He's Drinking More

[xarlenex]

I'm not saying John's an alcoholic yet, but when we were together he barely drunk, maybe once every couple of months. Since we've split up he was put on anti-depressants and he's started drinking several times a week. I've spoke to him in the morning, once at half 10, another around lunch time and he was still drunk from the night before, or he'd got up from a drunk night and started drinking again. I don't want him to become an alcoholic. I want Kyle to know his father, the thought of me having to not let him see him really kills me

I told John that if he lets his drinking carry on this way or get worse then he will lose Kyle, so he shouted at me saying I hadnt to threaten to take away the only thing he had left. I wouldnt say i was threatening, more..making him aware I wont let kyle go with an alcoholic..Nothing up with that?

I hate this situation. I hate it more because I know John's only going this way cause we split. Feel like its all my fault

 

[Mamafy]

Of course its not your fault hun

John will hopefully realise, in time that he's heading down a slippery slope and that he'll want to change.

I would say only interact with him when he's sober, theres no reasoning with anybody drunk and then explain that as Kyle gets older he'll become more aware of whats going on and no child wants to see their parent drunk

Does John visit you to see Kyle or does he take Kyle. I would kinda be slightly concerned myself if I knew anyone, no matter who they were; were in charge of my baby and were drunk

I hope this is easily sorted hun but none of this is your fault xxx

 

[xarlenex]

He takes Kyle, but he lives with his parents and his sister and his mums always in and I know that she would never allow him to have Kyle when hes been drinking. He just doesn't want to admit he's going that way. Even his best mate said to his mum he was worried about John's drinking! Yet he still says theres nothing up with it!!