll help if you start thinking about the nutritional value of food. And one more, if you do want chips, it's healthier to cook them in the oven!

I hope that helps, and I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm teaching you to suck eggs.

Let us know how you get on.