Holding baby to much??

[winterbabies3]

I rarely put dd down even when she is sleeping. Everyone I know has made the comment "oh, you shouldn't do that." Is it really that bad? Is it going to make her cling to me later? I did this with my boys too and yes they are definitely "mommas boys" but did I really do that to them? I have even thought about getting a moby wrap or some type of carrier for her, but I know I'll never hear the ending of that

 

[Rainbow82]

Those sorts of comments make my blood boil, no it won't make your LO super clingy later on its likely she will be a confident, independent little girl. I wrap my LO even now. Nobody ever regrets carrying their baby too much. Ignore them and enjoy the cuddles while you can before you know it she will be crawling and into exploring everything.

 

[lau86]

Not at all! If she's clingy it's her personality not because you held her

 

[Becky1987]

They stay little for such a short period of time I would hold onto them whilst ever you can! I hate it when people make such stupid comments. I honestly don't think you can spoil a baby or hold them too much. Enjoy your baby cuddles and ignore the people who make these comments. X

 

[linzylou]

I hold dd2 all the time, too. I did the same with dd1 and now she won't sit still for cuddles so hold that baby as much as you can! I think I would regret it more if I didn't hold them enough.

 

[Hopespring]

Hold on to that baby as much as you can! I held, carried and cradled my first daughter who is now 3 and she is too big to fold up on my knee now. She is a confident little girl who still loves to snuggle up with me. They are so small for such a short time. I had a moby wrap for my last little girl and I also have one for this one and I have a buckle carrier for when she is bigger.

 

[winterbabies3]

Thanks girls! Your right, she won't be lil forever.

 

[Blu10]

I always worry about holding my baby too much incase I make him clingy. I try to put him down when hes asleep

 

[Cangaroo]

All the studies show that the more you hold your child, the more secure they will become, leading to a less clingy child in the long run. DD2 spent literally the whole of her first 3 months physically attached to me (or her dad, but mostly me), and continued to be exclusively worn whenever she wasn't wanting to play after that. She started nursery at 10 months and settled so quickly. She happily runs off to play with other children or plays by herself wherever we are, and is full of confidence. Everyone who tells you "you're making a rod for your own back" etc is wrong, plain and simple. Enjoy the cuddles!

 

[jessmke]

I always put my 6 week old daughter down to sleep because she actually settles faster when she is laying down than when I am holding her. I actually wish she liked being held more, but I feel like she gets frustrated with me if I shift positions or move and it disrupts her sleep. She can't seem to fall into a deep sleep when I am holding her, so I always lay her down in her pack n play to have her naps during the day and in her moses basket at night.

 

[Rainstorm]

I held my ds a lot, and so did everyone else in the family. He's 2 and he still wants to be held a lot (which I love doing, yet it does get tiring cos he weighs a ton! lol). I'm trying not to hold dd so much but still give her loads of kisses and hugs so she doesn't feel she lacks contact.

 

[Septie]

Ignore and enjoy! I loooove holding my last baby. Will miss it.

 

[pinkpassion]

I held dd1 all the time, literally did not put her down. She's the most confident kid in her class per her teachers. She loves cuddles and is an amazing kid. I'll be doing the same with dd2.

 

[Bumpontherun]

I couldn't put down my DD1 for the first 3 months - she wouldn't sleep except on me- it was exhausting. Fast forward 6 years and she's a gorgeous, cuddly, confident little girl- there is definitely no harm in holding your baby as long as you are enjoying it too

 

[Bevziibubble]

These comments really annoy me too. You can't spoil a baby. We hold DS a lot of the time but he does go in his rocker ok sometimes too. My daughter was the same. I think babies just like to be close to their parents after being all safe in the womb for nine months

 

[MindUtopia]

You can never hold a baby too much. It's truly the best thing you can do for them if they are happy with you. My daughter was always in my arms until she became mobile. She slept on my chest or in a wrap for every nap until she was 8 months old. She literally was with us constantly until she was 4 months, never sleeping upstairs on her own, we bedshared until she was 2+ years. Contrary to what a lot of people will say - especially older generations - holding them lots won't make for a clingy kid. It's actually the opposite. The more secure they feel and the closer to you they on when they're little, the more confident and independent they'll be when they get older. My daughter is 3 now and incredibly confident, outgoing and independent, almost never clingy. When we're out with other kids her age, I really see the difference between her and the ones whose parents too a more traditional 'don't make a rod for your own back' approach. They might have had to do less holding with babies, but they often have to deal with more behavioural issues later on. Also, I just found it was so much easier to hold her or lie down and sleep with her too. I got to relax or get some work done on the computer or got a nap with little stress which was great.

 

[Teri7489]

Don't listen to that nonsense. Cuddle your baby til she is fighting you off to go through the high school gates! I held my daughter day and night, let her sleep on my chest, and still co sleep now. She is still an independant, confident cheeky wee lady who simply adores her mummy. It has no stopped her playing with other kids, sitting with other family member or joining in things. My son isn't a fan of being held when sleeping so I miss his little cuddles. Good job he loves being snuggled the rest of the time. Mummy's should have their babies with them! Xxx

 

[winterbabies3]

You've made me feel better girls! For years I have heard the reason why my son is the way he is,is because of me smothering. Oh well, I will keep on smothering

 

[charliekay]

I'm always cuddling and rocking my DD I also have the moby wrap which we use every day! She has reflux and being in the wrap helps to settle her. She loves to be close to me and I also get a lot of comfort from having her close all the time. A happy baby equals a happy mama. Ignore what anyone else says....she's your baby not theirs!!

 

[Eleanor ace]

I held my DS all the time when he was a baby. A few people told me that I'd make him super clingy. He turned out to be very independent and the same people told me that it was because I'd held him so much he was rebelling and wanting his own space . When I had my DD1 I got a few of the same comments and I just informed them that I firmly believe that loving my child won't damage them, that in fact all research shows that responding to your babies need for security, comfort and touch is a goo thing and sets them up for all manner of benefits through life (reduced risk of anxiety, separation issues, a sense of self worth and confidence) so I would in fact take every opportunity to cuddle my tiny infant. I haven't had any comments this time .