I don't know that it's inappropriate to suggest that someone explore their anxiety issues on a deeper level. The OP has expressed extreme concern about a number of fairly benign issues (water, pillows...) to a level that that might exceed run-of-the-mill pregnancy nerves, and be interfering with her happiness.
If someone was describing symptoms of hyperemesis, it would not be inappropriate to suggest they might benefit from medical attention. I interpret Amygdala's suggestion as coming from a similar place of concern, not judgment.
I agree, I don't think it's inappropriate. I think it comes from a very caring place to suggest looking deeper into someone's anxieties/fears whilst pregnant. Starlight likely has no real psychological issue, however it might benefit to just talk with a 3rd party counselor (or something of that sort), so she could start enjoying her pregnancy rather than worrying about it so much.
I had extreme anxiety with my 2nd pregnancy and I wish I had seen a counselor or someone to talk to because not only had my anxiety affected me deeply but it affected my relationship with my husband alot too in a negative way. That anxiety resulted in sever PPD after baby was born (not saying this will happen but knowledge is power).
I think it's a great suggestion to seek help when anxiety gets the best of us. Only positive can come from it and no one is suggesting a psychological issue, just a means to help out.
